To be brutally honest, ignoring all the other issues, we would never even consider swinging with you given a list like that. No anal is fine, lots of people don't like anal sex. No oral is a bit of an issue, because lots of people enjoy that, but it's not a game breaker. No foreplay... as far as I'm concerned, we're done talking. It sounds like all she wants is for someone to get on top of her, thrust away until he finishes and leave. Honestly, that is just boring. Swinging is sex for fun. If you're not going to have fun, why do it?