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Watching (as a couple) is almost expected at clubs (or at least not a surprise), especially if you don't have a problem with getting naked and possibly being watched yourselves. Especially with first timers visiting a club. Go, have fun, and report back!

Just posted part of this on another thread: Single women in the lifestyle are so rare that they are called 'unicorns' (since find one is almost as easy as finding a unicorn). Single men in the lifestyle are now being called 'cheeseburgers' since they are easier to find than a cheeseburger at McDonalds. If they don't try at every possible chance, they have almost no chance...but that is also why they are so unpopular. Finding another compatible couple is not easy, and it never was said that it would be. Remember how hard it was to find your current mate? Finding a compatible couple is that... squared. All four people have to have some 'connecting' with the other three people. It's hard to find that, but it is awesome when you do, and that makes it even more valuable when it happens. Tips: Don't use online profiles as the only guide for a potential 'match'. Use them only to eliminate other couples who are not a match. Also, the same goes for pictures. If something in the profile or picture is a deal breaker, then move on. Otherwise, contact them and (if they are interested) set up a vanilla meeting. Five minutes in person will usually tell you if there's interest or not. This saves a lot of time, emails, and texts. Even at this point, there will be couples that you meet that you both like...only to find out that you didn't click with them. Don't take this personally, just move on. It's all a numbers game and eventually you will find a four way connection. Then you can all think about getting together for play. After that, make sure you come back here and tell me I'm right (I already know this but it's good for the other to see ). Keep it up and it will happen, but nobody told you it would be easy...but you have been told it's totally worth the effort!

It depends. Swingers don't like feeling like animals in a zoo being gawked at, it's insulting and just kills the mood. On the other hand, when you can tell those doing the watching aren't just gawking or being overly pervy in a creepy way but in fact are in a sense sharing in the experience, then that's cool, and it can be really hot too.

Love this topic. Maybe this is exactly what we are looking for. My wife and I aren't to the point of swapping yet. Maybe we could just watch at a local club and see how that goes. So couples who just watch wouldn't be looked down on ?

Soft swinging is sexual contact that doesn't involve intercourse. You may find someone who is willing to do this with you. Don't be surprised if you find that others are looking for a bit more involvement. You might want to start out by visiting a club and see what goes on. Then go home and talk it over. Have fun.

I haven't been back to update this post in a while, so just thought I'd do so. We had a great weekend with our friends recently. I happened to be out with my daughter the day before our date. She knew we were having company over and she was going to babysit the little yappy dog overnight. I said I wanted to stop into the wine store to see if they had a big sippy-box of carmenere (they do). "I think I want to stop in at La Vie En Rose, too; I want to see if they've got any swimsuits on sale." "Yeah sure, Mom. I know why you want to go there." she said, "You want to shop for your big weekend." She grinned at me. "Party woman." "Okay, fine," I said, "I want to see what they have. I just don't want to make you uncomfortable." "I don't want to make YOU uncomfortable." she said. "Don't worry about that. It doesn't make me uncomfortable at all." So - and this is kind of weird - she and I went shopping for lingerie. She's, like, helping me pick stuff out. She's old enough to wear this stuff herself, so...there's that. But I guess it's still a little weird. Especially the part where I'm picking out a nice new pair of boxers for her Dad, knowing that it's not for my benefit. Anyway, our twisted family dynamics aside, she texted later the night of our visit, letting us know that the dog was doing fine and didn't bark once. Great. NOW he shuts up. The other night, my son and I had a conversation about love and marriage. He's an old-fashioned practical-minded kind of guy. He's sworn against marriage, saying it's a 50/50 bet against someone taking half your shit. And he has no interest in staying with someone who doesn't put out on the regular. *sigh* He's 20 and knows everything. I warned him that, later in life, he needs to brace himself for the fact that he's going to learn a whole world of new shit about love and it's going to change everything he believes now. "Like what?" he asked. "I'm not telling you." I said, "You already know too much." "What's that supposed to mean?" "It means you can't fill a cup that's already full (paraphrasing here). You won't listen to me now because you think you already know the answers. I just assure you that there's a lot more to marriage than a legal contract and a couple of rings. Look: your Dad and I don't even wear rings anymore." "Yeah, but you gotta admit, you and Dad are a little odd." "Yes," I said pointedly, "We are. But it doesn't mean we don't know what we're talking about." If I could leave my kids with any life lessons about love and marriage, it's to show them what real love, passion and mutual respect look like. I can only pray that they find the forever kind of love we've found.

In our two-guy, three-girl closed poly family, all of us have been on the giving end of this and us three women have been on the receiving end. No matter how it's done its nice, but for me the feeling is different among who is doing what to whom. Little shards of joy, excitement, jealousy, love flying about.

Our first 3some was EXACTLY what I had ever dreamt of! The hubby & I were at a yahoo group party and there was a woman that caught my eye as she caught mine... after a LOT of flirting and eventually alot of making out, I invited her and told the hubby that she was cumming home with us. Once we took her by her house for a moment to gather a few things, we brought her our home. As we came into our house, it was all over! I "busted" my bisexual cherry, you could say. I realized each and every one of my repressed bisexual fantasies. It was sooo very much better than I had ever envisioned, My hubby was so very helpful in doing everything I ask of him, and she was a very willing partner for us. We enjoyed all the positions i dreamt of, and we all creamed all over each other MANY times over. He fucked her repeatedly, he fucked me repeatedly, she & I fucked repeatedly. It was totally my dream! Baremama

Mr Wildfire here. It was an unforgetable experience for me I didn't realize in my years of dreaming of this moment how much physical work it is to please two super charged sexual females. We played at least an hour and a half or more and my whole body was sore for the next two days!!! I wish I could have told my co-workers and friends why my sixpacks were so sore on Monday morning...lol, But what a feeling it is to be with two women like that at the same time!, Mrs. Wildfire and our GF had a blast. Luckily we get to do this every so often with her I am very lucky to be able to be a part of it. I also enjoy watching them please each other in-between and during our play times. Hopefully there will be many more to cum....

i (mrs) and anna (triad lover) love to 69 while hubby fucks one of us. we usually get on the edge bed and he enters standing. hubby loves it too, but being the fuckee-lickee is best! Never did a MFM thing, so cant comment there, but it sounds hot.

Exactly! Good question I didn't catch that one - gj. It works equally as well with a female espcially after your husband has just cum all in her and she is overhead dripping. Also, quite often a female works out better than a male who is not bi-comfortable (new word I learned on here - pretty cool huh?). I have yet to have a female mind that there is a penis near her mouth - lol. Oh and for whoever mentioned the bi thing about guys - it definitely works best if the 2 guys are at least bi-comfortable. Also, I agree, the straddle, anal, and reverse cow girl are for certain some of the best ways to do this. The guy on top of the 69 (sort of) good way as long as his does it at a bit of an angle. What I mean is I am sucking a guy, hubby, or whoever not directly over me but off to the side, he is licking me from a bit of a side/diagonal angle while our friend is doing me vaginally. Honestly I like it better when one of the bi guys is doing the licking because they tend to get more into it AND do not mind when the other man pops out. And they really tear it up once he has cum in you - some of the BEST oral Ever!