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SA, I'm so sorry to hear that. What a horrible experience for him (and to a lesser extent, you)! I'm sure they made his life a living hell, but I have to wonder how much of the feeding frenzy was a result of the smell of blood in the water. Do you think how he reacted - his admittance of guilt, essentially - may have exacerbated the harassment? Whereas if he looked them dead in the eye and showed no fear or guilt, would he have lessened the impact by weeding out the weaker of the bullies, and left himself to only deal with the hardcore assholes? It's not a criticism - I've certainly never been in his shoes, and I obviously can't judge - but I'm just wondering, for the sake of others out there who may have to deal with the same thing. We used to have a don't-play-near-home rule, too. Then as we got older and more relaxed about things, we stopped caring so much. We're discreet, but if someone finds out, oh well. We're not ashamed of what we do, we aren't hurting anyone, and in fact we'd love to answer honest questions about it if anyone asked. We think swinging rocks. I think if you're really uncomfortable with it, don't get involved. But if we were in your shoes, we'd be stoked that a fun, easy-going, friendly local couple had a similar interest in our hobby. It doesn't necessarily mean we'll have the right chemistry to play together, but even having friends to hang out with with whom you can discuss anything is a bonus for us.

To this point we have only played a good distance away from where we live. We met a couple on vacation and I feel it was safe that they wouldn't know anyone we do. We look forward to what is now our yearly cruise with them and the few times we have met on dry land. My husband and I enjoy the Jersey shore music scene and we are always seeing the same people at the clubs we go to. Our common enjoyment of music and the scene opened up new friendships. Recently we talking about our cruise to a few couples. The subject of a nude beach came up and we admitted we went. That brought up the topic of the nude beach right here in NJ. We know about it but have always been afraid of seeing people we knew. One of the women said they go and yes others we might know go too. No names were mentioned of who. Then the conversation about vacationing turned to Hedonism. They said they had gone. We of course know about the place but not that much. We asked what might be stupid questions but didn't want to ask too many questions. I admit I was getting a little shy and quiet. My husband asked the Is it true questions. Later that night the wife approached me away from everyone and asked if we ever did swinging. I know I had to be either totally white or bright red. I asked why she asked and she said if we were talking about Hedo we must have talked about it. I know I was uncomfortable discussing this and she saw it. She assured me she would not bring it up again but anytime I wanted to talk or ask a question we could talk. With that we went back to where our husbands and others were by the bar. Back home I told my husband about the conversation I had. We just don't know if we should do this with people we always see and it being close to home. We also trying to figure who else from all the people we see them talking to are into the lifestyle.

Ha! Joaninia, I know the feeling. I finally put a guys cock in my mouth the second time we hooked up with a couple. First time was handjobs only. Sucking a cock isn't as bad as I though it would be, although the first time was awkward. The following time the flow was much easier because I wasn't hung up on it. I even let him cum in my mouth. I've come a long way in a month! LOL

I can address that question/problem with our story. Unlike you, my wife is bi and has no issue being with either sex and knows it's a turn on for me, whether it's another male or female. We met a couple that are both bi and had them to dinner and a hot tub evening. The normal things happened. One fantasy of the new couple was to have their lady on the receiving end of a strap-on from my wife. No problem... I hadn't had the privilege of seeing that event before, but knew she (my wife) owned a strap-on. The next day, discussing how much fun it was, my wife said, "I'd like to see you with him". uh... uh oh... Realizing that my main objection was my own perceptions about two guys together, but in this scenario, everyone was bi, EXCEPT ME. I told her I suppose it "could" happen, but I'm not sure how I'd even start. She suggested while we're all in a pile and she's giving him a BJ, I could fondle the other guy, see how I felt and play it by ear. Fast forward two weeks and we're in the scene, hands everywhere, bodies intertwined, and my wife reached over and grabbed my hand and gently guided me to where she was, giving him a BJ. I reached out to feel his penis and realized it was almost indistinguishable from my own in size and shape, and in the dark, I could almost convince myself I was simply masturbating. Her gentle urging continued, pulling my head down beside hers and then suddenly I feel his dick on my lips. I thought "oh what the hell, I'm the odd wheel in this group". and proceeded to play a bit, although not to completion, but certainly more than I would have ever guessed I would EVER do. After that, things happened that caused a temporary rift in the relations between us and the other couple, although I believe it to be a temporary problem, we haven't seen that couple again, although we will again probably. I've already decided "in for a dime, in for a dollar". So, if/when we get together with them again, I have no doubt where it's going, and I'm both, a bit excited, and also thinking about the values (read that as JUDGEMENTS) I've had over the years. With that said, after the deed, I may think, "ok, that's not for me", or I may think, "hmm, I wonder why I was so set in my own judgements that I've never even entertained the possibilities". I too have always been that "no way in hell" mode. Now it's more like "right time, right place, right people." Go for it, enjoy and forget the demons in the back of your mind. Good luck.!