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I'm so sorry you are in this predicament. I hope that you will talk to a good therapist and a good attorney. As you know, you shouldn't do anything you are not comfortable doing. It sounds like your husband is putting you at risk health-wise, emotionally and financially. He can say whatever he wants to blame you or cajole you, but his actions speak louder than words. IV drug users are at high risk for hiv. I would encourage you to get tested for sti's.

We have had a similar problem but in our case it was a close male friend and after he filled the wife up one night we started noticing a slight difference in smell. We are not sure if it is a PH balance issue or something similar, the wife started drinking Pineapple and Grapefruit juice and within a couple of days the odor was gone.

MD couple, I think we covered it. It really is a wonderful place to dip your toes into swinging. Body image stuff, Mrs Doc says of clubs and our nude beach here in Fla that, "there will always be someone older, fatter and grayer than we are". Go to the club with an open mind, meet people, talk, relax and play within your comfort level. While it is unlikely that you'd run into someone you know at the club, if your do, be bold, offer them a drink and act as if this stuff happens every day. I am currently in education administration . We ran into one of my teachers and his wife at a swinger m&g in Sarasota and for a moment, it was a bit uncomfortable but WTF, we weren't at work, our wives liked each other and we had a pleasant evening (no sex). Its like running into a coworker at Walmart only with boobs. For us, it was not a big deal. Try not to worry too much about "what if's" and simply enjoy the moment, the atmosphere and the possibilities.

First off, October is great down there. If you are new, you may want to avoid Halloween, it gets a little crazy. October is the end of Hurricane season so you can get some rainy weather, but we have been twice in October with no problems. There is lots of shade and umbrella's. You can ask the pool person to move them around so you are covered by the pool. The beach beds have curtains on the sides so you never really get lots of sun. Regardless take sunscreen and put it on in the morning. I would suggest a waterproof SPF 30 or 50. You will still get sun. The staff is fantastic. I have stayed at really nice resorts all over the world and you will not find anyone nicer. Tips are not required, but you will want to. Take a $100 or $200 in $5 and pass them around, they will be very happy. They love newbies. Everyone is super friendly. They will show you the ropes. If you are looking into it, I would suggest you visit Desire Resort Forums ? Index page it is a great forum just about Desire.

Yep start on the pineapple juice it works wonders - also for guys too - I know of a few that their wife did not like their taste (cum) and after a week on the old juice no worries. Not sure why but it works.

While I'm not familiar with the club you're stating as my wife and I are Canadian, I can share both your concerns as well as your curiosities as we are also new to the scene. If you want some advice; make friends with the staff. They won't steer you wrong, because they're interested in both happy customers as well as return customers. Tip the bartender a little extra and socialize. Also, for an added benefit, flirting practice on the staff is probably a lot safer as I assume they aren't encouraged to play. The single guys comment was funny; as although the wife and I haven't done anything but play with each other at the clubs, but I want having a little bit of "bend the wife over in a private booth" time and had a woman come in and grab my ass mid-coitus. Flattering, but distracting to say the least!

Hello, Just wanted to give you my perspective. My wife and I are just like you guys, my wife plays with other women, but mostly other men. My wife only does this because it is my fantasy and I have told her that it is a huge turn on for me. My wife and I have been together for 10 years and married for 5 years, and she has slept with 1 other woman and 2 other guys in front of me since we have been married. We couldn't be more happy or in love with each other. We both love and respect each other, and treat these times as crazy adventures. My wife was reluctant at first I think because she may have thought I would be jealous or resentful, but over time she has realized this is not the case and has not changed the way I feel about her one bit, except for maybe feeling more in love with her. I think you guys just need to talk, a lot, and have real, honest discussions about what you want and expect. Also agree to cut it off at any point and hold no grudges if it goes bad. Agree that it is an adventure and neither of you know how it will turn out until you do it. You have to, in the end, agree to love and respect each other at all times!!

Several people have told how they did not have sex at all the first time they went to a club. They just watched, toured, & discussed it with each other. Second time they did the same & enjoyed a round of love making with each other in one of the rooms. Third or fourth time at the club they had met and chatted up enough people they felt comfortable playing with another couple.

C here. If that were true, he would have been completely open from the start of the conversation. In this case, I don't think the 'creep' was completely forthright....

Both brand new - we've been talking about it for a while and even have been to a couple clubs (just to see what's out there). Anyone else have a hard time taking the 'next' step?