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An important question, and one that transcends the LS. Marriage is a social contract, love is something else again. The attributes that seem to be shared by all happy LS couples that we have run into are two in number: (1) They are in life's adventure together. They always have each other's back. That doesn't mean they don't play hard and play separately. But it means there is never ambiguity about the importance of their primary relationship. Each speaks glowingly of the other. (2) The happiness and pleasure of the spouse always takes priority over their own needs/wants/desires. Compersion rules. Show us that couple, and you have shown us a pair that we want to spend time with.

We see 800 to 1000 "Swingers" each and every week. There is not a night that goes by that I can't point out a couple as you have described. One or the other that is there because they are going along. You may be surprised to know that it is not just the women that are going along though. Many times it is the man that is bending to his wife's wishes. We have known couples that this is the case and they have ALWAYS ended in divorce. Can't think of a single exception. Glad you are seeing it and hope that you both make the decisions that are right for the both of you.