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We LOVE doing "that stuff"!!! Here are a few examples: We've engaged in this hobby for 15 years and still enjoy playing. Early in our exploration, we went to a pool party at a club near Harrisburg Pa. There may have been 10 other couples and a few singles naked around the pool. After awhile, the heat, adult beverages and teasing got to us and we went inside and kind of fell onto a bed in an open area just off the pool and we boinked our brains out. When we finished, we heard several comments about how hot our play was. When we looked up, there were 3 couples and a guy standing naked around the bed who had watched nearly the whole thing. All 4 guys were sporting erections so we must have done something right. Fully dressed at a swingers club in Philly, We were standing talking to the wife of a couple we knew and there were several others around us. The wife gave me a very sensuous kiss which gave me an immediate hard on which Mrs Doc noticed. She said to us, "don't let me interrupt you two" and she unzipped me and gave me a tremendous public bj while the other wife continued to kiss me. Incredibly erotic and when I came, Mrs Doc got applause from the bystanders. Our first orgy experience occurred at a club in northern Maryland. One of the rooms had 2 double beds crammed together in a rather small room. We were fairly new and were hanging with a group of 3 other couples who were much more experienced than we. They invited us back to that room with them. We said we weren't sure how far we were willing to go and all three couples were OK with that. It was so damned hot watching the foreplay and the switching off between them as they all got undressed. We got naked too and put ourselves in the far corner of one of the beds where we could play but could also watch and listen while the other 3 couples were getting it on and getting off. It was seriously erotic. We didn't engage much with the group although there were a few hands on Mrs Doc's boobs and I remember one of the women guiding my dick back into my wife after I slipped out (for a newbie, that was REALLY hot). As we were reaching our climaxes, we were being caressed but not demandingly groped by several people. They were gentle and un-intrusive but it was such a turn on and we came like crazy while they watched and urged us on. As we were driving home that night Mrs Doc said, "OMG honey, THAT was fun. Maybe next time we can get more involved with the others". I don't know how "normal" any of this is but we've shared lots of erotic experiences with others over a decade and a half. There are very few things we haven't tried, most things at least twice and we've no regrets. OP, your wife's fantasies are nothing to be afraid of. On the contrary, she showed a lot of courage and trust to share them with you. I hope you find the courage and trust within yourself to explore those fantasies with her. She sounds like a lot of fun.

Bring here here to Swingersboard. She will be able to see that we are normal people.

Bottom line, try talking to her. The discussion opened up for us when we were doing 69 and I mentioned that I always loved watching her give me head, and wouldn't mind watching her suck another cock. A couple days later we're in the car and when we pull into the driveway she goes "...did you mean that or were you just saying things in bed?" "I meant that." "I could be into that." Took us a while to get there from talking, but making sure she understands what you want is the first step.

Does anybody else like doing stuff like this? Once upon a time, we did stuff like that at least once month. Is it normal? Define normal. What is wanting to do it with an audience even called? Exhibitionism. Is this something you CAN do at a club or party? Depends on the club or party, but as I alluded to, it is a thing that my wife and I have done at swingers clubs in the past... both having sex "in public" and having gangbangs. Would some be willing to just watch, without touching her, if I can't handle it? Yes. In fact, the first rule of every club I've ever been to boiled down to "look, don't touch, until given express permission otherwise." Of course, none of that addresses your actual question... Is this a good idea for you? Right now, honestly, based on your post I don't think it is. You don't sound ready yet. Your wife has a fantasy and she's excited about it. That excitement is affecting you. However, it also scares you. That's ok, but that fear is telling you something and you should listen it. You've taken a good first step... looking for more information (and you've come to a great place to find it). Swinging is exciting, but the key to success isn't excitement or wild sex. It's openness, honesty, trust and - above all - communication. The decision to swing really shouldn't be made with a hardon. It should be made calmly, rationally, fully dressed and probably over breakfast. First, you need to learn more about this. You evidently have friends in the lifestyle. I suggest you talk to them. Tell your wife about your concerns and your fears. Tell her your willing to learn more but not ready to do anything yet. Read. Ask more questions. Take it slow. My $.02, for whatever it's worth.

For future reference: When two women 'start going at each other' men with either 1) be disgusted and leave or 2) wish they had some popcorn while they watch the show. In the future, keep your private life more separate from your play life but that's water under the bridge. Just own it. More than likely every guy in the place wished they had popcorn to watch and a girlfriend/wife that would do exactly what you were doing. Don't worry about it and just walk in. If anyone says anything just them them how you were drinking and hadn't eaten anything and things just got a bit out of control...but nobody will say anything. It happened, don't be ashamed, just walk in like you own the place (and know that some of the men will be wishing it would happen again). Remember, even the women in the bathroom where applauding...

You need love/trust/communication. Get those in order first then start opening up the communication by talking about your sexual fantasies and ask her for hers. Once you can talk about sex... (see sig at bottom). You MUST have a great (not just good) relationship to be successful. She must know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will be there for her thru anything. Swinging will make a great relationship better than ever imagined, but it also works as a magnifying glass and will show every crack and weakness a 'good' (or less) relationship has. Don't be in a rush, take your time and never forget she is your priority. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

Exactly! You probably found this site because of your interest. Just tell her that you'd heard about the lifestyle and thought it interesting enough to learn more. And you found a site with some interesting things that you'd like her to see and discuss with you.

I think I have to take GoldCoCouple's side on this one. If we ran into you guys at a club and you and my wife agreed to play and we were watching, if he jumped into the middle of it and started groping my wife I think I would have to say something. That is just not good LS manners. I'm honestly not sure if he has the maturity to be in the LS. Maybe someday, but his actions now say otherwise.

Now, honestly, if my wife said that to me I'd be on cloud nine. When we did swing, she was usually pretty reserved and quiet about what she enjoyed or wanted to do. But I can understand your apprehensions. It sounds like this came out of the blue. Like Luvin eye full wrote, take your time and discuss it more. And, hey, talking it out can be lots of fun too. Your wife sounds like a gun lady and you just might have as much fun as she will. OK, one more thought, she hasn't told you which of your friends are swingers but give some thought to all of your friends and see if there isn't a wife or two that you just might love to have sex with.

machiavel55, I don't have as much experience in the swing community (have been with 10 couples, maybe), but I do think that spending the whole night alone with a new partner is more likely to lead to romance. It's not a certainty, just more likely. A well known open relationship advocate and sex educator Reid Mihalko lists 4 rules for keeping sex casual or on the lighter side with a lover. 1. Do not wake up by their side. 2. Group sex reduces helps keep it casual. 3. Don't fuck them all weekend long. 4. Don't fuck them more than once a month unless you're a black belt at "friends with benefits". Source: podcast episode of Why Are People into That? Why Are People Into That?

That sounds like a great idea!! Create your own dinner event post on SLS (Call it "We don't want to know George dinner" LOL) request confirmation so you can give out the reservations to the restaurant. We would probably create our own in the near future but would probably do a BBQ at the beach instead.

Sounds like even if you were to go it's not going to be a very good event if everyone is left hanging. You are better off not attending...maybe a club instead. Or get those that you have heard from and arrange for you all to have dinner somewhere else...

Traveling too California anytime soon?