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I have permission from the author to post a link to his article. He's not a member of this website. The 'cracked dot com' website is the latest incarnation of the old Cracked Magazine -- a "Mad Magazine" copycat from a few years back. So, just FYI. Here it is. My Wife And I Are Swingers: Here's What It's Actually Like

So my husband and I have played with a few couples the latest couple he met on an sls website and talked to them before he told me about it He said they seemed nice, we met in person and yes they were nice but I just wasn't attracted to them and we have nothing in common, I told him I wasn't feeling them n he seemed sad. So against my better judgment I agreed to play with them cause he really wanted to. It was probably the worst sex I've ever had he went down on me and that was decent but when he started to fuck me I could barely tell he was inside me and it was literally over in a couple minutes he jumped up n came back n put on a new condone n attempted to try again and it wasn't working Besides that horrible sex this couple is very vanilla besides the swinging and I don't even know if they have a good sex life between them, (my husband and I are into hard core kink) the next day they were already askin if we could meet them again that night or if not when would be the soonest we could meet them, I told my husband the sec was horrible for me and I didn't enjoy myself he says they guy was probably just to excited cause I'm so much younger and hotter than his wife My husband had a great time and wants to meet them again but it was horrible for me and I didn't enjoy the lame sex I got and getting to look over at my husband pounding the shit out of the other woman exactly how I love to get fucked Now my husband wants to play with them again Should I be upset that he wants to play with a couple that I didn't enjoy being with Or should I just let it go and try again and hope it's better next time I'm very open about sex and can easily have sex with someone n it mean nothing and I forget about it the next day but this guy was horrible in bed And than after was telling me how amazing I am And I'm just thinking he has no idea I didn't even get a chance to do anything Please help

Hi All, We've begun to experience a bit of a trend....call it a strange habit that many people we contact on SLS (our only online source at present..as Kasidy seems not to have ANY local folks). Here's a couple of scenarios. We find a couple or single we like and send them an email. They respond, and we start to chat. We open our pics, and each agree that we like what we see. Chat a bit more, then I suggest we meet. Never hear from them again. Second Scenario: Find a single male. He's raving about Angel's pics. She likes his. We chat, seems that we're in sync. We don't even get the chance to set up a meeting and he disappears. Sometimes we've exchanged pics, but we are trying to be careful not to do so with people we suspect are "collectors". Finally, I see an awful lot of folks advertising that they'd like to meet a couple for FF, with the other hubby getting in on the FmF, but regarding the other hubby (me), saying he can look but can't touch. A variant on this is that the couple advertises for another couple so he can watch the girls. What is it that folks just don't get? BTW, if you'd like to look at our profile, it's on sls as angelandtiger. Let us know if you'd like us to open our pics for you...we can do that. T

My husband told me the "trick" to getting an erection in these situations is to be the first in action. He had the problem the first few times but discovered if he started having intercourse before i did, he could get erect. If he was watching me play it would distract him. I'm not a guy, just relating his experience!

Ok. I know this is a taboo topic to some people, but I'm curious what you guys and ladies think. I've been on social media reading a lot about squirting. It seems like so many people (male and female) are weirded out by it, grossed out or say it is piss. Some people even say it is unnatural. This makes me incredibly insecure as I am a squirter and, I can tell you, it is a totally involuntary response by my body when I am extremely comfortable and being fucked right. Anyone here have opinions or insight as to what it is? Also, what are your thoughts? Turn on or turn off?

Please allow me to vent for a moment. Understand that Clubs and Parties simply aren't an easy option for us -- geography, location, and demographics are the biggest culprits, regarding face-to-face swing socialization. There is, however, an active community online, especially through SLS, in this area. Only, we're getting nowhere. In the time since we moved here, we've met two couples, both of whom just up and disappeared after an initial meetup, another couple that was very interested, but were uncomfortably close to our 'Vanilla' lives (and we absolutely cannot risk mixing the two). Other than that, there's been a lot of e-mail, phone, and text communication, which invariably comes to an unexpected stop. 'Stop' as in the 'two couples who just up and disappeared', above. Usually, it's after we share face photos (and I've posted about that elsewhere on swingersboard!). So, aside from the sudden silence, there's a phrase that keeps getting used over and over -- as if there's a Swinger/Lifestyle email template everyone is using. The phrase is: "After much consideration, we don't feel there's a connection." Jeepers! Aside from the fact that there was a lot of connection and interest up until I sent my face photo, could people *please* stop using that phrase? Or if it's a party/club, could you use something other than "We don't think you'll fit in with our crowd."? It's just gotten beyond tiresome. Jeez. /End of Rant.

We were curious about Kasidie, but didn't see that many couples for SFL like we do in SDC, and the ones we did see on Kasidie are also on SLS and SDC. So no reason to join at the moment (but will give it a try). I do want thank you!! It was really sweet of you to validate us. Took me a bit to realize who it was, and why LOL. I can see why you get so many hits. You have some nice pictures in your profile. If you lived closer to us we wouldn't mind meeting you guys. (Took me awhile to figure out that I never logged out of Kas LOL)

We asked. We're in!

They apparently have high end dinners followed by a hotel suite get together. We are wondering what the story is. We signed up for it on SLS about a month ago. We wrote to them a week ago for details. It occurs in a week. Getting the feeling that they are blowing us off.

Also, if the jealousy does NOT go away, with more exposure, it probably won't and the lifestyle is not for you. That's not a bad thing and it's not a good thing. It's just YOUR thing.

from Oklahoma, Simonemarks! Thanks for opening discussion on a very important swingers' issue. In my opinion, a couple needs to understand that love is not being expressed by their partners when he/she is with another person. The actions may look very similar, but there is a world of difference. It's in the mind. Laura and I considered that which we did together to be "love making." With other people, it was "fucking for fun." Our only rule in swinging was to never "make love" with anyone else. That was easy because we didn't love anyone else. This issue is covered (some might say "ad nauseum") in our book, most of it in the free sample section. Y'all are very right to work out an understanding on jealousy to assure your swinging experiences will be fun, not worrisome. Good luck!

The way to end jealousy is communication. Talk to him about these things and clear the air between the two of you. Communication is what increases trust and trust helps alleviate jealousy. No matter how good someone else is at having sex, it's ONLY sex and he's still coming home with you.