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Yes it would. Diplomacy and courtesy seem not to be taught in school.

So, my wife and I have been together 9 years, and recently we discussed opening up our marriage. We talked about a lot of things, but she keeps going back to one specific fantasy. She wants to watch me with another woman. She is straight, but has tried being with a woman only it just did not float her boat. Which makes me have doubts. Specifically, is this a set-up? I have heard (a lot) about guys who want to be cuckolded, but I have never heard of a woman who wanted to be. Especially when she is not interested in girl on girl at all. We do not have the type of relationship in which she has ever "tested" me before, so I do not think this is a test. And the idea really excites me. Our sex life had been on life support until this subject came up, but it was still a good relationship nevertheless. Now our sex life is in overdrive, and she keeps talking about watching me almost every time (now 2 or 3 times per day). I love her ideas, but at the end of the day, my marriage is way more important to me than fulfilling any fantasy. I am confused and aroused, worried and excited all at the same time. Any advice appreciated.

For the second time, a couple declined to play with us by saying he would like to play with my wife, but we don't have a four way match. Call me thin skinned, but isn't that insulting to me? He is saying that his wife doesn't want to play with me. Would it not be more diplomatic to just say we are not a match? Well, my wife is hot. I will play with her and that guy won't. And my wife is much hotter than the two women who dissed me. It's a rough crowd out there! Ps: I am HWP, above average looking, certified good partner.

I have to say I find this post a little bit disturbing, as if it is written by someone in the middle of an emotional crisis or a psychotic break. Do you need help? Or maybe I am just not understanding this post? I am too new to these forums to really know what is a normal post I guess...no judgement intended. Just concern, having a background in recognizing signs and symptoms of distress.

I guess I should have mentioned that we do the same thing. First meeting is always on neutral ground with no play planned. This way everyone has a chance to get to know each other and then talk to each other in private if they are interested in more. Even still, you don't get invited to our house until we have gotten to know you better and feel comfortable with that.

Okay so I learned something since the last post. First, I think I now know why she has been fantasizing about something new, and my understanding of what she is really fantasizing about has changed. Apparently, my understanding of her girl-girl experience was not accurate. About 5 years ago, a friend of hers invited her to Florida to spend the week-end with her, with the understanding that it would be her first lesbian experience. She was very uncertain about it, and I encouraged her to explore that side of herself. It turns out that my wife is not attracted to women specifically, but rather to specific people, and the experience ended up being one of the most erotic and sensual experiences that she has ever had. In fact, she fantasizes about it all of the time. The only thing that she would change about it would be that she would like to have shared the experience with the person that she loves most. She does not consider herself bi-, but she does consider herself open to sensual experiences, with the sex of the person (or people) involved being less important than the sexiness of the person (or people). And she wants me to have these experiences as well. Now, about last night... She went out with A., her shoe broke, she got intoxicated, the music was too loud for her to really talk to A. about what she had in mind, and ultimately nothing is likely to come of it. But who knows, I think I now get where my wife is coming from, and am open to trying new things, and now feel secure that exploration is not likely to jeopardize anything with my beautiful wife. So there's that.

I would call myself bi-flexible. I am attracted to masculine men. Bodybuilders, football players or other blue collar types. I enjoy and appreciate masculinity just as much as I do the female form.

i think it is hot. I am a female and i love to watch another female with my boy... but i am bi and love to play with girls, too. A win-win situation

we like to meet for a vanilla drink or dinner first. Scope out the psychos without pressure, have a chance to mull it over and discuss with my spouse privately. It says we are generally vanilla in our first meet in our profile. One suitor said that I am led around by my woman and we are practicing morality by not doing it on the first meeting. I thanked him for completing our vetting without having to spend the time to meet.

Please read some of the threads about swinging with friends. This can open a completely different can of worms (I never even knew worms CAME in cans). Also, before you take the plunge, re-read this: Until you can openly talk to her about anything and everything, don't be in too big of a rush to get started. One needs to be careful before you open Pandora's box. While swinging can make a great relationship reach unimaginable heights, it will also magnify any flaws or weaknesses the relationship has. Make sure that the relationship is as strong as possible before proceeding. Let us know how things go.

I don't think my wife would sign up for that, nor would I ask her or want her to. I think that there is an element of degradation to it. I don't feel that way about a gangbang that is non violent and a consensual romp.

I'm sure this is a topic that has been covered before and there are probably some people who might roll their eyes about my dilemma....please bear with me I'm new to all this. I'm a early 20s bisexual female who has been in serious long term relationships basically since high school. After my last one ended I sort of realized in a panic that I wasn't living the way I wanted. I'm a very driven and goal oriented person and relationships make me too complacent and compromising towards my work ethic. Also I realized that while I'm young I don't want to miss out on the opportunity to explore and fuck and have fun with life. Being attracted to women my whole life but not getting a chance to explore it more has also been killing me, and ever since my last breakup I have been almost exclusively focused my attraction on women due to missing out on this. However I'm not interested in dating either gender or finding a relationship, and so after really thinking about what I wanted I realized I would like to explore with couples. That way I could get in my fix for romantic/sexual interaction as well as both genders, without having all the high pressure that comes from dealing with single people. However, despite the fact that I'm in my early 20s I feel like I'm lost when it comes to this because being in serious relationships for the past 7 years I haven't really ever had to navigate the hookup scene. People might say that a young bisexual female should have an easy time finding couples but I barely know how to find other singles (having been pursued by all my ex's) let alone people into less vanilla stuff. Plus I live in a smaller town so there's no real swinger clubs where I live, though I'm sure there are some ones I could travel too. If anyone can give me advice on where to start that would be great. I get this is basic stuff but I'm finally breaking free from my monogamous, secluded shell into exploring all the stuff I've been dying too my whole life without having to sign on for another long term relationship commitment. I also want to note as a young student, I'm more interested in finding an older stable couple to be with. Not only do I want low drama, but I somewhat crave a mentorship role since my whole life I've dated younger and felt like I've never been able to really have that great sexually developing relationship with those who are more explored and satisfied than me (all my boyfriends were virgins when we met if that gives any indication....). Also as someone who is graduating with top honors, applying to a top 5 grad school for my degree, and a total type A workaholic I would like a couple compatible on that level and all the in person people I know who want to experience swinging are not really my type there. I'm not looking for a relationship but I do want chemistry. Any help is appreciated :)

Dear Sun & Moon, My belief is that you are a tad too pessimistic. I'm not saying there aren't more than a few creeps out there, and yes, you have to be careful of them. But we've met a number of wonderful people here, both couples and single men. The best of luck to you.

My husband and I both had bisexual experience before we went out, and shared our Free-Spirit way of living. I am equally into women and men, and my hubby likes a good cock, but has more of the love of good. fit women. In our relationship, we share both sexes without reservation, as there is some getting to know them, usually share with dinner and a pool party at our home. We believe that all humans are innately Bisexual, and as we love to share opposite sex lovers, same sex can also be exciting if you've never experienced it.