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That which you describe was not a "bad" experience, TXswingers65. It was a learning experience from which y'all profited. I think you handled it exactly as you should have. Good luck in the future!

My wife and I have been talking and we are so excited and intrigued to begin opening Pandora's box together. We want to watch others and perform in front of others. We want to go at our pace and see what happens. Can't wait! She keeps telling me how watching other women perform oral on me will drive her over the edge. We are heading to clubs in July and it can't come soon enough!

Last fall we entered into a poly triad with our best male friend. My wife and I have played with him for over 30 years, and have also done a lot of vanilla things together. That means that we have a lot of history together and really know each other. If I died, I am fairly sure my wife would not marry him, but I am sure he and my wife would continue to hang around together a lot. One of the nice things about having a long marriage, 48 yrs for us, is that you have all those memories of what you have done together. Losing those memories would be very hard. Since the three of us have known each other for about 35 years and played together for 30 years, we three have a lot shared memories which would help my wife. Our friend's wife died unexpectedly 3 years ago and I know how much our closeness with him over the years has helped him.

You could invite 1 new couple per party. If they don't fit in, they don't get invited back. When I hosted parties, this seemed to work well. You never know how/if people will hit it off.

We live west of downtown Toronto, in the Mississauga / Oakville area, and there is a higher concentration of clubs in this end of Toronto. I would suggest not staying downtown. There is a lot of construction going on right now on the main freeway from downtown to my area. Google Gardiner Expressway and QEW. Living here, I avoid driving downtown as much as possible. It might be wise to find a hotel near a GO transit station in the Mississauga area, as there are trains running every 30 minutes into Union Station downtown, and you can catch subways and streetcars from there quite easily should you wish to visit downtown. If you're flying into Pearson Airport, it is north of Mississauga as well.

I agree wholeheartedly. I don't think it's gay or weird. I love my wife and I just love the enhanced feeling of her "sluttiness" when she has taken a load in her mouth or on her face (tasteful facial, not all over her forehead and stuff). I like to be a part of the whole situation so it's not uncomfortable at all for me.

Just tell them that it is a closed group right now and that you will keep them in mind if things change...

Although I haven't experienced yet, I do feel there is a difference with soft swap and penetration. In my mind I am fine with watching my wife perform oral and kiss and lick and have the same done to her. She loves to suck cock and lick and be licked and that is such a turn on for me. Hopefully I will be totally hot and excited by watching her. If this goes well I think I will be open to trying full. I do want to try soft first and see how it goes.

I could accept this scenario because it does provide as in your case, a very close friend, what true love means. I love my wife like no other person and I do not want her to be alone. Ever. I am very sorry for what had happened in your case but am very happy to hear that you and your wife continue to be as close as you are with your friend. Sure, some may still consider this as a swinging relationship but swingers have one thing on their mind in general and that is just sex. What you and your wife are doing is well beyond that. You truly care about this man and his well being and this is something I would be ok with regarding my wife in a poly relationship with another male or a couple. Yes, there could be issue that come about like in a normal loving/caring relationship like any marriage but someone would be there for her in the immediate aftermath upon my passing. I would like to think before I leave this Earth that she will not be left alone. Your poly triad, hell the poly lifestyle friendship itself is why I have so much respect for people that opt to live this lifestyle. Folks truly can not show much they care for their fellow human beings as much as those that do in a poly relationship as well as committed couples in general. Again, I am sorry for what happened in your lives but I think you now know why I posted what I did the other day. I wish the three of you continued success in life. I'm sure his wife is smiling down at you two everyday as well as thanking you folks for allowing him to share his life with you both.

Isn't Pittsburgh spelled with an "h?"

You really are a gamer to have continued in the face of obesity, ED, bad technique and dripping sweat. Mrs Doc says "kudos to the husband, I'd do him in a heartbeat. He gets it." We look upon this hobby as a couples sport and believe that if we're going to play, it ought to be close to an equal trade. There is a (pardon me)HUGE difference between 20/30 lbs and more than 100 lbs. Thats pretty close to a 2nd person and not a pretty picture !! Your husband is a good guy and a good partner in this hobby!

This IS Pandoras box...you won't know how you feel until you are at the edge of that cliff (or just over the edge). That's why everyone says to take it slow, so you have time to check if you want to take that next step (it's a biggie, it can go either way, but it will either be awesome or a long fall). It's okay to say you want to stop, it's okay to keep going, but only you will know which is the right option and no matter how much you think and talk about it, you won't know until it's time to choose. From hearing what you have had to say, I do think that you will be okay, but set the goal at soft swap for the time being. Even if the wife finds a guy that she is interested in, there's always next time. Take your time and ENJOY what is going on. Good luck and keep us updated.

I was terrified at how I might feel and react seeing my wife penetrated. But once it started happening, I ended up guiding him into her. There was jealousy involved, but there were a lot of emotions involved. It was very intense but we were hooked. Good luck, don't over-think, be forgiving.

Our poly family is the opposite - anal intercourse, finger play, but no tossing of the salad for any of us.

May not be that wild, but... There is a manager at work that is very good looking. I hadn't thought about him before, but some time ago I was sitting next to him with my legs crossed at his desk going over some stuff and I was wearing a somewhat short skirt and some heels that day, and I thought I might have caught him sneaking glances at my bare legs. I wasn't too sure at first but when he stood up to grab something as he was coming back I saw an unmistakable bulge in his pants and he clearly had an erection. We were being professional, but I couldn't help but be turned on by the fact that he was clearly hard for me and maybe even fantasizing about me. I had this daydream about him placing his hand on my leg while we were chatting and working his hand up my skirt, and I immediately just swung my legs over him and straddled him sitting on his lap and unbuttoning his shirt while making out. I'd slide down and open his pants and pull his cock out and give him a long wet blowjob until he couldn't hold back anymore and then he would stand up and spin me around and push me over his desk, lift my skirt and slide himself inside me and thrusting himself hard inside me. He'd wrap his arm around my upper body and pull me up close to him as he would speed up his thrusts as he was nearing the point of cumming and I would start to moan and breathe heavily and finally he would just explode inside me. I'd turn around, give him a kiss, pull my skirt down, adjust myself and leave the office like nothing had happened and walk out in front of everybody, knowing what we just did, but no one else knew....unless they heard me moaning... That was my fantasy. We, of course, stayed professional and parted ways like co-workers, but I had that entire fantasy while we were sitting next to each other. I really wish I knew what his fantasy was at that moment.

I love forbidden fruit. It's because you're not supposed to lick ass that makes me enjoy licking my wife's asshole. She loves receiving it as much as I love doing it to her. Oral feels great, giving and receiving. I just love the added element of naughty when I stick my tongue inside her holes.

I have been in a number of gang bangs. It takes a little adjusting to. Your first being with 30 guys, even if there are 5 women will be overwhelming. I started with smaller groups where I felt more in control. I tried a large gang bang party like you are describing and even I was a little uncomfortable. It did become something of a job where there just seemed to be an endless supply of guys that needed servicing. I know you can always say you want to stop but once it all starts saying no just doesn't seem to happen. My suggestion is start smaller. Maybe 3 guys and you with one of the guys being your husband. Then increase the number of guys slowly til you find your sweet spot. Mine is 5 guys. Anyway, do what feels good to you. Just be careful not to overdoit the first time. You might get turned off any gang bangs. I love them but I think that is because I eased into them. Good luck.

Let's be frank. This would be, well gay. And not to start the bi-male issue up again, I'd think if you were into this you would also be into bisexual activities as a male. Not my thing; I could see how it could be a turn-on for others though. I'd also add I wouldn't be violent about it, but I wouldn't let it happen either.

We have enjoyed this as well, not as some cuckold experience, but between two couples. Early on we met a couple that was about our same age. They new to the swinging thing so we were eager to play with them. It was the first time either guy had the chance to guide another man's cock and it was a huge turn-on for each of the guys and the girls. A very wild time.