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Not at all a dumb question! Please don't worry about that kind of thing- ask us whatever you want. In my experience thus far, I have seen lots of married couples in the lifestyle, and some in committed relationships. The hoped-for thing with married couples is that it does make a marriage stronger, because of the improved communication, the demonstration of trust, and the shared adventure. That does not always happen, and I've seen some couples who I desperately wish, for the sake of their relationship, would stop swinging. In many cases, a successful couple in the lifestyle will have built a solid relationship foundation before they started swinging. I am not sure how successful relationships generally are when swinging is a component from the very beginning. And I do have some of the concerns for you that GoldCoCouple mentioned. But I also know there is more than one way to skin a cat!

First off, welcome to the Swingers Board! There are a couple of promising signs there: the couples massage and her feelings about that, and the fact that you have both talked about and agreed that watching others have sex would be hot. Both of those show she may be open to the idea, but most importantly, it's that you two have opened up the lines of communication on that. That communication is by far the most important thing, because as others have said, as some point sooner or later it comes down you are just going to have to ask the question directly and have a conversation about it. To your other question, yes, I think a good swingers club would be the perfect place to start. Just go with no expectation other than having a fun night out together and start off slow just by watching and learning and talking to other people. That will speed up the progression of you both getting comfortable with things and will help you make a good informed decision before you take that final step. I'd recommend going to a club that is couples-only or go on couples night (usually Saturday) when if single males are allowed, they are allowed in limited numbers. Good luck and have fun!

So enthusiastically switching between the women, pounding your chest, and declaring yourself a rockstar is out? Next time I guess....

We are looking forward to visiting Ibiza this summer as part of a cruise!

Y'all will have a great trip, Fundamental Law! Rent a couple of mopeds and ride the twisty roads. It's been a long since I lived there (1974-5). I imagine the island has undergone many changes since my last visit (1980). I used to get my mail at Wauna's Stage Door Bar in the town of Ibiza, but I can't imagine it might still be there. It was run by an Australian couple. Have a great trip! I envy y'all!

I would say in our community a large majority are married, a small number in long term relationships, and very few just dating.

If you can do it, more power to you! Use new condoms for each woman! Someone has to show the way!

As a single male and going up in age I try to stay as healthy as possible. I don't drink or smoke and exercise regularly. So that doesn't happen to me. A woman I played with told me before that I was one of the few who actually got hard. I chuckled and thought this woman is hot how can any straight male not get hard,so its not just you and she is your wife and you want her to get pleased so it was in your right to call her over.

Since we're doing story time... Mrs. EastInWest has very sensitive breasts. Suck on her nipples for a bit and it's guaranteed that she'll cum as soon you enter her. I bring this up because it really made her first "spitroast" a treat for me. My initial fantasy that got us into this whole thing was her sucking cock, and I thought handjobs to myself and another man would be an accessible starting point for her that would also work for me. As we talked it out, taking men from both ends really started to work for her to the point that she'd ask for it by name when we were talking about possible activities. In the event, she'd bonded a bit with a wife who went down on me... and on her... while the wife's husband was off with Mrs. EastInWest's bestie. The natural progression ended up with her playing with the wife's husband a bit, and me taking a seat next to them for a little heavy petting. Between her having sucked off her bestie's husband, playing with a woman, exchanging deep kisses with a new man, us rubbing her pussy and breasts and her playing with two cocks, she could barely stop squirming and moaning on the couch, absolutely rabid to get fucked. I mean articulating the words "come on, fuck me already". I turned her over with her head in his lap, got behind her, and, yes, she moaned hard and came with a near total stranger's cock in her mouth, one that I was very aware had just been inside her close friend earlier. I am very lucky I'd already cum, or that would have been it for me. For the first minute or so, she was mostly gagging on him while I pounded the frustration out of her, then she calmed down a little and got into a rhythm. No conversation, just her doing her best, most enthusiastic work while all her senses were full of cock. The noises she made were fantastic. When he was about to cum I slowed down and suggested she finish him between her breasts. She has large breasts and he enjoyed it as much as I did. She was spent, over-stimulated, and exhausted when he finished, and he ended up getting up while I grabbed her hair and went back a rough pounding, finished into her from behind. She didn't have a word to say for herself until she finally got cleaned up and came back out of the bathroom. So yes, every part of it was as good for both of us as I hoped it would be. Blind-folding her and putting her to work would definitely be high on my fantasy list, but is a little too advanced at this point.

The thought of my wife sitting between me and another man fondling and touching her all over and slowly undressing her from her sexy clothes while still sitting between us just drives me wild. Just focusing all attention on her. Licking her and sucking her, definitely a turn on.

Got to admit, I was pulling for Dan to get his act together, here.

In my husbands bosses office. During a Christmas party his boss was staring at me often and it was turning me on. I wore stockings and a garter belt to the party and there were a couple of times I made sure my stocking tops were shown. His boss suggested once I go with him to the coat room. I did not but dam it made me wet! So I was with my husband one day at his office and we were the only ones there. I said "I want you to fuck me in your bosses office" He said "But Dan might come in the office". My response was "If he does, He will cum for sure". I was wet and horny as my husband ate me and ate me. Then he bent me over his bosses desk and shoved his cock inside my now dripping pussy. I do not know how many orgasms I had but the entire time I was hoping his boss walked in on us because I wanted his tongue and cock both and I would have gotten both. Even today I masturbate thinking about it.

We often play maybe, maybe not, hope not in airports and other places. But the only way to know for sure is to ask.

My wife and I had our first experiences in the 80s. The first was with a much younger couple who were also nudists. We were very close to them and I had done a lot of nude photography of the two of them and they even had me take some photographs of them having sex. We went on a weekend camping trip with them in a very small RV. Although we didn't switch partners with them, both couples had sex in the same small camper bed with our bodies touching each other. That whole weekend was very sexually charged. Looking back, that weekend was what turned my wife and me onto the possibility of playing with others. A couple of years after that we had our first real swap. We had been getting together with another nudist couple who were very close friends. When we got together at each others homes, the clothes came off immediately. There was a lot of flirting and fondling. Finally one evening, Bill, our male friend, and my wife were on the carpeted floor massaging each other and I was massaging Bill's wife D. D nodded for me to look over at the other couple. They were having intercourse, which seemed totally natural D and me, so we started having sex ourselves. The amazing thing is that my wife and I had never discussed it beforehand but were both euphoric when it did. We were hooked big time.

Husband of the pair here - When I was 17, I had very unexpected sex with my girlfriend's mom. Not very proud of it, I was pretty helpless to her seduction and it was pretty amazing to a young guy only a year or so into sex. Downside to the story? I found out a little later that it was revenge sex after finding out my girlfriend had given a blowjob to her mom's boyfriend. Talk about messed up! I got out of the situation very quickly.