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The problem is not finding new love or truer love, it's the lying to his wife. You don't lie to your spouse. Period. If he stopped loving her or found someone else that he loves more, he NEEDS to tell her. This is true whether they are into the lifestyle or not. The fact that they are really increases the need exponentially though, as he is now potentially dragging a lot of other people in to the drama. He needs to just tell her. If staying together until the kids are graduated is a concern, then he should at the very least stop swinging until then. Best case, tell his wife and explain to he that he thinks they should remain together for the sake of the kids and have a sham marriage. Yeah, that might not work out, but in the end, that will be best for the kids.

Sound like a pretty creative euphemism. Married partner-free swinger.

Sadly, the only way to know if jealousy is going to rear it's ugly head is to go ahead and swap then talk about it after. I know my wife was a little worried about jealousy at first as well. Well, not really worried, but when we talked about it she basically said, "I can't tell you how I am going to feel until I feel it. I can tell you all day long that I won't be jealous, but when I see you fucking another woman, I might be, I don't know. What I can tell you is, I agreed we are going to do this, so I will not hold it against you if I do feel jealous. We'll talk about it after it happens and go from there." Really, that's all there is to it. I'm not sure if truer words of wisdom were ever spoken. You can not predict how you are going to feel until you feel it.

Also very confused. Not too sure what married but without a partner even means. If you are married then you have a partner, it's the person you are married to.

You could be a single male, a married cheater or married with a hall pass (VERY rare in our experience). Whichever you are, you bring nothing to the table (or bed) except an extra penis. There is a relatively small demand for extra penises and an incredibly large supply so your odds are not very good. Most legitimate swinger sites permit single males and swinger specific sites are where, by definition, you'd find couples possibly interested in that extra penis. Still, it's a buyers market. You asked for suggestions, here's one: discuss swinging with your spouse. You'd have much better luck fulfilling whatever fantasies you have with her than without her.

You know why she brought it up then. She is a swinger and wanted to see if your wife was interested in the lifestyle.

Hey she knows who she is married to. She might like to pretend not know, which I think is more than likely the case. I would just avoid them. We avoid weird. We wouldn't tell them and we wouldn't play with them.

I don't think I would tell. But if they were our good friends, I would take the guy aside and urge him to be a stand up guy and tell his wife. And if I was also good friends with the person he's cheating with, I would do the same with that person. If nobody agreed to do the honorable thing, I would end my association with them.