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I would say both are very fun and exciting, but I prefer MFM, I am not a cuckhold and always participate in the action but for me there is just something about pleasuring your wife to mutiple orgasmas that can't be accomplished with 1 person, and just seeing my wife with someone else is better then any porno, the sounds and sights of her are amazing and can't forget DP for her is an intense orgasm.

Going to a clothing optional beach for the first time can be intimidating. Beaches are not sexual. No sex on the beach unless you order Sex on the Beach drinks. We have been to both Orient Beach which is our first, and Gunnisons on Sandy Hook. We were on a cruise and met other couples who went with us to the beach. Getting undressed alone I think would be easier than when doing it for the first time with people you just met and you know you are going back to a ship with them. And yes there are all types on the beach but it is not sexual at all.

Same with us in our poly family. The guys can go multiple rounds more easily when switching to a new woman.

Preamble: Katrina & I have been in the Lifestyle and manage our own club (see our profile for details) for many years now. This is a small part of our journey to becoming full fledged swingers... After some gentle persuasion and encouragement from me, Katrina agreed to take a dip in the 'Lifestyle' pool.* To start it would be just her finding a lover, no wife swapping, no threesomes, no other women involved.* She wanted to be sure it was something she wanted to do and that I would be OK with her being with another man without my involvement.* Katrina was looking to have sex, just sex, with a man and no attachments, no strings, no relationship, she just wanted to have a guy she could fuck then go home.*** Past experience had told her that this was something hard to do.* Most if the men in her previous life wanted more than just sex.* Oh sure they wanted sex, but then, in her experience, they would fall in love or at least lust, and want a relationship. We would start by trolling bars.* We would enter together but she would go sit at the bar by herself and buy her own drinks, at least until some guy would offer to buy her a drink.* I was there to be sure she was safe and to drive since I was not drinking.** This plan had its pitfalls... it is not as easy as you might think for a single women, even one as beautiful as Katrina,*to get picked up in a bar.** After several weeks and a few false starts... Katrina is very picky about who she has sex with and it is amazing how many men in singles bars are married and can't get their dicks out of their pants; Katrina pulled the trigger on a young guy*who needed a ride home.* He just didn't know*he had just climbed*in*an 'E' ticket**ride. Katrina explained my existence as a platonic friend who was willing to look after her and see she got home safely after a night of drinking. * Katrina asked me to drive around a while instead of taking her "love" interest streight home. * He had no problem with it and introduced himself as Stan. *Stan was about 5'11" slim build with long brown hair. *He had a nice tan like someone who worked outside and was clean shaven. *He was wearing a band t-shirt, jeans, and lowrise boots. Having been flirting in the bar while playing pool it seemed fine when they both climbed into the back seat and were making out before we got out of the parking lot. *I started driving around through neighoods then out to some under-developed areas that has streets but no homes or businesses yet. *The sounds of heavy petting were coming from the back seat so I positioned the rearview mirror to get a better look. By now, it had been a maybe 5 minutes, I could see that Katrina already had her top off and Stan was sucking on her tits, alternating between the two and her mouth. *As I watched, while trying to drive, his top came off and Katrina quickly unfashioned his pants pushing them down around his knees. *For his part Stan and removed Katrina's jeans and panties in one quick motion. *At this point Katrina took matters into her hands or her mouth, I should say, giving Stan a very enthusiastic blow-job while he was finger fucking her. *I was getting so turned on watching but needed to stay focused on driving... it was "driving" me nuts! While it was late at night and very little traffic there were some cars. *I don't believe anyone could see into the dark backseat it did add to the excitement. * However, driving around also turned out to be a problem. *By now they wanted to fuck but the backseat was a bit cramped and the movement of the car and the turns were making it hard to get going. *Katrina asked me to find a place to park. I parked the car at a dead end street of an office park yet to be built. *My passengers quickly flipped the back seats down to open up the whole back and got going again. I was still watching via the mirror and occasionally turning my head. * Katrina and Stan were totally nude, on their sides, with her facing away from him. *He was thrusting and she was making that little squeaking noise she makes. *I have learned over time, that sound is what she makes when she is on the road to cumming. They stopped to change positions and Katrina asked me if I wouldn't mind waiting outside. *I stepped out into a light rain but with some relief for my boner. *The side windows were fogged up but I could still see through the front window, just not so well. *After about an half hour the rocking and noises subsided and Stan emerged. * He looked like he had been road hard and put up wet. *A minute or two later Katrina stepped out with her top and jeans. *As they both got dressed Stan kept telling me what a great lady she is. *All I could say was as long as I have known her I always thought so. We took Stan to his apartments and after they made out again for awhile said good night. *We rushed to our home and Katrina could hardly wait to get me into bed. *I was just as impatient having had a rock hard dick while she fucked Stan. *I was having a blue balls moment when I got to enter her and fucked her hard. Next morning, no guilt, no regrets, just plans to do it again, maybe the next day or so. *Once the door was open, Katrina was all on board. ** I realized after writing this that some may not*know what an E ticket was.* Years ago, when you when to Disneyland you*bought different levels of tickets that let you*onto the rides.* The E ticket was the top tier!

With the experience of many years and even more partners I've found that for a surprisingly large proportion of women, as pleasurable as they might find intercourse, they like receiving oral even more. They pleasure they collectively expressed in a way trained me to love all the aspects of giving women oral - the taste, the smell and the sight of a woman's pussy, and all the variations that exist - are as strongly gratifying for me as any other aspect of erotic activity. And I like a really wide range. :-) Unfortunately, my beloved (and pleasingly horny) wife as a result of a series of bladder infections early in our relationship, developed a dread of receiving oral. I'm grateful that when she masturbates manually as part of foreplay, she offers me her fingers to lick and suck. But it's not satisfying in the way that burying my face between a woman's thighs is. (Fortunately all of my play partners are more than happy to receive my oral ministrations.) My wife and I did once try oral with a dental dam. It was about as satisfying for me as licking a balloon, and even less so for her.

We started with someone I knew and trusted. I'm not arguing with Sun&Moon, as they have some sound advice that may work for you. But on the other hand, the things Sun&Moon posted to watch out for in a man (constant messages, phone calls, stalking type behavior) are exactly why we chose someone we know and trust. In our case, this person lives about an hour away from us so its not like we run into him around town or anything.

Not all swingers are nudists and not all nudists are swingers. As a result, nude beaches are usually more nude than 'naked'. It's about being out with a lack of cloths and not about being naked and exposed. Like dogs, sexiness and eroticism is usually not invited to the beach.

I am a 56 year old male and I fantasize about cocks, but not men. I have sucked a few in my day, but the one in junior high school grossed me out for a long time. I didn't revisit that kink until my late 40's.

Thanks everyone for your input!! I created a profile on SLS and see where it goes. And yes, done with CL at this point. I do like the idea of meeting the guy before hand. It would make me feel more comfortable knowing the guy isn't a creeper or up to something bad. While I plan on being there when things happen, making sure everyone is comfortable (including me) is something I'm all about.

Yes, we are spending time on the lake and riding motorcycles in the mountains. We will come back with a fresh outlook. Thanks for the nice input.

Thank you all for your thoughts. I had a feeling we were doing the right thing on pulling the pin...my wife and I feel much better on our decision now...although we will have to find new playfriends and that will take time, but it will add to some fun in itself....thank you all.

My wife was just like you! My wife was/is so sexy and loved having sex with me. I began to fantasize what it would be like to see her enjoying sex to the point that I brought up the idea of recording us. Setting up a camera and making a video. NO WAY! I couldn't get the idea out of my mind of being "out of my body" and watching her getting fucked. My fantasy soon turned from imagining me fucking her into imagining that it was someone else fucking her. I couldn't get those images out of my mind. The image of someone else fucking her turned into an obsession. I began to try to talk her into trying it to make my favorite fantasy come true. She was shocked. She couldn't understand why I would want another man to have sex with her. She thought I didn't love her anymore. To me it wasn't about love. I loved her very much. It was just all about sex. Just another fun thing to do as a couple like going to the movies or out to a bar or restaurant. It took me a long time talking her into trying it and when she finally did she LOVED it1

This may or may not be the primary motivation on the part of her husband. I can attest to the desire and pleasure of watching my wife with another man WITHOUT any hidden or secondary motivations. That, in and of itself, is a huge turn-on. Meanwhile, I think most of us here join in encouraging her to take care of herself and to be sure that she is not coerced into doing something that she doesn't want to do.