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Both my wife and I like being tied down, or up for that matter. Restraining her on the bed so that she can't move, being able to explore in the way I want, not giving her any choice, gets us both going like bunny rabbits. Mix in a blind fold, a flog, ice and some hot wax and I'm in heaven! The other night Mrs D and Playmate tied me blindfolded to the bed and "punished" me for three hours with a selection of ice, flogs, and candles. The build up of pain and pleasure was intense! Lately I've begun learning Shibari(Japanese rope bondage/art). Tieing someone up is such turn on. Last Friday on a date I tied up Mrs D and the wife. Both of the other couple are photographers so they took pictures of the entire process. Incredible! I posted a few of the pictures on our SLS and Kasidie profiles. I attached a PG pic of one of our playmates.

Thank you everyone for your support. I really wrote that out for me as a public declaration and that is totally reinforced by your replies of support...thank you so much! To answer your specific question NJBM, no I did not. I had several considerations leading to that choice and those are below: Despite ED drugs being available and often recommended through conversations here and with our long time friends...I chose a long time ago to do this on my own. For me I know inexplicably that this is a mental issue. Therefore I chose to work OUT the problem rather than work AROUND the problem. My main consideration was that if I worked AROUND the problem I would be putting myself and others in situations under false pretenses. Now many have argued that a little success may have bolstered me enough to belay those problems thus tackling the situation in reverse however I maintained that for me...my choice...was to deal head on with the problem. In the end I am very happy I did not use ED drugs because quite frankly I enjoy the fact that my body has it's own mental barometer. At times there are things I do not know I do not know going on in my head and that little guy is a great indicator that I have something I need to talk about. As it turns out I have learned one overwhelming lesson through not using ED drugs. Ironically a lesson in chemistry. I have been trying to swing way too often with girls that I was fundamentally "attracted to looks wise" but had very little, not enough or no chemistry with. I have been telling myself that just because they were "hot" I should want to fuck them. For me, I have learned that I need MUCH MORE than a hot body. I have learned this ABOUT MYSELF...and it has nothing to do with the girl...which is a huge breakthrough for me. Why? Because now it allows me conscious choice in who I take off my pants for and how often. There are girls I don't want to fuck and I know it now. There are girls I will fuck once in a while and then need time for that chemistry to rebuild. And there are girls that I am hot for CONSTANTLY. The only thing that changed is now I realize that I HAVE THE CHOICE and now I fully understand THE IMPETUS OF THAT CHOICE! What's more is I can openly admit to myself and others exactly where I am at...something that was sorely lacking for me in the past. So thanks for asking that question...it gave me a chance to explore something a little deeper out in the open!