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before my partner and I did anything rash, we did some bedtime reading together. the book we used was called the threesome handbook - a practical guide to sleeping with three. it answered almost all the questions we had and was a great conversation starter as to exactly what we both wanted. it can be brought on amazon! hope it helps! good luck!!

There are not many accidents in what we say . ( taking one for the team) he said that on porpuse. . There are some really smart people here that are experts in manipulating others. By him saying what he did, he is driving a wedge between you and them. In essence one is trying to break the couple into a single, I have seen this before. I would not play with that couple again. It is unfortunate that he did that. It had to hurt hearing that. When we play we play as a couple. You either like us enough to treat us with the respect that we give you, or we do not play. When we play we put each other first. Yes there are differences in outward looks, but it is the personality that makes the person or couple. As for taking one for the team is a overused statement that is demeaning and hurtful. It would be better if we did not use that term. Its hard to have the same attraction between four people, hell even in a couple's relationship there is a difference in attraction. I know I like my wife more than she likes me. We are just different when it comes to desire. I am hard pressed to compete with a man that has a 9 inch nail as my wife is hard pressed to match the looks of a woman that is younger than herself. We swing to meet new couples and experience new techniques. We do not do this to ever rip on another couple and judge them. I live by a model to do no harm. In fact I feel best when I am in a mutual admiration type of relationship. Life is hard enough without hearing crap like I am taking one for the team. Just saying taking one for the team is wrong it lessons the humility between participants and just causes too much unneeded strife. Dont take on for the team. Make a new experience and see what you can glean for a new wonderful couple. Lizard.

Our late teen daughter asked how come she hadn't seen some (swinger) friends over for a while. I told her we had a disagreement and weren't getting together for a while. She wanted the "details" which of course I refused to give. She then said something to the effect of "I don't care if you are screwing them what happened". (In all fairness they were friends and previous employers of hers as well as their kids were friends which made her ask.) I was blown away but just asked her where she had gotten that idea from. I thought we had always covered our tracks pretty well. Kids are a lot more observant than we give them credit for.

I have no problem at all with somebody, male or female, being bi-sexual. I do find problematic the many declarations that people are bisexual and just don't know it or do not want to admit to it. If I had a dime for every time I have read it in these forums, I would be wealthy.

That sounds so fun. I want to do that so badly but I never find a DJ that I consider attractive. Ugh! But one day I will… Hugs and Hissessss, Maria