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Hi there, Mr. C and I have discussed this and though it has never happened, the idea is ok because it's convenient. Additionally, in the heat of the moment if we were hosting, it would be petty to say, "No, anywhere but there." But to sit and ponder on it, I'd say I don't necessarily get turned on by it. However, it is just a material thing and to place a weighted value on a bed is just about as empty as placing restrictive value on sex. In a sense that Mr. C and I have had sex a number of places, both with each other and others. The sex with Mr. C in a club or at a party or in the car or the den is just as awesome and valuable to me as it is when we are in the seclusion of our own bed and other people have been on the beds in clubs or at parties. To make it short; it isn't my "go-to" spot, but it also isn't a deal breaker. We also wouldn't be cuddling in our bed with play partners though, so...different discussion there.

I responded to a posting about dinner with George, filled out the requested information including screen names and sites, attached a photo with face as requested. Then I received follow up emails saying I still needed to send photos. I replied I already had and please double check as they advertise discretion and security. They responded I wasn't a good fit. My reply called them out on not being as secure as advertised. I was told they are not responsible. I have unsubscribed and am following through to share with my friends that for $250 discretion and security are not really there.

If this forum is any indication of the swinging community at large, this is going to be far more comfortable than we ever dreamed. Not to say easy, or not awkward... Y'all have been wonderful around here. We sincerely appreciate that.

Thanks for all prospectives to this, she had told me that he used to dabble into the lifestyle with his ex and wants to get back into it( so does every other guy out there) I also agree that it would be a bad idea to allow him to join being he does come her work

NO! This is a very bad idea (search swinging with friends). First, it's someone that she knows and both are already attracted to each other. He's not attracted to her thinking about you still being in this mix. He wants her, and most likely not just for a night and not with you in the room. Second, if it were to happen and later things go south, is she willing to loose her job? If it's someone who comes into her office then it can easily get out as to what 'happened'. Once that cat is out of the bag, how long would she be effective continuing to work there? Once this gets out to the office, how long before it gets out to everyone? Third, taking someone who ISN'T a swinger and trying to make them into one is rarely a good plan. They just aren't prepared for everything it entails. He is probably looking for a partner, not just a plaything. With SO MANY single men already in the L/S looking for women, it's just much safer and easier to pick one of them. The risk/reward is just too high and chances of drama too great.

A bed is a bed.

We didn't think about it. Not sure why we should have.

The first upscale sex shop we went into was in the 80s in Cali while I was in the military. A grandmotherly lady greeted us and spent our whole time there with us. We were sketched out at first but after listening to granny talk about how this vibe can really help with clitoris orgasms and this one is excellent for prostate massage and the like, we either became comfortable or just resigned. At any rate, we ended up making more informed purchases that day and learned some stuff. And never went back. I think we might actually prefer the creepy dude behind the counter that won't make eye contact and doesn't say anything even when you talk to him.

They are so selective that no one qualifies to go to their events. Great business model. We had acquaintances who attended the event to which we were not invited. They said it was overpriced, the food was mediocre,the hosts did not facilitate socialization and people were not connecting. A dud. We would not go to one of their events if they paid us. I am sure that many lifestylers feel the same. Their rejection process is demeaning. I wish them a fast track to insolvency.

A few years ago we were the new ones and we threw out the green flags to couples who claimed they were experienced and still found many who then flaked out. We were open about our wants. We sent face pics when we thought we found the couple that was real. I can tell you the Red Flags. Dick or crotch shots. Bathroom selfies of just the woman. Not being able to send a picture of the two of them together clothed. Unwillingness to talk. After the problem we found in meeting couples we decided we would meet new couples, new to swinging, and let them go at their own speed. After trying to figure out the phonies and scammers we have met some great people. My husband and I go at the speed the couple sets. Some take a little push but we never are pushy. Not every couple will go through with it. Some take a few meetings before going all the way. We discuss things at their comfort level but will discuss why we are meeting. We meet mostly couples where the wife is curious. Some are only looking for a bi experience. I think it shouldn't take long to know who is willing.

I can affirm what GoldCoCouple say. My own wife felt much better when she had a chance to see that swingers really do come in a wide variety of sizes and shapes.

We had a some friends that we liked so much we had a years long relationship with them, swapping regularly. But, at the same time, we sought out other couples, and single men for her. It was the best of both worlds.

Once again, there's no rush. The 'right' couple is out there but sometimes they aren't easy to find (as in almost always). Meeting the first couple is the hardest (fear of the unknown). It gets easier from here on out. Better luck this weekend.

We were involved with a couple that was very into us. My wife was a hotwife in addition to us swinging, the other couple knew that. Once, when my wife was going to be out of town for awhile, I called up the other wife and asked if maybe they'd like to have a threesome with me. I still remember her words: "Of course, you know you didn't even have to ask."

Sometimes people enjoy this sort of thing for a while and then just lose interest, for any number of reasons. My wife lost interest about 15, or so, years ago. And, yes, I've tried to get her interested again many times. But I finally realized it had to be her own idea and I simply make sure she knows that, if she changes her mind, I'm all for it. This is something you both have to want. Her, going along for you is only going to make her more against it later.

Make sure that they know that you are both on the same page and excited to do this. It's not just the man dragging the woman along with her not wanting to really participate (we had one woman tell us when her husband stepped away that she is doing this just the one time to 'satisfy' her husband...like he would be done with doing it the one time). Let them know your limits and boundaries. Also, that you might be new, but you are both ready to proceed and are bringing no drama. You are a tight secure couple and this or anything else isn't going to damage the relationship you already have. You are not looking for a replacement for her (and vice versa). When you meet a potential couple, you need to feel comfortable with bringing the topic of sex up. We have also met couples where they almost seem afraid to mention sex. This can put off some other couples since sex is the reason you are even meeting. Just be open and honest with what you want, expect, and already know. It comes across as confidence (which it actually is) and lets others know that you are in this as a team and are going to stay together as a team. Of course, only say these things if they are true. If not, then you still have some work to do before continuing. Not nervous or anxious, but it's excitement tempered with the unknown since you never really know what will happen until you cross this bridge. Good luck and let us know how things go for you two.

Yep been there done that, even worse is showing up for a party at the condo of playmates and having to tell security you only know there first names.

While on vacation once, I met a girl while walking around, and we spent the day together. Later that evening we're back in my hotel room and I'm banging away at her when she asks "what's my name?". I didn't have a clue... Thankfully she didn't care.

One of my biggest fantasies is to eat the cum out of my wife's pussy and suck the cock clean. I have never sucked cock and want to try it. My wife is all for it. I am real close to her brother and she told me that I should suck him off. That really turns me on.