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My hubby and I are totally new to this! We're still in a "learning" phase I guess you could call it. We are trying to figure out what we both want and what our limits are. Its been very exciting and has actually brought us way closer and we havent even really done anything yet. We have talked about threesomes and both really like the idea of bringing another girl into the bedroom. Also, we're talking about maybe joining with another couple (or more than one couple, if that is the case) for group sex. I love this thread btw. It nice reading what others want in and future and what they have already experienced.

I tend to agree with kikonkrome here. I know from personal experience how hard it is for me to be as comfortable being flirty and touchy-feely with other women as my wife is with other men. I have always been very respectful of women and it didn't feel natural for me to flirt with someone else. I prefer to find couples where the wife is more aggressive so I don't necessarily have to be bc it's not my comfort zone. If the guy is telling you through text/ chat that you turn him on then he probably wants you to somehow assure him that you're ok with him being more flirty. If you decide to see this couple again, try being the aggressor and see if that changes his demeanor.

That's pretty high number for Kasidie. Here in SFL SDC is the dominant site. Although I believe the amount of hits is more determined on the main picture your profile has. To get a better idea if your context is working better, you would have to see how many more messages from interested couples (or less) you are receiving. We receive 3-5 emails a week (sometimes more, sometimes less), but that is the average (both sites combined SDC & SLS). So if that number would increase, it would indicate it's working better. Not sure if you ever tried SDC but you can get a full access trial using code "1500". I did a search with your post code and got a large number in that area.

Just quietly throwing this out there. In our play she has control of everything. PERIOD If my wife says no, then that's it. But there has been times when she has had for fun than I. Other times I have more fun than her. The after glow sex is amazing for a week or so. But we play perhaps once a month to supplement our sex lives.

As already said, never 'take one for the team'...just don't. It usually doesn't end well. Second, if one person says no, then the answer for the couple is also no. No questions, no repercussions. There are other couples out there, just move on to the next. You are a team, play as a team and decide as a team. Neither of you should have to do something (or someone) they don't want to do. Just let him know this...or point him to this thread. He needs to be reminded that YOU come first and everything else comes after that.

HornetToronto is correct in what he said and I'm glad he said it before me. I said much the same in a rather contentious exchange of a few years ago and was figuratively tied to a pillar, hung up-side-down and verbally whipped. What he said also matches my personal experience. Squirting is for me neither a turn-on or a turn-off. It's just something that happens. It seems perfectly natural.

One of my favorite memories is the time that my wife and I had her first full swap with another couple. Up until a certain point in that night, we had to been having a soft swap out with the other couple. Lots of wandering hands And oral between both couples. At one point my wife looked up and said "all right now, I don't care whose dick it is but somebody is going to fuck me now! " it was so hot to hear my wife be so blunt and into the experience. I promptly obliged and began to slide inside her briefly. I then watched another man have fun with my wife for the first time :-)

OMG OH MY GOD Last night was probably the most fun I've ever had. We met a guy on SLS, we had drinks with him and one of his friends about a week ago and he was nice, young (like by 20 years!) and we all got along well. I even went to one of his softball games... We got together last night with no expectations of anything happening. We watched some sports at a brewery bar (all of them it seemed, I just drank and listening to three men argue about football and baseball) and then we went dancing. I danced my face off! I danced with Mr Hitch, both guys and various men and women on the dance floor. Best workout I've ever had (paying for it now, knee hurts) and it was so much fun! Friend said 'lets go to my place' so we walked there. He lives downtown, enjoying being 30 and single and getting laid most every night. Other friend and I were talking on the balcony and he asked if he could take Mr Hitch into the bedroom. I said he would have to ask him and I watched as he took him by the hand and disappeared. I followed to find him with both guys, still dressed, all hands and shirts coming off. I put myself into the middle and kissed him. Then it was suddenly all hand and lips and tongues and two people helped me get naked. And then it was 4 people on the bed. I watched my husband find his bi side and I was kinda distracted but not for long...for the first time in 22 years, I had sex with another man, two actually. wow.....no issues for him at all, he said he loved hearing me climax over and over, watching me on top of another guy and doing thing himself that he'd only dreamed of. Apparently he gives a good blow job. And watching that was the hottest thing I've ever seen. There was a time for each of us that the other three concentrated on one. On the way down in the elevator, Mr Hitch said 'let's do that again.' Yes, let's so totally do that again....