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Decisions should not be made while "buzzed".

I believe that Hedonism is what you are looking for. There is only one Hedonism, Hedo 2. (Hedo 3 closed several years ago.) The staff does a great job of keeping it clean. You should understand that the place is over 30 years old, but the new owners have spent millions on upgrading the rooms, fixing infrastructure, better food, etc. Part of this has been replacing air conditioners which now work quite well, and also putting a screen on the window to keep the bugs out. Honestly,you will be having so much fun hanging out with all your new friends, you will only be in the room to shower and sleep. You can look at the Hedonism website, click on group events, and see which groups will be there during which weeks. If you book with a group, you will get a better rate. We have gone with Jon's Fluffernutters (fluffernutters.com) several times, and will be there Nov 10 - 18. The Fluffs are a great group, normally people of various ages, some couples and some singles, non-judgmental folks from all over, friendly and inclusive people who want to party and have fun, some nudists, some swingers. You can make Hedo what you want it to be, and I'm positive your wife will not have any trouble finding a guy to play with. If you go with the right attitude, you will make friends that you'll stay in contact with for many years, and it may be the best vacation of your life. Feel free to ask more questions if you want and we'll try to answer. Good Luck!

Do a search for sex with friends - there are dozens of threads about having sex with friends here. There are also two schools of thought: heck yeah and hell no. If you currently have a established rule about this then it's really hell no. Personally, we are in the no camp. Risk/reward is too great that if anything happens to the friendship (and this will really test that friendship) your other friends and family may very well find out about it. Not worth the risk in our minds...especially when it is so easy to find someone you don't know who is in the L/S (and hopefully is better suited to this happening) to perform the same service...and is then gone.

Not my review but one I found on another site but it may help you:

Madly, there have been nights when we have done exactly that, and we are a veteran (15 years), full swap couple. Some nights, we just want to be naked and play next to and around other naked couples, enjoying the sights and sounds around us. We particularly like the multi bed section under the mirrored ceiling. Swinging is really about you two as a couple and what YOU enjoy. If you're in your fun zone and the couple next to you starts to touch, a simple "no thank you" or "not tonight" is nearly always sufficient at Trapeze. Being naked in a group setting does not necessarily indicate that you're looking to boink anyone. You ALWAYS have a choice and the final say in the matter.

There are couples in the LS that like being watched and post profiles to find other couples that like the same. Not trying to categorize you, but it is acceptable IMO. Just be upfront when you talk to people that you're only there to be watched. You might even find a couple to join you in watching with there own partner, if you like to be a little more adventurous. Go and have fun.

Agree with Gold!!

You are right which is why he needs to be told this. Guys sometimes forget to think things all the way thru...especially when it's the little head doing the thinking. It sounds like he is attracted to the wife and so he wants to keep playing with her. What he needs to be reminded is that YOU should always come first. In swinging, as already stated, the woman usually controls the show. He needs to remember that without you being on board this doesn't happen. There's only one you, one wife, one woman he loves. The rest of this is just fun. He has to be reminded this. If you are not on board the results are...not good. There are other women out there, and some of them have other good men. Go find another couple to play with. Don't be 'upset'...that's an emotional response and can sound petty...like you don't want him to have his fun. Guys like facts over emotions. Tell him that the other guy is a poor lover and you don't want to play with them again because of that. That you want the two of you to find another couple to play with (you're a team, keep reminding him of that, and you still want to play, just not with that couple). Also let him know if he still wants to keep playing with her, then you would rather stop swinging totally (because the other guy is a lousy lover). If that doesn't get him to move on, then you have much bigger problems. Good luck and keep us up to date.

I'm fine with one partner having more fun But if one of us didn't enjoy it at all in my opinion thier is no point in playing with that couple again It's just for fun so if it isn't fun I don't wanna do it