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We had been waiting for the weather to warm up to tempt a visit to Sandy Hook and it's nude beach. In the past I worried how my bathing suit looks. No worries here. Lot was pretty full. My boyfriend and I grabbed our chairs and cooler and hoped we were walking to the right place. Soon we saw a sign saying that beyond that spot we might encounter nude bathers. We kept walking and the first nude was a man about 80 years old. We kept walking. More people but not many our age. We knew not to stare. Of course you look but don't want to be caught looking. We saw middle aged couples, a few groups of what seemed to be friends. We saw one young girl probably in her 20's alone and my boyfriend nudged me. We kept walking. Saw a bunch of guys together. As we walked I am sure people were watching us. We found a spot, away from being to close to anyone and we opened our beach sand chairs. Now we had to take the next step. We had bathing suits under our shorts and tops. Getting down to our suits I noticed some women wearing bottoms, not many. I could swear every guy watched me take my suit off. Probably not. Finally in the nude we put on lotion. Felt funny sitting on the beach nude. Felt good but strange. We then decided to walk to the water. I still didn't see people our age. I know people looked up as we walked. I made sure not to stare but I know I looked. I looked at many penises and I looked at breasts. I saw too many out of shape people. I know this is a nude beach. It's about being nude and not a muscle or beauty pageant. The water was too cold to go in. We went back to our chairs. It was hot but so nice. Our only contact with anyone was from a couple sitting near us. He came over and asked if we were new to the beach. He was I think around 40+. He was nice and said if we wanted we could move over to them. I know I was looking right at his penis because he was standing in front of me and I was low in the chair. His face was in the sun. We thanked him but we stayed where we were. If we go back I know I won't be as shy.

Well, our night at the Korral was a good one. It was very slow. Only about ten couples, two single men and three single ladies. I think that made it easier to accumulate. Everyone was very nice. There were more new people to this specific club Friday night so I think everyone was a bit nervous. What I found rather funny was, after about 11:00, people seemed drawn to us. If we went to the bar, everyone went to the bar. If we went to the rec area, 3 or 4 couples followed. It's Randy. People are just that comfortable around him. Happens everywhere. It definitely helped to ease the nerves! We did find a couple we liked. The male of the other couple was very open about what they wanted. A full swap. Neither of us are comfortable with that at this time, so we all agreed to meet up again but tonight wasn't the night. Great people though and the chemistry was there. Our night ended in the sex swing...and oh my! Won't be my last time. Lol

Preamble: Katrina & I have been in the Lifestyle and manage our own club (see our profile for details) for many years now. This is a small part of our journey to becoming full fledged swingers... After some gentle persuasion and encouragement from me, Katrina agreed to take a dip in the 'Lifestyle' pool.* To start it would be just her finding a lover, no wife swapping, no threesomes, no other women involved.* She wanted to be sure it was something she wanted to do and that I would be OK with her being with another man without my involvement.* Katrina was looking to have sex, just sex, with a man and no attachments, no strings, no relationship, she just wanted to have a guy she could fuck then go home.*** Past experience had told her that this was something hard to do.* Most if the men in her previous life wanted more than just sex.* Oh sure they wanted sex, but then, in her experience, they would fall in love or at least lust, and want a relationship. We would start by trolling bars.* We would enter together but she would go sit at the bar by herself and buy her own drinks, at least until some guy would offer to buy her a drink.* I was there to be sure she was safe and to drive since I was not drinking.** This plan had its pitfalls... it is not as easy as you might think for a single women, even one as beautiful as Katrina,*to get picked up in a bar.** After several weeks and a few false starts... Katrina is very picky about who she has sex with and it is amazing how many men in singles bars are married and can't get their dicks out of their pants; Katrina pulled the trigger on a young guy*who needed a ride home.* He just didn't know*he had just climbed*in*an 'E' ticket**ride. Katrina explained my existence as a platonic friend who was willing to look after her and see she got home safely after a night of drinking. * Katrina asked me to drive around a while instead of taking her "love" interest streight home. * He had no problem with it and introduced himself as Stan. *Stan was about 5'11" slim build with long brown hair. *He had a nice tan like someone who worked outside and was clean shaven. *He was wearing a band t-shirt, jeans, and lowrise boots. Having been flirting in the bar while playing pool it seemed fine when they both climbed into the back seat and were making out before we got out of the parking lot. *I started driving around through neighoods then out to some under-developed areas that has streets but no homes or businesses yet. *The sounds of heavy petting were coming from the back seat so I positioned the rearview mirror to get a better look. By now, it had been a maybe 5 minutes, I could see that Katrina already had her top off and Stan was sucking on her tits, alternating between the two and her mouth. *As I watched, while trying to drive, his top came off and Katrina quickly unfashioned his pants pushing them down around his knees. *For his part Stan and removed Katrina's jeans and panties in one quick motion. *At this point Katrina took matters into her hands or her mouth, I should say, giving Stan a very enthusiastic blow-job while he was finger fucking her. *I was getting so turned on watching but needed to stay focused on driving... it was "driving" me nuts! While it was late at night and very little traffic there were some cars. *I don't believe anyone could see into the dark backseat it did add to the excitement. * However, driving around also turned out to be a problem. *By now they wanted to fuck but the backseat was a bit cramped and the movement of the car and the turns were making it hard to get going. *Katrina asked me to find a place to park. I parked the car at a dead end street of an office park yet to be built. *My passengers quickly flipped the back seats down to open up the whole back and got going again. I was still watching via the mirror and occasionally turning my head. * Katrina and Stan were totally nude, on their sides, with her facing away from him. *He was thrusting and she was making that little squeaking noise she makes. *I have learned over time, that sound is what she makes when she is on the road to cumming. They stopped to change positions and Katrina asked me if I wouldn't mind waiting outside. *I stepped out into a light rain but with some relief for my boner. *The side windows were fogged up but I could still see through the front window, just not so well. *After about an half hour the rocking and noises subsided and Stan emerged. * He looked like he had been road hard and put up wet. *A minute or two later Katrina stepped out with her top and jeans. *As they both got dressed Stan kept telling me what a great lady she is. *All I could say was as long as I have known her I always thought so. We took Stan to his apartments and after they made out again for awhile said good night. *We rushed to our home and Katrina could hardly wait to get me into bed. *I was just as impatient having had a rock hard dick while she fucked Stan. *I was having a blue balls moment when I got to enter her and fucked her hard. Next morning, no guilt, no regrets, just plans to do it again, maybe the next day or so. *Once the door was open, Katrina was all on board. ** I realized after writing this that some may not*know what an E ticket was.* Years ago, when you when to Disneyland you*bought different levels of tickets that let you*onto the rides.* The E ticket was the top tier!

Nude beaches are like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get...

It's always silly when you look back, but before it was an amazing challenge to try and and overcome. Great that you had a wonderful first experience. It only gets easier from here...

Know that you are not alone. My husband is the same way. He loves giving and receiving oral, and like you, we love sucking a cock together. He also likes anal, receiving a bit more than giving. But he doesn't kiss other men and also not attracted to them other than having sex. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If you are curious, give it a try. Go as far as you're comfortable. It's just sex. What matters is that you and your partner find it fun and enjoyable. I'll tell you finding another male or couple that enjoy the same thing you do is not easy. From our experience, it's not as difficult to find a guy willing to receive oral sex from another guy, but it gets more difficult if you want to involve anal sex.

So glad you had a great time. I'm proud to say, "I told you so."

We like small house parties. With couples in multiples of four (2 couples or 4 or 8). Not so keen on single men. We always bring a nice gift just for the host and we are generous to bring things for the group. Promotes reinvites. Would not want to go to a house party of 260 people. But at least you have better odds of meeting nice people.

I'm confused on this. Would it matter if they are FWB? We wouldn't consider a one nighter good friends. Thank you for your advice.

Some men don't know how good they have it, until they lose it.

Alright. Decided to give my detailed review another shot after I lost the last one (this time, based on the suggestion above, I typed it in first in a word processing program). In any event…. My wife and I love SMI. We’ve been four times in about the last five or six years. We would love to go more if it were closer to where we live and if we had more time. While we do not consider ourselves experts about the resort, we’ve hopefully been enough times over the last few years to offer a somewhat detailed and honest review. As an initial matter, SMI is located in Desert Hot Springs. Desert Hot Springs is literally a small satellite town about seven miles from Palm Springs. It is a dry and desert area. Interestingly, SMI is located in a residential neighborhood. When you first pull up to SMI, you see a fortress of cement and shrubbery (which is good as there are no “free peaks” inside). You have to be buzzed in to get in the door. Once you enter, calling it a resort is perhaps somewhat a misnomer. To be clear and up front on that, remove from your mind any thought that this will be a five star exotic resort. It is not that but, as will be shared, it has a very nice charm and feel (but we still call it a resort). With the above out of the way, the actual property is quite small. The outer perimeter of the resort consists of the front wall, office and guest rooms. There are, however, only about 14 or 15 guest rooms. In the center of the resort you will find an admittedly small swimming pool, a small play room/dance room, a hot tub and countless lounge chairs. Shrubbery and statuary fill out the resort. In a word, it is a quaint with a Zen type feel. Even though there are only 14 or 15 guest rooms, the resort can fill up based upon those who purchase day passes. We actually prefer to stay on site for convenience and find the rooms comfortable (the beds sleep very well). Note however onsite accommodations are rather expensive. If you are going for the first time, and have some trepidation as to whether or not SMI is right for you, we would suggest staying in Palm Springs at a “traditional” hotel or resort and purchasing a day pass to SMI. You can always book a room for a later stay. Speaking of the rooms, do not expect to be treated to the Four Seasons. While the beds are again very comfortable, you may find the rooms otherwise rather basic and merely functional depending upon your expectations. However, when you consider what you are paying for at SMI (lifestyle friendly and openly sexual environment) you will probably find the rooms more than acceptable. The owners are Dewey and his wife (whose name I believe is Julie). They employ an all female staff. We have only ever seen Dewey on Friday and Saturdays; his wife from our visits did not seemed to be physically present even less. Dewey is a very nice gentleman who tries to make everyone feel warm and welcome. We’ve found the female staff to be very pleasant and accommodating as well. As a resort visitor, one is required to be nude. However, unless you are running around in a bathing suit, no one notices if some women wear a modest sarong or an open robe (though generally too hot for the latter when we have been there). As many have stated before, the first time completely nude amongst others can be somewhat uncomfortable. But that is quickly forgotten and feels quite natural rather quickly. The resort is extremely lifestyle friendly and caters to the lifestyle. While one is not required to be in the lifestyle to visit, we would estimate it seems 70 to 80 percent of the guests on any given day are in the lifestyle. With respect to the physical makeup of the guests, we’ve seen all shapes, colors, ages and sizes in our four trips. If we had to generalize about the “typical” guests, we would say the age range is generally about 35 to 50 and predominately white or Hispanic. Within that generalization body shapes and sizes vary, just like out in the vanilla world. However, once again, we’ve seen and mingled with all kinds of great people including couples who fall outside of the foregoing generalization. As such, we would encourage anyone, regardless of age, race or physical characteristics to visit the resort and note that you will be welcome. Obviously if you are reading this and looking at a swinger site, you presumably have an open mind on sexuality. However, be prepared to see, out in the open, life and graphic sex acts take place. It can get extreme and I’d even call it a real world Caligula (and that is meant in a good way). Consequently, if you enjoy the lifestyle in the privacy behind closed doors, and get squeamish at watching, in essence, “live porn,” the resort is not for you. If on the other hand you enjoy watching, maybe “performing” in public, and enjoy the openness of doing whatever tickles your fancy sexually anywhere on the resort premises when the mood strikes, you are in luck. With the above in mind, we however do not want to give the impression that it is an unchecked grope fest where boundaries are not accepted. We have never seen, nor have we been a part of, any unwanted physical contact at the resort. The rule of consent in our experience has been followed to the letter and boundaries are honored. This is undoubtedly helped by the fact the resort does not allow single men and, again, the resort guests are predominately in the lifestyle who already presumably understand and follow lifestyle etiquette. You will, however, encounter your fair share of overly drunken individuals who can at times be generally loud and obnoxious. That is not unique to SMI but something you can encounter at just about any vacation site that allows the drinking of alcohol. Regardless, it has never been so bad that it has been a distraction. What you will see, and can possibly due, will depend upon the crowd and the day of the week. Based on our experience, and generally speaking, Mondays through Wednesdays are generally quiet with no more than a small handful of couples at the resort. Intermingling with other couples during this time frame is generally pretty limited. However, the resort is quite calm and peaceful. It is nice to relax out in the open with the cool desert breeze with your significant other. By Thursday, the party atmosphere begins to kick in. It is not “full on” party mode on this day but there are more couples present with more mingling. Friday and Saturday are the most packed days and the most apt time for you to observe “action” about everywhere you look. Sundays are actually are favorite as there is still generally a nice variety of couples present during the evening yet it is not so packed that you cannot visit and get to know a couple or two. If you are looking to meet couples, feel free to strike up conversation anywhere on the resort. However, we have found most meetings take place in and around the hot tub. It is however a rather small hot tub and generally extremely packed (literally like sardines) on a Saturday night. Friday can be crowded but again our favorite evening, Sunday, presents in our experience the best opportunity to meet people. As for food on the property, again do not expect world class treatment. A continental type breakfast is served with typically fried chicken and picnic type sides for lunch. No dinner is served but, for an extra fee, you can have dinner delivered. A variety of snacks and drinks are offered at all hours. Some limited alcohol is also provided (including Dewey roaming the premises when he is there giving shots) but we really cannot comment on that as we do not drink. We have however observed that many couples bring in coolers with adult beverages of their liking. While you are obviously free to remain at and tethered to the resort during your entire stay, we personally elect to leave the resort for day excursions. It is generally not fun or us to sit out in the heat during the day (and possibly burn). We would much prefer to go shopping or catch a movie. We have also found a number of great restaurants we love to eat at every trip (including a great Mexican restaurant that is about a three or four minute drive from the resort). For us, it presents a nice and relaxing balance especially since we much prefer to enjoy the resort in the coolness of the evening. We personally enjoy booking at least a five day stay that includes the weekend. That way we get a variety of atmospheres—from raging full on party mode to quiet alone time. Such in our view adds to the uniqueness of the experience. With all of the above said, we find SMI fantastic and, truth be told, it really was the kickstarter that got us interested in the lifestyle. It is our go to vacation retreat every summer since we discovered it and we are planning a trip this summer (we did not go last year due to personal reasons). We cannot recommend it enough. Is the resort for everyone? Certainly not but if you answer “yes” to these questions, odds are you will enjoy it: 1. Do you enjoy the lifestyle? 2. Are you comfortable being completely nude around others and seeing others nude? 3. Do you enjoy watching “public performances” and yourself enjoy maybe even putting on a “public show”? Hopefully this review helps. If there are any specific questions, feel free to ask away. I do not mind giving the resort more business—it is loads of fun especially for those of us who are sexually open and adventurous! MrMarvin