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We are currently on 3 sites, KAS, SDC, and SLS. But from our experience it's mostly based on where you live. I can tell you that here in South Florida SDC is number 1, SLS is second, and KAS is a almost non existent. For South Florida 1. SDC More couples, more features, great private, and public events, younger crowd. Can be very X-rated with videos and pix (that can be negative or positive, depending on your view.) Site can be a little tricky to navigate. 2. SLS More user friendly. Not as many couples but still strong. Cleaner site as far as what is allowed in the public pictures. Seems stronger up north, we have met a few couples that travel to SFL vie SLS. Negative: site is lacking features, and somewhat old. 3 KAS Not much experience with it, the small amount of couples we see on that site are also on the other 2. As far as the features it's very similar to SDC. IMO try them all and see what site has more couples for your area.

We use STD Check on the web. We want to see if we are ok periodically. We get a full panel. They send you to a lab near you and send you the results. We don't really need a health insurer to know about this if not necessary. I think it costs around $300. We just do not play bareback. You can get enough things with a condom. And the test means nothing as soon as you play with a new partner. Sorry to be a little negative.

This is actually a new arena for us in our local area and have had great success. We started out by being invited to join one private house party secret fb group and are now members of five different groups in our area. They can be a lot of fun and a great way of networking within the LS and it doesn't cost a penny. The catch is getting invited to join that first group. From there it is pretty easy to spread out.

Very very regional. For our area SLS is where there are active swingers, meets are posted, etc. Two hundred miles south most of the people use Swingular and SLS is a ghost town. We have lifetime accounts on these two sites. We were paying members of Kasidie until a few months ago, it was never great for our city but it was decent for the Portland area that we like to visit. Much of the active swingers in Portland are now in private facebook groups.. You are in Kansas, not idea what is popular there. You are going to need to create profiles on several sites and see where the people are at for your area. I would start with SLS (most popular overall) and SDC (popular in Texas, closest location to Kansas that I know what page is popular). Good luck.

I have been "that woman" - selfishly wanting the attention of two men or more. Most often, I am in the moment and not thinking of the comfort or desires of others. I have been the center of attention - receiving pleasure from couples and available singles then later giving back to those who I enjoyed. Why not consider letting the situation unfold and let her have her fun - then turn the tables by enjoying multiple men/women yourself? Join in the fun by lending a hand or mouth to the group (her and either husband). Of course if it's apparent that she doesn't want her own husband to play at all except with her, that's a different situation that should be handled as noted above by asking the husband if he is able to play.

Wax on, wax off. Breathe in through nose, out the mouth. Wax on, wax off. Don't forget to breathe, very important. Kesuke Miyagi, 1984

The other thing to start the conversation starts with 'I had the strangest dream last night...' and tell her how in it she was having sex with another guy and it was SO HOT!!!! That way she knows that it's okay to talk about other people. But the bottom line is you DON'T know that she'll 'love it', or that she will even like it. If you don't have a great relationship and fantastic communication, this is most likely the wrong path to take.That you can't just talk about your fantasies to each other says you are not close to where you need to be.