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I recommend avoiding CL like the plague. Personally, we haven't ever had much luck with online sites in general. We prefer to play at our area swingers club. We've found clubs have several benefits... You get to see what everyone looks like, and acts like, right up front. If the first person you set your sights on doesn't work out, you can always move on to the next one (and this is expected behavior). An on premises club avoids the whole "where do we meet" and "let's go somewhere else" issues. Finally, every club I've been to has some form of security on staff just in case. My wife has gone solo to our local club a few times with... fun... results more often than not.

Several decades ago(!), we took the nude beach plunge. Never had been to a "clothing optional" resort before, took off from St. Louis, landed in St. Martin, took a taxi over to Club Orient. The driver --it was taxi #32, we'll never forget--asked us if it was our first trip to St. Martin and to Club O. Yes, we admitted we were newbies. We got to the resort about 45 min later,we picked up the key, he drove us to our mini-suite deluxe a few meters from the beach. He asked when our flight home was, and gave us his card. He said, "ring me up when it's time to leave--but you won't want to leave". It was mid afternoon, there was still some sun. Like most nudie newbies, we decided to put on suits and walked down to the beach. About 200 naked people there. Some young, some old, some in shape, some way out of shape. There were some beach walkers with suits, some without (the beaches follow the laws of France--all beaches are public). We looked around, needed to put on some sunscreen. Looked again at the 200 naked people, none of whom were paying us any mind. Took off our suits, put them in the bag, put on the sunscreen. Pulled books from the bag. Imagined that in our pale white skin we somehow blended in. About 30 min later, we were hot, the water looked good, we wandered into the bay to get wet. Started chatting with another couple while we were in the water. They quickly deduced (did not take Sherlock Holmes) that we were first timers, newly arrived, and then they went out of their way to make us feel welcome. They insisted on buying us drinks at the beach bar, introduced us to some of their friends, and within a few minutes we ceased to notice that we--and everyone else--had not a stitch on. It took just that little time to see naked as normal. We got used to breakfast, beach, lunch, and beach naked. Spent the morning figuring out what not to wear, rinsed off in the afternoon in the outdoor showers. Dinner? Mrs. FL put on a pareo -- except when she got hot dancing, then she took it off. Yes, we went off property for dinner a couple of nights. Otherwise, "sand gravity" set in. Suddenly--four or five days later-- it was time to leave. We scheduled the pickup with Taxi 32, He showed up, loaded our bags, we got in. "Ready to leave?" he asked. He already knew the answer. "Already booked your return?" he asked. He knew the answer to that one, too. We've made a total of nine trips to Club O.

Thanks everyone for your input!! I created a profile on SLS and see where it goes. And yes, done with CL at this point. I do like the idea of meeting the guy before hand. It would make me feel more comfortable knowing the guy isn't a creeper or up to something bad. While I plan on being there when things happen, making sure everyone is comfortable (including me) is something I'm all about.

We did need time and space from the LS. If we turn the SLS, SDC,.or dirty Facebook back on, we will probably not view them as a means to meet new folks but as a means to communicate with folks we have already met. The club, party, bar seems like a better choice and skip all the "messages to get to know each other". We are not "quitters" but we definitely needed to take a step back and evaluate our methods and time spent versus benefits. It was too frustrating to continue on its path. We are going on a date at the end of the month, just us. We have decided to just "go with it". We may just go dancing, or the Topless bar, or even pop in at a party.... But, we are going on a date with each other and anything else is a bonus..... Thank you for the positive reply!

We have also had some success at SLS. When we started, one way that we were able to weed out fakers was to have my husband meet my potential partner somewhere in public first. If he seemed like a good fit, I would meet him another day, again in public, either with my husband or alone. If I liked him, we would then retire to a hotel. As I have become more comfortable and savvy, I have been able to find partners ("bulls") on my own.

We've had some really good luck on SwingLifestyle

Know that you are not alone. My husband is the same way. He loves giving and receiving oral, and like you, we love sucking a cock together. He also likes anal, receiving a bit more than giving. But he doesn't kiss other men and also not attracted to them other than having sex. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If you are curious, give it a try. Go as far as you're comfortable. It's just sex. What matters is that you and your partner find it fun and enjoyable. I'll tell you finding another male or couple that enjoy the same thing you do is not easy. From our experience, it's not as difficult to find a guy willing to receive oral sex from another guy, but it gets more difficult if you want to involve anal sex.

We had been waiting for the weather to warm up to tempt a visit to Sandy Hook and it's nude beach. In the past I worried how my bathing suit looks. No worries here. Lot was pretty full. My boyfriend and I grabbed our chairs and cooler and hoped we were walking to the right place. Soon we saw a sign saying that beyond that spot we might encounter nude bathers. We kept walking and the first nude was a man about 80 years old. We kept walking. More people but not many our age. We knew not to stare. Of course you look but don't want to be caught looking. We saw middle aged couples, a few groups of what seemed to be friends. We saw one young girl probably in her 20's alone and my boyfriend nudged me. We kept walking. Saw a bunch of guys together. As we walked I am sure people were watching us. We found a spot, away from being to close to anyone and we opened our beach sand chairs. Now we had to take the next step. We had bathing suits under our shorts and tops. Getting down to our suits I noticed some women wearing bottoms, not many. I could swear every guy watched me take my suit off. Probably not. Finally in the nude we put on lotion. Felt funny sitting on the beach nude. Felt good but strange. We then decided to walk to the water. I still didn't see people our age. I know people looked up as we walked. I made sure not to stare but I know I looked. I looked at many penises and I looked at breasts. I saw too many out of shape people. I know this is a nude beach. It's about being nude and not a muscle or beauty pageant. The water was too cold to go in. We went back to our chairs. It was hot but so nice. Our only contact with anyone was from a couple sitting near us. He came over and asked if we were new to the beach. He was I think around 40+. He was nice and said if we wanted we could move over to them. I know I was looking right at his penis because he was standing in front of me and I was low in the chair. His face was in the sun. We thanked him but we stayed where we were. If we go back I know I won't be as shy.

I had a look at your profile as well and believe that goldcocouple basically said what you should do. The best things about swinging is that you'll find out that she has no "type" in most cases...

Just checked your profile and liked the two pictures that you have posted. Good start, just probably post more and several of the both of you together (kind of shows that you are a couple and looking to play as a couple).

No matter what it seems like you will get a ton of responses from single men...they have to because there are so many of them. Just delete them without bothering with them. We ALWAYS post pictures of the two of us (edited to conceal our faces) so that anyone looking will see BOTH of us and not just her. It's just to give others the general vibe of what we are both about. Of course use current pictures and make sure that there is nothing unsightly in the background (love the pictures where there is a pile of laundry or dirty dishes in the background). Just be yourselves and try to make that come out in the pictures. BTW: GREAT legs and fantastic shoes!

Craigslist is usually men looking to cheat on their wives, picture collectors or just trying to get off by knowing someone wants them. Not looking like their picture isn't a surprise (they don't want their wife to find out). Changing venues is what would worry me. STAY AWAY! Top of the page is a tab labeled Finding Swingers. Use that...most swinger websites will let you set up a free account and just limit how many emails you can send. SLS has been mentioned (we are lifetime members of SLS ourselves) but different areas of the country have different sites that are more popular than others so check and see what is best for your area. Other than that, one of my current favorite sayings is: finding single guys is like finding cheeseburgers at McDonalds. At least on a swingers site they are fighting for the women and will be less likely to flake. Good luck and let us know how things go.

This speaks volume. Maybe we should have found this forum 2 years ago. Very open and honest reply. Thank you. At least we know it wasn't just our experiences.

from Oklahoma, GeoMo118! Those things would freak me out, too. My late wife and I experimented with "Hot Wifing." In fact it was our first adventure in swinging. If you'd like to read about us, click on "here" below. Hot Wifing was a thing we didn't continue, preferring couples, but we both thought it was one of the hottest things we did in twenty-seven years of our marriage. I hope y'all enjoy your visits with us!

That's now 260 people. We've been to smaller concerts! You are doing the right thing by taking a pass on this one (kind of funny it being on a farm since they will be packing people in like cattle ). Now it would take too long (and be a full time job) to make cupcakes. Let us know how your visit to Trapeze goes (I was looking forward to a cupcake, dang...).

Men rarely change and when they do it usually is only a small shift where women seem to be in constant change. He may very well not understand what you are saying. I'm very sorry to say this, but I think you are also beginning to suspect the same thing: It may be that the two of you are just not going to be a 'match'. Maybe you both need to take a break from each other and see where things go from there. Wishing you the best.

Well, our night at the Korral was a good one. It was very slow. Only about ten couples, two single men and three single ladies. I think that made it easier to accumulate. Everyone was very nice. There were more new people to this specific club Friday night so I think everyone was a bit nervous. What I found rather funny was, after about 11:00, people seemed drawn to us. If we went to the bar, everyone went to the bar. If we went to the rec area, 3 or 4 couples followed. It's Randy. People are just that comfortable around him. Happens everywhere. It definitely helped to ease the nerves! We did find a couple we liked. The male of the other couple was very open about what they wanted. A full swap. Neither of us are comfortable with that at this time, so we all agreed to meet up again but tonight wasn't the night. Great people though and the chemistry was there. Our night ended in the sex swing...and oh my! Won't be my last time. Lol

It's been my personal distinction that a house party had 8-10 couples tops, all personally invited by the hosts. If same room is what you do, it doesn't have to change. Our experience says that while we usually are same room, for this type of party we're okay being separated. This stems from the personal invitation from the hosts-- we trust the hosts and we would extend a decent amount of the same to those they invited. We expect to bring something to share (other than ourselves, har-de-har), and if it wasn't explicitly stated we'd just ask what can be bring to help. It's been a while since we've been to a house party by this definition, but it's my favorite type of get-together.

"towell" ?? Did you mean "towel" ? I reread our entire post. No judgment here. These are our experiences. This is what happened. Curious what you are implying about photos.... Either you are trying to say we are ugly and/or out of shape. Ha ha, you crack me up. You won't be seeing any pics of us. You are correct, we put it out there. You drew a conclusion. You drew the wrong conclusion, but you did draw one nonetheless. We still enjoyed the experience and will probably have a few FWB over our life span. Hope everyone has more good than bad experiences.

The house party that we attend has about 30-40 couples. We have to sign a waiver and bring our own alcohol. We pay a "cover charge" and food is already provided which is nice. They provide water and soda. This way they monitor the amount of alcohol you consume. Drunks are not very welcomed at this home. Many couples are play together/stay together. It is about 50/50. No one is offended. It is tough..as we are still searching for our "hook up"

We have thrown numerous parties and can help with a few suggestions: -Have a pool, or at least a Jacuzzi -Have a group romm with at least five mattresses that have clean linen -know the people you invite. Our friends all know us and we them. We have bareback parties, and make sure that our friends keep us aware of their health. -Friends need to check before bringing new friends. -Make sure one of the friends is a cop -Meet with the new couples for an interview and "job interview." -Allow Bisexual behavior, but no does mean no. Dave and I still host weekend parties as we are well known in the adult and Lifestyle community. Our biggest requirement for joining our parties is LEAVE INSECURITIES AT THE DOOR. Our friends are aware of our Nude, Bi and Swinger Lifestyles here in town. Laura Laura and Dave vegasnudecouple

But I got one. I know what you put out there for public consumption. If you do that, don't be surprised when someone draws their own conclusion about it. You made broad brush judgements about a large number of people in a geographical area. So, right back at you. At this point, my guess is that seeing pictures of you would clear up most of my questions about why you "threw in the towell". Happy hunting, if you want to.

We once brought a sushi platter and it was a big hit.

160 people? Even if only half showed up it sounds frightening. Hmmm. My wife and I would be tempted to go see. But we're experienced in stuff like this and have learned how to quickly read a crowd -- and how to estimate the ratio of people to bedrooms. We hate fucking on kitchen countertops or in backyard tents.

As one half of a couple that is open, uninhibited and without jealousies, I found my Bi side again after meeting my Bi wife, who has a love of seeing same sex activities. When I met her, I had done some adult films in college, including gay films for some great money, but still considered myself straight. Laura had the same love of group sex that I did, and we both got together with other couples, and I would suck cock if the opportunity presented itself. When she first shared a guy's cum with me, it shifted my thinking to one of "what the fuck?" If it feels good, go with it, so we both enjoy a good pussy, ass and cock in our play.

One other thing. Once Ms. Gold and I started down this path, I have never thought of trying to find another woman to replace her. How could I replace someone who actually encourages the two of us to find other couples to play with? Just how in the world could I 'trade up' from that? I thank her and appreciate everything she does for me on a daily basis (something that all too often is overlooked). While you have been together for a long time (28 years) and it can be easy to 'forget' the small things that you both do for each other, but that you were willing to go with him on this path...well, he's forgotten what a great woman you are. You did nothing wrong, he's just forgotten what a great gift he was given.

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