Long ago when we first started, not only did I fall for guys/couples/fake couples who do what Chicup mentioned, we both got worried we would not be good enough for others to play with.
We should have dieted, exercised, shaved our genitals, dyed our hair etc etc to be accepted but we talked it over, through tears and decided we do not care what random strangers think. We are who we are and we can and will go to parties and play with each other and see others playing and if that is all we do, that's good enough. (It's actually super hot and exciting!)
That was many many partners ago for both of us. Maybe not giving a shit is attractive. Maybe we just found others who like fun, giving, friendly people.
Go to some parties to be together. Don't try to play. Just fuck each others brains out in new, fun places at parties.
People will want to get to know you.