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Because, unless it is a double wide, they won't be in the room. It's also rather unfair to try to switch the question around. Swinging alone can be considered possibly bad judgment if you think of STD risk or getting outted for some like teachers. Should they not swing? What I see is more of a "icky" vibe by people, which as I said I can understand, but cloaking it as its somehow bad for kids seems like trying to justify a preference somehow.

Fantasies can be overwhelming in their persistence, so much so that anyone in the way can seem to be operating with less than pure motives. I wonder if your charges of denial and deflection mean something like that is going on here. It certainly seems a little adversarial, which doesn't strike me as a useful tack with the person you most want to enlist in fantasy fulfillment. You're going to have to talk about your fantasy in the car or in the kitchen and then really hear the answers you get, not as from someone thwarting your desires, but as from someone with her own desires and fears.

Dictionary.com jeal·ous·y [jel-uh-see] Show IPA noun, plural jeal·ous·ies for 4. 1. jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself. 2. mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims. 3. vigilance in maintaining or guarding something. 4. a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood. Can be confused: envy, jealousy (see synonym study at envy). You can believe me or not, but I don't recall ever being jealous that Dave was with another woman. There have been other emotions, but I can't recall a time I've ever been jealous. Our first time, you'd think there would be jealousy. There wasn't. I was in awe, however. I LOVED watching him with her. It was like a birds-eye view of what I'd been missing. It was just so cool to watch him in action. I have to admit, I really wasn't paying any attention to his playmate. I have been frustrated at times because he's having a helluva time with her and my partner can't seem to get things started. Maybe it is more envious-ness (which as stated above, can be confused with jealousy) I was feeling. There is a whole gamut of feelings one goes through when swinging. I've been "proud" that he's given some women some mighty fine times. I think in the back of mind, "Yeah, he's mine and I get that ALL the time!". Happy is another emotion. I'm pretty much happy all the time, though. My greatest emotion is love. I love that he enjoys himself. Isn't that why some of you swing? Dave isn't my rival. He's my partner and I love him. I wouldn't be jealous of him because he's enjoying himself. That's what we got into swinging for. For each of us to explore and have fun. Let him have a good time with a blond, a redhead, or a brunette. He's never been unfaithful. I've just never had a reason to be jealous. He's always going to come home with me. I'm the lucky one that gets to pick up his dirty underwear off the floor, clean the toilet after he's used it and clean up after him in the kitchen. What more can a woman want?