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I can't think of any reason to not have sex on a first date, Adam. The late Mrs. Alura and I did on our first date and, later, on some swinging dates. When I was a teen, Miss Skilly taught us not to kiss on the first date. Many of us ignored that lesson, too.

Is a leg covered by a fish-net stocking more attractive than a naked leg? Is a bosom pushed up by the shape of a brassiere more alluring than the pendant realities?

I’m a bit curious as to why some people will not have sex on the first date? Let’s assume you are meeting another couple or a single for a get-to-know-you-drink. Both of you are attracted to the other(s). You just know that you so want to have that second date so you can get naked and play. In that situation, why wouldn’t you just go ahead and play on the first date?

No kissing? No butt play ? I know every couple has their own. We are not swinging yet, but our would be no kissing for sure.

Beginning to think I am one of the only guys my age who has not had a threesome before. Just wondering who has and has not had a threesome or more?

Less pressure. It can be difficult to perform with someone you just met. I like to like the person that I am having sex with. We can explore that at our first meeting. Also, my wife may notice something alarming about the other couple, but she can't say it in front of them. We won't rule out first meeting play, but we'd rather meet, talk among ourselves privately and anticipate a future play session.

We actually have that in our profile. To be honest we have discussed this, and the main reason we have it is to eliminate expectations from another couple (mainly the sport swingers) It also makes us feel less pressure when going on a 1st date (For both couples). We also know that if we really hit it off, and if it so happens naturally then we are ok with playing on a 1st date. Wouldn't you feel more comfortable going on a first date knowing that it's a no pressure couple? We do.

Ms JM loves her Magic Wand, but complains even it is not powerful enough. She wishes it had an even higher speed. Does anyone know of a faster vibrator?

My wife's go-to vibe had long been the Hitachi Magic Wand until a play partner of mine sent her as a gift for sharing me a vibe called a Body Wand. Instead of the two-speed switch it has an infinitely-variable one, which allows my wife to select the precise degree of stimulation she wants at that moment. (Typically she starts at about the mid-range and gradually increases the speed until she brings herself to a shattering, body-spasming, screaming, squirting orgasm.)

I will offer something of a counter example, I guess. I do engage in more extensive texting, even sometimes before meeting. I think we have not has as bad of luck at this as some who are commenting here- not sure why. We understand that having a relationship via texting or chatting is an entirely different thing from having chemistry in person, so we don't build expectations too high based solely on how well a texting conversation is going. One other area of slight disagreement is about the notion of initially contacting a couple, then telling them that if they want to meet us, just show up at such-and-such a club. If we want to meet a couple, we will try to really meet THEM, for dinner or drinks or to talk- not run into them by chance, in a noisy club setting with distractions all around, and with a built-in, known-to-all escape clause in case we don't find each other interesting enough. If someone suggests that to us, we take it as a sign that they're not really interested in meeting us, and perhaps are just using a brush off line that they believe to be polite. When we see a profile of a couple we like, we want to get to know them- and we're willing to invest the time to make that happen. We want to have the focus on them and us. Now, we have had a share of frustrations- cancellations, no-shows, unwelcome surprises, or people we just didn't click with. But we feel,like that's just the cost of doing business, and a price we're willing to pay in order to have the possiblity of meeting great people. Besides, we all gotta eat!