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She finally did it! It all began years ago with us sharing rather innocent sexual fantasies with each other which morphed into wife sharing, which really got things heated up for us. Now we did have a good sex life, but we had been married for years coupled with jobs and kids and well you know how it can go. However, with all the wife sharing fantasy talk it was like we rediscovered sex all over again, it was great! Without going into too much detail she was enthralled by the idea of experiencing a larger penis that had some stamina attached to a good guy. Then when she finally realized I was serious about it actually happening. She was both shocked and turned on by the idea of it. So fast forward down the road the road a few months. I had been interviewing a lot of inquiries from one of the sites and found a guy that I thought would be what she wanted. I showed her the pictures that he sent both normal and naughty and she said to set up a meeting. Prior to meeting they texted and talked on the phone and things went really well. So the time came for dinner and we met and had a few drinks. Things were going really well with some flirtation between them so we decided to go outside to the car and have a more in-depth discussion to where we would not raise any eyebrows with our conversation. They both climbed in the back seat and I got in the front as if we were being directed to our respected positions. As it was night we were not worried about anybody observing. So we began talking and I noticed my wife started rubbing his thigh and his crotch. He smiled and leaned over to begin kissing her. That of course really turned her on and she began to take his bulging penis out of his pants. At that point she was pleased to put both hands on it and it still stick out plus feeling it's girth you could see and hear her breathing increase! She was a sight to behold. The kissing began to intensify with her stroking his cock with both of her hands and him pulling her tits out of her blouse. She was on her knees in the backseat and then he reached over to pull her skirt over her back exposing her finally shaped ass. At that point I reached over the seat and began to finger her throbbing wet pussy. She then asked if she could go down on him and without waiting for my reply she began to suck cock. That went on for about an hour when we had to call it a night but not without making plans to meet again at a hotel for the main event. FINALLY, after a long and excruciating few weeks were able to get our schedules to match in order for us to meet at a motel. My wife was very excited as well as I was to be able to witness her forth coming pleasure. He had already gotten the room and called us because we were running late. When we got there she went into the restroom to freshen up and had a brief conversation about my wife and how much we were looking forward to this happening. My wife came out of the bathroom dressed in a short nightie and sat down on the bed beside him and they were all smiles. They begin talking and at that point I excused myself to the restroom and only being in there a moment I opened the door to find them passionately kissing. So I took a seat beside the bed and with feelings of arousal and anxiety watched my wife pull his fully erect penis out of his pants and place her hands one on top of the other with a focused intensity around his thick 7" fully erect penis with all his head and some of his shaft sticking out and saw her begin to orally pleasure him. By the look on his face you could tell he was enjoying it immensely as well as was my wife. Needless to say I was hard as a rock! After about 15 minutes of my wife giving him head she got up on her knees and straddled him gently lowering herself into him while kissing him. You could tell by the look on her face and the sigh that she let out how she enjoyed his entry his depth into untouched areas of her womanhood. At this point he pulled off her short nightie and began squeezing and caressing her 34C tits as she rode him in ways she never road me making sounds as she tried not too while enjoying his manhood! Then at the point when she had tired herself out on riding him, he wrapped his arms around her waist and pulled her down to where her tits were on his chest and began thrusting he engorged dick up into her wet swollen pussy causing her to moan in pleasure with occasional grunts as I watched in disbelief as I saw my wife bent over on top of him being fucked like I've never fucked her by a man with a larger penis than mine that knew how to use it! It was the most incredible thing I had ever seen! As if that wasn't enough.....he turned her over on her back and proceeded to fuck her to her euphoric enjoyment in the traditional missionary position. It was so surreal to watch her clasp onto to him as well observe how much he shook her breasts with his thrusting. After a while he changed positions by laying on his side holding her legs up with her on her back and re-entering her to her undeniable approval. After what seemed like 15 minutes he asked her to bend over and without hesitation she stood up at the edge of the bed arching her sculptured back that tapers down to her waist sticking her oh so perfect ass out for him to grab onto for him to enter deep into her throbbing pussy. Now folks, seeing her ravished in this position was a sight to behold especially when he grabbed her shoulders for her to take the full brunt of his thrusting and that she did! After her legs about gave out she climbed upon the bed onto her knees bending over with him right behind her continuing to deliver her a sexual euphoric experience. This remarkable experience lasted for over and hour and a half and was truly out of this world. Unfortunately, he backed out of wanting a long-term friendship with her due him getting back with the love of his life. So now we're looking for the right guy for her for a long time friendship any advice or suggestions would be welcome.

Probably the best advice I could have asked for. Never move faster than the slowest member. Thank you for your reply. It is close to what her friend said to me just a few days ago.

15 years ago, we went to our 1st swingers club in Pennsylvania with the intention of doing nothing more than looking around and watching the activities. We returned to that original club and visited several others in the northeast before we became comfortable enough to start to modify our original intentions. Many couples we know, including the 1st couple with whom we ever played, started exactly the same way. Please OP, go to Trapeze and do what pleases YOU. You owe no one there anything other than the price of admission to the club. If you come to Florida, we'd be happy to share a drink and some conversation at the FLL Trap, no strings attached. We like talking to new couples because it reminds us of the erotic excitement we shared as we began exploring our hobby. Don't be discouraged by AR's comments. I suspect he's already been sanctioned by the Board.

Some males just don't have enough blood volume to sustain an erection AND think at the same time.

Trust/Love! To us we can be with the top models, etc, doesn't matter. We know that no one can make us feel better then each other, and there's only "US" in our hearts.

RTC, As I said we have gone to Swingers clubs and resorts a number of times, and have never run into anyone like AR1547. Everyone is overly nice. We have actually made friends that we have stayed in touch with at these clubs. They were full swap lifestylers and know we don't play. AR1547, can you list the clubs and resorts that you hang out in, so we all know where not to go.

We've only had a total of four play sessions with the same couple, but our first full swap was very vivid. Mrs. E bent over one side of the bed and Mrs. E's friend bent over my side, both getting it from behind. I'm not sure who Mrs. E made more eye contact with, me or her friend while her friend's husband fucked her, but it was one of those dazed "desperate for cock" looks that I really prized.

We agree that things can get quickly out of hand. All three of us are aware of that pitfall and have openly discussed it with all parties present not once but on multiple occasions. Per our (the three of us) conversation last night: it is walking that razor's edge between a physical connection and an emotional one where the secondary relationship cannot interfere with the well-being of the primary one. We cannot predict the future. This whole thing might work on the long term. It could end tomorrow. Just so everyone knows, DH is very much included in the relationship between R and myself. Nothing is hidden between any of the parties involved. In addition to what I relay to him, DH gets an "eyes on" chance to see for himself what is going on between R and me each time we meet up. Often the three of us will eat together and conversations of all types are had with input from all. All three of us are surprised at the ease with which we can all talk to one another openly and honestly about anything in such a short time. For whatever reason, this has all seemed so natural, without awkwardness. I am not very good at hiding my thoughts, should never play poker and DH can read me like a book. He might not always know exactly what I am thinking but, he knows to ask. That is where communication, honesty (both with each other and with ourselves) comes in. If at any point DH sees anything that hints at inappropriate feelings developing, he will voice it without reserve and knows that I will not dismiss his observations. Sometimes he knows me better than I know myself. The following two paragraphs, may or may not be of relevance here but, probably should be mentioned. Throughout our lives together, most of my best friends have been male. Of the five people that I know would drop everything if we needed help, only one of them is female. None of those relationships have even semi-entered into a physical one even though we have known each other for decades. They are truly "just" friends. I simply find the emotional drama that most females tend to drag around with them, tiresome. I prefer the way a man's mind works; get pissed off, have your say and then move on. No back stabbing or gossiping, no dragging up unresolved issues. Speak your mind and be done. As I mentioned previously, there are several complex issues at hand. Both R and I are "sapiosexuals", meaning, we are very much attracted to and turned on by intellect, almost more than physical stimulation. Speaking for myself, a good intellectual conversation can often leave me as sexually satisfied as a decent roll in the hay. This aspect makes it so that both of us could, if it intellectually made sense, end the physical relationship and still find the other aspects of the relationship very satisfying for both of us. Mind sex. It is a curious dynamic and more often difficult compatibility-wise to find than a good physical one. As DH's married/divorcing friend from the bar noted in surprise upon meeting R, he's not as good looking as she expected (meaning DH is much better looking). To which DH relayed to her, yes, but R is very smart so my choice wasn't a surprise to him. I'm not naïve in this and neither is anyone else involved here (R is not some twenty year old and this isn't his first rodeo. It is part of the reason I turned down the 29 year old boy toy). If anything, because this is our first journey as a married couple into this genre, we are being hyper vigilant in that regard. Things will evolve and change...they already have and so far, so good. For now, we will take things day by day, watch for anything that even hints at a problem and discuss how best to move forward as a couple. There is always a choice to be had one of which is to call it quits cold-turkey if things are headed in a "too dangerous" direction. PS: DH would like all of you to know that he is no longer having issues with his ED and his sex drive is beyond normal (we are having hot sex daily) so if y'all can stop focusing on that please.

Sorry for getting pissed, your post caught me at a bad time...dang dog peed on the pile of laundry I had waiting to wash. Anyway, you wouldn't be the first to think I was a male by my writing style, I get that a lot, so no offense there. Too many years reading and writing unemotional just the facts dossiers. My apologies also for not having added some of the details but, there are so many in a lifetime and unless you are writing a book, some stuff has to get left out. It doesn't help that we were both raised to believe that sex, intimacy, is something that stays in the bedroom and never in public so talking openly with strangers about this is a new experience for both of us. I'm much more willing to break with our upbringing than DH, so I am posting and he is not. I have never been one to speak for him, we share a lot of common thoughts in common but our perspective is different, so writing/speaking for both of us seems...presumptive? There are a lot of complex issues involved here including sexual repression brought on by a lifetime of a rather strict religious upbringing. Before anyone says I am bashing on him again, sex with him has always been the most loving experience of my life. He is a kind and gentle-man. Always thoughtful and respectful of me but, very vanilla to my cinnamon (he'll readily admit to that). I am the wild-child and he is the voice of temperance. This foray into open marriage, seems to be having some good effects for both of us. DH would tell you that he is and always has been a bit of a stick in the mud (he says he has a sick up his ass), a person who is risk adverse. It is how life turned out for us. I have always been the risk taker, the "I'll try anything once", adrenaline junkie type and tempered it out of necessity, for many years. We couldn't ever afford to take risks because always, always, the children's well being came first. It has been that way nearly our entire marriage; financially, vacation wise and right down to our sex life. Now we are at a point in our lives where risks are not as consequential as they once would have been and we can focus more on us, what makes us happy. For the first time in a long time, I can be me, all of the cinnamon me; less mother and more woman. DH says seeing that side again after all of these years is making him explore a side of himself that he never knew existed. He never allowed himself to go there. First, because he was taught that it was morally bad to even think these things (or feel lust at all) and then after, we were married because even entertaining such thoughts was irresponsible, disrespectful towards the woman and "cheating" if he so much as acknowledged that another woman was attractive in his own mind and would lead to nothing good. For the first time in his life he feels free to be both "bad" and at least mildly irresponsible. For him, it is a slow process and I am letting him have his space in reconciling the old way he believed he had to be, with the possibilities ahead. He is getting to explore his full sexuality for the first time. I hope I explained that well. This said, I don't think his ED is caused by depression. More likely, the ED caused some depression; the doctors thoroughly checked him out. He has a history of prostate cancer in his family, both his grandfather (died of it) and his father (caught it in time) had it. Doc thought DH's enlarged prostate might be part of the issue and so, is treating him for that (our insurance does not cover the little blue pill or any substitute for ED and at $80 a pop is out of our price range for the frequency we are used to). The meds are helping gradually and actually, since we started this venture, sex has been really good between us namely because it seems to give him a little extra oomph; Somehow, seeing me enjoying a non loving sexual relationship with someone else, is bringing home the idea that I wasn't just talking smack when I said that it is okay to treat me like a sex object at times. He is realizing that it is okay to act on his lust without reserve and fuck me like I am a woman, rather than just treating me like a fragile flower, a revered mother. Making love is good too but, as one woman he was talking to said, sometimes a woman just needs you to take her home throw her one the bed and fuck her. Last night was the first time ever that he actually talked dirty to me during sex and dang if it didn't just send me over the edge! He is seeing that acting on his desires and expressing his urges in bed doesn't mean he is disrespecting me or not loving me or any of those bad things he was told it was. Letting loose is both good and can be mind blowing. God I love him! This just keeps getting better and better.

I can understand your critique and it is one of the pitfalls of written communications and not actually knowing the people in question, that often things go unsaid which probably should not. Both of us read your post. A short summary of the commentary from him: DH said to tell you that as far as the issue of him not having a choice here, don't worry about him. He said neither of us has a doubt that if either he or I wanted to call it quits, wanted to go back to a monogamous lifestyle, that either of us would do anything for the other. It sure would be a lot easier from a logistics standpoint. No questions asked. DH says he is not the free spirit that I am and knows that loosening up a bit would be good for him. He has actually always coveted the ability that I have to speak my mind and be myself without constantly worrying about being judged by others. It is part of why he loves me so much and without it, I wouldn't be me. That even though he is moving much more slowly than I, he is finding it to be a worthy pursuit. He says he will get there in in his own time or not---in which case we can always decide to make another change. We balance each other out in the best way possible. Whatever partners we encounter know that any one of us can put the brakes on this at any moment. It is part of the discussion we have with them. To clarify, this was something that both of us have brought up to one another during the last few years. Sometimes he was hesitant to take that step and sometimes I was. Eventually through discussions, we BOTH decided to give this a try and see how it works for us. Neither one is going to leave this marriage for any reason. Period. If you would like to get into some of the trials and tribulations of what we have been through in our lives that I did not detail here, start with $26,000 a year, 20 years old with a baby and no government assistance or parental charity taken. We dug ourselves out of that quagmire to make quite a nice life for our family and we did it as a team. If you don't think that was tough enough, try putting yourselves through college at the same time. You need not worry about my feelings of self worth or the adoration and admiration I feel for my husband. He is the most wonderful caring father and husband. I am quite proud of what we accomplished together. What were you doing in your relationships at age 20? I know what all of our friends were doing and it wasn't working full time, changing diapers, making meals and being so dog tired that you found yourself waking up the next morning with your face firmly planted on a text book, while trying to make a traditional marriage work long term as you both ran in different directions one off to your 7:30 am micro economics class and the other getting ready for work. Rinse. Repeat. Ask me to show you a person that has absolutely no self doubts, never evaluates what they could have done differently or thinks they could have done something in their lives better and I will show you either an arrogant ass or a psychopath. I am far from perfect and made my share of mistakes but, I love my husband and put his feelings before my own. I am not easily insulted but, in this case I am actually insulted that you would even entertain the idea that I would walk out on my husband because he has a little issue sometimes in the bedroom. Talk about blows to my self-worth? Thanks a lot. We will depart this earth married and very much in love with the other. If the last 30+ years working through issues of far greater importance to a marriage than sex haven't already evidenced that, I don't know what would.

The sex is good but ancillary to the benefits to our marriage which we are already beginning to realize. Just to clarify. It isn't new men. It is a man. We are finding ourselves in our ongoing discussions, most comfortable with one guy, for a long term friends with benefits rather than a series of one time hook-ups. Someone who is comfortable with both DH and myself but, can keep any type of romantic "love" out of it. I found myself last weekend, fending off a very good looking and insistent 29 year old who said he didn't care how old I was, I was beautiful. Good for the ego but, he was a bit too hot to trot and not the type who would be respectful of our rules or existing relationship. Physically tempting but, he wasn't a good fit for us as a couple.

Man, I want to live in your neighborhood!

We don't d overnight stays, so no overnight swapping. I can see the appeal, maybe someday.