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My late wife and I used to meet couples for the first time in the afternoon at the coffee shop in a local book store. It offered a non-threatening atmosphere and an easy exit for both couples, if needed. If the meeting was not a good one, we could buy a couple of books to ease the boredom.

Ridiculous! We are moderately experienced in the lifestyle and we want a vanilla meeting for dinner and drinks first. Yes, we generally know if we would play with a couple within 5-15 minutes. Yes, we have a non-verbal signal between ourselves to say whether we'd play or not. But we just want to meet with no pressure and go home and privately discuss whether we want play. One of us may have noticed something the other did not. If the other couple is so dead set to play the first time we meet, maybe they are not for us. It's not a hard and fast rule, especially if we meet at an event or resort, but it generally works for us.

Funny situation. Me and my wife were invited to a swingers party that a couple of other couples we knew were also invited to. We went and met Jack and Jane there. Now Jack and Jane have a 26 year old daughter Sue. We were sitting on the couch facing the hallway door and facing Jack and Jane, who were on a love seat. Jane and my wife had their tops off but nothing was going on, we were just sitting there. Now here is where it gets funny. Sue walks in the room with a man in her arms. I had to look twice and yes it was Sue, and she did not notice any of us yet. I bent over hanging my head down and whispered in Jane's ear that her daughter just walked in with a man. Jane kind of laughed and said yeah right. (She didn't believe me). So I pointed towards Sue showing Jane. The look in her eyes was priceless. By this time Sue had her top off (and she was looking hot). Jane told Jack and now the entertainment started. Jack must had forgotten he had his pants undone because when he jumped up they fell down around his knees. Jane was rushing to get her shirt on and now Sue finally looked over because of all the commotion saw mom and dad. She let out a shriek and off she took running with no top on and some guy's hands in her pants with one hell of a look on his face. Daughter went out the front door with mom and dad right behind her leaving a bewildered man standing there with no idea what just happen. I got up and introduced myself to the man and explained to him what has just happened. He left the party with a strange look on his face. We left the party latter on after it started to wind down. We have not seen Jack and Jane yet but will see them on Wednesday. I want to find out how this all turned out.

My wife and I started talking about doing this a few weeks ago. After a ton of research, and some advice from the fine folks in this forum, we decided to set up a couple of online profiles. We considered a club, but we're not really club people. We received several messages within the first 24 hours and began chatting with a few of them. Over the past 4 days, we've really been jiving with one couple in particular, and are meeting them tonight! We're starting with a vanilla dinner, but the build up to this point suggests it may lead to more. We've been flirting...a lot! Neither of us are nervous, and the other couple is excited too! Details to follow!

My first taste of the lifestyle was winter 2014. A couple I'd befriended had invited me over to hang for a night. Expecting nothing I brought a guy friend along. Somewhere after a few drinks, the girl "madi" mentioned wanting to know what it was like to fuck me. He was for it, so was I, but there was still my friend, who also joined in on the mind changing bi foursome we had. I was slightly bigger than average, my friend was at least 7" and to our surprise the husband of the girl was easily 9-10". And her being just 5'2 and 115 made it better. When we finished she was well worn out and still had cum on her. I remember thinking her husband was so lucky and should let her go loose like that more. Say once a month or whatever. She gave the best head and got a facial or two as a result. And hey if she can take it then she deserves it. Since then I've been hooked and have tried mmf dvp/dp threesome with a dvp creampie, bi couple foursomes, as well as a few gay/bi situations that i continued, turns out I like giving head lol. Lately ideas like nude beaches and nude/sex friendly resorts, etc.

ok, I got my wife to try a swing club with the agreement that no swapping just allow others to watch. We've been to two in Austin and the last one in San Antonio. We went to Players in San Antonio and did a little dancing, drinking and then went to the back. There we found an open bed and started kissing. She undid her dress (closes like a bath robe). I laid her on the bed and pulled off her panties and started playing with her clit; she was so wet. I sat off to the side, spread her legs and started to eat her out. I brought a lipstick size vibrator and started to tease her clit. I sat far enough over to the side so people walking by could see her wet pussy and awesome breasts. I would move from eating her out to using the vibrator. So many couples stopped to check it out and I got so hard I think I could hammer a nail with it! I moved her so we were laying on the bed sideways and my cock slid right in her. I lifted her right leg and lowered her left so people could see my cock going in and out of her. A LOT of people were watching us and I had to start thinking of baseball in order not to cum LOL!! I took the vibrator and placed it on her clit as I slowly moved in and out. I asked her if she was doing ok (nerves and everything).....she said "I just want you to fuck me" and this about sent me over the edge. I kept up with the vibrator while fucking her and she had a massive orgasm. That was all I could take and came hard. When we left I asked if she enjoyed it and she said "I just want to make you happy baby". I really want her to enjoy it as well, NOT just me...pleasing her turns me on. Before we met no other lover ever did the things we do (just vanilla sex). Did anyone else start like this? Do you think she will get more comfortable with the swing thing? She says she does it for me but when we go she is so wet each time...I'm just wondering if anyone else started this way? I would appreciate any advice. Thanks!!

Here's part 2 of our first adventure at the swingers club. Mary had just finished squirting all over me, the floor, the small table next to me, and the couch. I attempted to dry everything off with our towels but unfortunately our towels were soak as well. Lucky a waitress had stopped to enjoy the show as well and offered to clean up for us. We found our drinks and looked for a place to talk and drink. I wanted to make sure Mary was okay with what had just happened. We went outside near the pool and hot tubs. We sat on an outside cabana with a bed. There were several people in both the pool and hot tubs. Some were just talking while others were playing. We watched the action and talked. Mary said that was the best experience she has ever had. The pleasure of being touched and knowing so many people were watching was so overpowering. She said she felt free. Now she understands why her parents were in the lifestyle. As we continued to talk and drink, we noticed a lot of the people from the bar had followed us outside. They were waiting for us to start playing again. Because we both lost our towels we were both butt naked. Most of them were still masturbating, probably still thinking about what they had just witness. I asked Mary how far she wanted to take this. Mary response was, I'll let you know. She then said, she needed to return a favor to me. She turned around and started to suck my dick. Wow, she can suck dick. She licked everything inch of it and then started to suck my balls. She then shocked me again and deepthroat my dick. I'm not bragging but I don't have a small dick. She swallowed it all the way to my balls. A man closest to us introduced himself as Mike and asked if he could feel Mary's wet pussy. She said please and he began to massage her pussy. She continued to suck my dick and gave out several moans. At that time, several men and females came closer to the table and started to feel her tits and her ass. Mary stuck her ass high into the air. Mike stuck several fingers into her pussy and her moans got louder. Then, suddenly she was squirting again. I couldn't see it but I could hear what sounded like someone spraying a water hose. Mike took his fingers out and allowed the juices to drip onto her back and ass. He then pointed his fingers towards a woman (assume his spouse) behind him. He told her to suck her sweet juices. He placed his fingers into her mouth and she sucked. The sight of all this almost made me cum so I pulled out of Mary's mouth. When Mike turned towards his wife, it gave enough room for another man to sneak in and lick Mary's ass and ass crack. Mary said her legs were weak so she climbed onto the table and turned onto her back. He began to eat her pussy. I slide to the side of the table to drink and watch. Mary instantly had two dicks on both sides of her face. I asked her again if she's okay and she smiled and grabbed one dick by her hand and starting jerking it and she inserted the other into her mouth. Mike came over and started sucking one tit while his partner sucked the other tit. He said something to her and she reached over and started stroking my dick. This continued for about 5 minutes and then the man sucking her pussy took a condom out and began to fuck her. He was very quick. As soon as he pulled out, Mike had a condom on and was fucking her. His partner was going back and forth between sucking Mary's tits and now sucking my dick. Mike fucked Mary for what seemed like a hour. She came several times but not as hard as before. You could tell because as he penetrated her you could hear the splashing sound. He pulled his condom off and came on her tits where his spouse was waiting to lick it up. She missed a spot and I accidentally touched it. Shockingly (because I'm not gay) I was even more turned on and when she returned to my dick with Mike's cum still in her mouth I exploded with cum down her throat. Someone please explain that??? We took a break after that and got some food with Mike and his spouse (never got her name). After eating, we sat in the corner of the club where couples go to be alone. There were already several couples there already making out. We decided we wanted to fuck our spouses in front of the other couples one last time before leaving. We pushed two chairs facing each other and fucked. The females made out with each other during most it. As we drove back to the hotel, we talked about all the fun. We were both very shocked how then turned out. She got horny again and started to masturbate in the car and squirted all over the dash. Luckily it was a small squirt and a rental. Of course we fucked again at the hotel. This was the first of many times swinging in Atlanta - maybe I'll write about those too.

Communication! Make her completely comfortable with talking to you about anything and everything. It SOUNDS like she enjoyed what happened, but wouldn't it be better if she felt free to just tell you that she enjoyed it and knew that it was okay with you that she did? Don't try to drag her down this path, walk down it side by side knowing she wants to go here with you. There's no such thing as too much or too good communication. Let us know how things go from here.

We have been to our fair share of dinners with people who it wasn't going to work with, but we can always find enough in common and to talk about to last the hourish it takes. Even the bad nights we still went out for a nice dinner with our SO. It's a very cheap price to pay to see if there is a connection and SAVES time that so many couples waste with texting and emails for weeks only to finally meet and *poof* nothing. We don't give out our address until we have met several times and feel that we want to welcome them into our personal space.

Like, POOF! I'm bi? I don't think people just 'become' anything. It's either there or it isn't. What I do think is that it is much more allowed, encouraged, and acceptable (and it makes most guys crazy). It also gives girls a type of 'power' over guys and they like playing with that power. It's now just okay and 'safe' to allow ones bi side out (or even to just pretend) so that is happening more often.

We are in our infancy in the LS as well, and this is exactly the way we plan to get started! Baby steps. My wife has already indicated that she is VERY excited about the thought of me sticking my cock inside her while other people watch. Our only first time rule, no swapping, only watching and putting on a performance for others to watch. Your experience will give us confidence when we walk in the door for the first time. Thanks for sharing!

I think you know her well enough to know that she did enjoy it too. It may ease her own feelings to keep pretending she's just doing it for you. But be very careful not to push her into more until she says she's ready. My wife had said similar things and it was her idea to have a no-intercourse rule. I agreed but let her know that I was OK with her deciding to break that rule if she wanted. I'll always remember the night that she led the other husband down the hall to our bedroom!

You are very lucky my friend, it wasn’t too many years ago that you wouldn’t have had the opportunity to be concerned over how others react to your scare. With the advancement in medicine there are bound to be some ramifications. Having a scare on your chest isn’t a deterrent to your happiness, being carried by six of your friends is a major deterrent to your happiness. Personally, I wouldn’t be concerned with others reaction to your scare. It is what it is and you did what you had to do to save your life, it isn’t in the least a sign of weakness. If I were to see a person involved in strenuous activity displaying a scare such as yours I wouldn’t be repulsed, I would think of it as proof that one more medical roadblock to my own life and happiness has been removed. We all carry scares of one kind or another, some are visible, some are on the inside. Life produces scares, they are verification of what we have endured. Display your scares proudly and declare to the world that you are who you are and that you’ve been there and done that. Tell the people you meet that they can join you on the road of life or they can get the fuck out of your way, life is too short to be concerned with morons.

I would offer to meet them at a club or meet and greet.

We can often tell at the first meeting if the wife is into it or is being pushed into it If the wife is not into it, we don't swing. It doesn't get better. We want everyone to be enthusiastic or at least in favor of playing and not coerced.

Yes, right.

So last night was amazing! We met for dinner and got to know each other a little more. It went well, so they invited us over to their campsite afterward (They had pulled their RV to the next town over attending an event, we grabbed a room). We got back to the campsite and did a shot, and talked for a while. As it turned out, myself and the other couple, all went to the same high school together! He and I, actually hung out once or twice among mutual friends! Anyway, we begin a little heavy petting, and things escalated quickly! We ended up doing a full swap under the stars outside their camper! We had a blast! No fears, nerves, or anything. It was certainly not what we were expecting! It seems to have come very natural for us, and we will be getting with them again soon!

So I got into the lifestyle a little over 10 years ago. Before then, I only knew what I read and heard rumors about. At that time I worked with a pretty crazy group of coworkers and we would sometimes talk about it. Someone in the group told me that there was a swinger club in Atlanta. He has never been but he heard it's a lot of fun. He told us you'll have more fun if you're a couple. Within our group was one female, Mary. She was okay looking but very quiet. During one conversation I noticed Mary was listening very closely to the conversation. She never contributed, just listened intensely. I also noticed her nipples got really hard and I think she was rubbing her pussy under the table. Once she immediately got up and went to the bathroom. From that day on my goal was to get her to come home with me after work. Mary was there when the conversation about couples came up. After the group dispersed, I took the opportunity to mention to her that I was traveling to Atlanta to see family and I would love to see the club. To my excitement she said she'll go with me. For the next few days, I had to wear my shirt out at work because every time I saw Mary my dick got hard. When that Friday arrived, we left for Atlanta immediately after work. On the way there, Mary told me she knew a lot about the lifestyle because her parents were swingers and when she got older they didn't hide it from her. She admitted that every time she heard us boys talking about it, she got incredibly horny. The next thing she told me blew me away. She said she's embarrassed to tell me that she's a squirter and it doesn't take much for her to squirt. She admitted she would sometimes feel herself under the table while we're talking. I asked her about the time she ran off to the bathroom and she laughed. She said she was so turned on by the conversation she squirted and had to take her panties off. We first stopped at a hotel near the club to get showered and changed. I was blown away when Mary came out the bathroom. Gone was that quiet, okay looking female. She was gorgeous! She was wearing a see through net top and a semi-see through lace bra. She had a very short tight leather skirt with "hooker" boots. Damn! I told her every guy and female in the club will be all over her. Then she surprised me. She said she only wanted to watch and not participate. It was fine with me because I was nervous anyways. When we got to the club we immediately sat at the bar and drank. There was a bunch of females dancing on stage and porn playing on the TV screens. Other than the porn, it seemed like a regular club. After a while, we noticed a few people kissing and making out. As the night went on, more and more clothing started to come off. We remained in our seat drinking and talking to other couples. At one point Mary tapped me on the shoulder and told me to look. There was a guy next to us getting his dick sucked by two females. I almost came when he came. Mary got up and sat on my lap, which also almost made me cum. She wasn't wearing any panties so she was showing everyone a clear picture of her bald pussy. She whispered to me how wet she was and then guided my hand into her pussy. Yep, she was dripping wet. We heard from a couple earlier that the all nude area was in the back. I told her let's go see what's happening in the back. We went to the lockers and got butt naked, except for a towel. As we walked through the back, people we fucking and sucking everywhere. We were in shock AND getting even more horny. Mary stopped, sat on a chair and said she needed me to eat her pussy right now. We were sitting directly in front of a second bar with a lot of people drinking and talking. We both didn't care. I dive right into that soft wet pussy. It tasted sweeter than sugar. Within 1 minute of me eating her out she scream at the top of her lungs and squirted everywhere. I couldn't believe how much was coming out. She stopped squirting for about 30 seconds and started again- just as intense as the first time. After she finished, with cum juices drinking from my beard I looked at her with a big ass smile. We then noticed everyone at the bar had stopped talking and was enjoying the show. Then they all started to clap. That was only the beginning of a long enjoyable night. I'll give you part 2 later.

Female half: I've been swinging with a male partner who is over twice my age and not my husband. Never considered it a big deal for other people to know until it became an issue for some that the man I have a sexual relationship with is not my spouse. I like keeping my marriage and home life separate from my sexual exploration. Sometimes it's even a turn-on for me to come home after having fun for my husband to get the sloppy seconds later on. I love my husband very much but unfortunately crave sex from someone other than him more. Unfortunately this is unpopular in the lifestyle. My husband is also very traditional and conservative when it comes to sex. Condoms, missionary, less aggressive. While my partner is very rough, sloppy, and dominant with me. I need both in my life.

People will always judge if you aren't just like them. We can't help it. If people's opinion of you is important, there is the unicorn option. Then you go from 'that cheating sl_t' to rainbows and sunshine and a very full in box. You'll have to lose Mr. Roughntumble though.

Maybe we're crass.... But we're not the morality police. And in the end we see more issues with couples we meet than with with any of the singles or married with hall pass. It's not that difficult to ferret out the cheaters. What is difficult is to determine which couple is likely spring issues on everybody! We are way more suspicious of couples than we are of hall passers!