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You know, we have a fairly new truck and car. I'm completely satisfied with both. But if a friend offered to let me take his Porsche for a spin? Why not?

So need advice to help wife overcome one final question. She ask the following question "Why do I need to swing? I am happy with what I have!" A bit of back ground - we have one experience so far - a full swap with a known couple. It happened as we were planning a vacation and the vanilla vacation was revised to be our introduction. Over the course of a week we escalated our play culminating in a full swap in the same room. The exp overall was good but not great. She has clearly indicated that she would play with them again. A large part of the issue is the strangers vs known couple element. We have been on several dates, but most cpls don't want to invest the time to get to know each other before playing. Suggestions or responses to the question? Thanks for your help.

I don't want to belong to a club that would accept me as a member.

The question is - what is the right thing to do for you? If you feel that you want to ask your husband to stop "mid way" and leave because you're not having fun, you have that right. At it's heart, swinging is a shared activity for a couple. You and your husband should talk more about this, and develop some rules and guidelines for how you want to handle this going forward. Make it clear to him that you're not ok with him playing when you're not having fun (and, fair is fair, if he's not having fun and you are that's not ok either). You may want to work out some kind of signal or clear way to express to each other that the session isn't working for you and politely back out.

MFM... wife can go for hours, and us guys?? Not so long.

Just quietly throwing this out there. In our play she has control of everything. PERIOD If my wife says no, then that's it. But there has been times when she has had for fun than I. Other times I have more fun than her. The after glow sex is amazing for a week or so. But we play perhaps once a month to supplement our sex lives.

I've always sat with my partner, talked a little and watched our respective significant others bang each other silly. Live sex is always the hottest sex to watch.

We play as a team. If either one of us were to say that we wanted to stop seeing a couple, or even just stop swinging, then we would both gladly stop with no questions asked. You both need to stop seeing this couple...NOW. It sounds like your wife is caught up in the NRE (new relationship energy) and is only focusing on that. When you connected with the woman (the second couple) and she didn't connect with the man and she wanted to move on, you both did. This is the same situation, only reverse. Remind her of this and (try) to move on. I say try because it doesn't sound like she wants to move on and may very well not choose to do so. There are so many red flags waving it looks like a Russian holiday parade. At this point, I think you should probably take a break and work on your relationship with just her for the time being. Be aware that she may try to continue seeing him...trust but verify. You've told her that you and the other wife are not connecting, but she seems not to care about this (or your feelings) right now. That alone is disrespectful and you are both supposed to be a team here. I really think that you two are in a dangerous place and need to stop swinging until you can improve things a bunch and even then not with this couple. Good luck and let us know how things progress.

Wife and I had our first FFM. It went even better than expected!Met the girl at a bar...she was a 10 and at least 12 years younger than me. Very secretive and only gave us her nickname, which was fine...she was being safe. 30 minutes of chit chat and back to our place. I was extremely nervous that I would not be able take care of two girls...but I rocked it! Wife is not bi or into girls, but she happily agreed to use a double dildo with the girl. One of the best sexual experiences of our lives! We hope she gets back to us to do it again.

Her first time with another man in front of me since we were married couldn't have been more perfect. She was so shy and nervous it was like watching a virgin. She kept her eyes closed from the moment she was naked and laying on her back on the bed waiting for him. As he began to press his cock into her her mouth and eyes opened wide to look at him and down at his cock as he pushed into her.

Get out of the house! Just being a comedian:) Sort of. The best place is a bar after midnight. I can explain if you want me to. If it is a total stranger, have them wear a condom. The best experience if you are worried about an STD is to do it with someone you already know. There are many other issues to consider beyond STD's when you have intimate encounters with another person.

Hi, We're quite new in this too, but I just wanted to share our experience to inspire you. We opened up our marriage, after 14 years happily together, 6 months ago. From the start, I (the wife) very much wanted to meet other guys solo. My husband didn't feel like keeping me from this, though he preferred not to be excluded form my adventures. So we agreed on telling each other 'as much as possible', and both created dating site accounts. From the start it was obvious that it was much more easy for me to meet guys, then for him to meet other ladies. Simply because there are not that many ladies on those apps looking for casual sex. I started seeing the first guy after a month, and from then on every 2 or 3 weeks different guys. In the beginning it was quite stressful for both of us, not knowing what this would lead to concerning our own sex life, but after 2 or 3 months the stress reduced and we started to visit swingers clubs, to have some shared experiences as well. For us the key to success, was the fact that we were very honest and open about our thoughts and feelings towards ourselves and each other. I think openness and trust is what you need to fully enjoy the swingers lifestyle. The fact that my hubby acknowledged my desire and need to feel free, made me love him even more. Our sex life has never been better. He loves to see how much attention I get, and how this turns me on. I hope that my experience will inspire you in any way. Please feel free to reply or contact me if you like to talk about your own experiences. xSuzy

Everytime Ms Dive has brought one of her friends home to "play in the pool", it is a fantasy fulfilled. She definitely knows who is gonna turn me on. Have we been together too long? Nah, just getting started.........

Well, I have two answers to the questions. When I was in my early thirties, my girlfriend and I were seduced by a couple in their forties. It lasted a couple of months, until I broke up with my girlfriend. Why at that time? Well, we were both divorced, looking for fun and new experiences. Then, I got married again (not to that girlfriend), we went a couple of decades until we got in the mood, we started swinging and hotwifing in our mid 50’s. Why then? We were both sexually active before we got married, our kids were grown up, we were getting a little bored with each other and we were mature enough to see that sex with others probably wouldn’t be a problem. (It wasn’t.) Should I have started earlier? It’s not an issue for me, it happened when it happened, when I was ready for it. I’m not a big age guy. I know some couples in their mid-twenties who are mature enough to handle the ups and downs that come with new experiences, I know people that would never be ready mentally regardless of age.

Always move at the speed of the slowest member...since you are hesitant about her swinging alone, then she should respect that and not consider it any longer. We think of swinging as a team sport and her becoming a free agent isn't going to help the team. Until you are ready (IF you are ever ready...and that's okay too) swinging separately should be taken off the board.