Totally inside. I HATE condoms. Worst thing that ever happened to sex. And on this subject, what I hate even more than condoms is the hypocrisy surrounding their use. Swingers (especially swinger men) profess openly how adamant they are about condom use. They openly criticize anyone who even so much as hints a preference for bareback, they call barebackers “stupid”, “dangerous”, “ignorant”, and a variety of other words I’m sure you’ve all heard (and probably used). But … get them away from their wife and they ALL go in bareback if the woman takes it that way. At swinger parties when the guys notice that I’m taking it bareback, they wait for their wives to get occupied in another room, then make a bee line for me. And these are the same guys that pontificated and lectured about the “stupidity” and “recklessness” of bareback.
I never actually tell anyone not to use a condom. If a man reaches for one, I never tell him not to. But I never have to. During the “approach” to intercourse I’ll simply put slide bare cock between my labia. If his wife is right there he will back up and reach for the condom with an annunciation like “oh … just let me get a condom” like a B actor trying to make sure the last row hears his only line in the play. But if his wife is out of eyeshot, those hips push forward and that cock is in the guts bare. And this is by far the general rule – rarely is there any exception. Hypocrites!