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The simple answer is to be open and honest with him. You said you feel terrible about it. Tell HIM. Apologize for not helping. Next time this happens, he needs to tell you so you can help. This is similar to my issue in the getting the wife to talk thread. You both have to be open with your feelings. In the other thread, I tried to guess what my wife was feeling. I was completely wrong. Sounds like your man is doing the same thing. He is wrong about your feelings too. But he won't know that unless you let him know what your true feelings are.

I will always kiss my wife, regardless of where she's had her mouth. I love her and if she's just sucked another guy dry, I'll kiss her and say good girl.

She loves when I eat her after another guy has cum in her. She says her orgasm from that are so intense. Who am I to deny her such pleasure.

Now I don't know your husband but, if it were me, I'd read your post here and understand. Hey, we men know how something new, sexually, can affect your better judgement in the heat of the moment! Just keep reassuring him and let time heal. It sounds like you have a good marriage and good marriages survive all.

How about instead of you don't know George it's 'you don't know Jack'

We had a chance to talk last night. Actually went really well. Turns out,the reason for the silence was due to her being afraid of hurting my feelings. Ironic, because I was trying to get her to open up about hers. Seems we were both worried the other. A little background. Years ago the wife had curiosity about other women. The opportunity came when a lady friend came on to her. I was there and encouraged her to go for it. Over months it developed into a few foursomes so the husbands wouldn't feel left out. Flash forward 10 years. I still support her being with other women to satisfy her bi side. I can't satisfy it. I don't have the anatomy for it. Unicorns are rare so most of that satisfaction comes from foursomes.and that is where we are now. Like I said, my frustration was that she wouldn't talk about it. She would just go along. Last night when we talked she revealed that one her reasons for doing it was to make me happy. And here I am doing it to make her happy. We both enjoy it anyway. So with that out in the open, we can just do it just because it's fun. She agreed to try to be more open about her feelings toward sex. The only thing she still wants to hold back is her fantasies. She thinks I will be freaked out by how weird they are. That just makes me more interested to hear them. Oh well. One step at a time. In summery, I think we took a big step forward in our relationship. Time will tell for sure.. Thanks for everyone's help

My hubby and I are totally new to this! We're still in a "learning" phase I guess you could call it. We are trying to figure out what we both want and what our limits are. Its been very exciting and has actually brought us way closer and we havent even really done anything yet. We have talked about threesomes and both really like the idea of bringing another girl into the bedroom. Also, we're talking about maybe joining with another couple (or more than one couple, if that is the case) for group sex. I love this thread btw. It nice reading what others want in and future and what they have already experienced.

go for it and have fun...

And may I add: Clair, Lora and I enjoy as well kissing one another with cum in our mouth or licking a messy pussy.

I agree wholeheartedly. I don't think it's gay or weird. I love my wife and I just love the enhanced feeling of her "sluttiness" when she has taken a load in her mouth or on her face (tasteful facial, not all over her forehead and stuff). I like to be a part of the whole situation so it's not uncomfortable at all for me.

Maybe I'm weird (and if it's weird, I don't want to be normal), but to see my husband in the throes of passion with another woman, I get this burning ball of excitement right around my belly button that radiates out, stealing the strength from my limbs, makes my hands tingle, and leaves me with goosebumps. I don't care if it's me or her, as long as I get to see him impassioned like that. Swinging is one of the things in my life that has left me feeling truly alive. Of all the things we could regret, swinging is not one of them. They're some of the happiest times I can think of. And I'm with MacNFries. We started out with the no-kissing rule, but soon realized it was silly: sex by nature is very intimate! So we just embraced it instead, come what may. The sky didn't fall, we didn't fall out of love with one another, we didn't run off into the sunset with a swinging partner. It was just part of the sexual experience. I tend to be very intimate and sensual with partners. I don't want to get involved in your life; I just want you to know that you deserve to feel loved, respected, cared for, etc. I feel this way about everyone; I just don't get to show it to most. Lucky you. And then I'm totally okay with us parting ways and living our lives, richer for the experience.