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Our standout in memory experience was our first swing club experience in London. Nude slow dancing, watching other couples have sex and then having a fairly large number of couples standing around a center of room sexy color spot lit round bed watch us have sex. It was our first experience having sex in front of other couples after we were married. At the time, it seemed the thing to do. P.S. we stuck together and did not play with others. Julie

Even couples that we have known for years, and we all know both women's email and numbers, we keep all communication between the guys. Just the best thing to do and a much reduced chance of potential drama.

It is all in an individual preference. As most have said attitude can be one of the biggest attractions. Take my wife, she is a BBW and has some internal confidence issues, but in general at parties we go to she is the center of attention, mainly because of her personality. Personally as a 43yo male, personality speaks volumes.

I totally agree with the need to actually meet a couple ahead of time because you really don't know who you are dealing with. That being said, when couples offer "private parties" on SDC (or any other sites) and choose people solely based on their profiles, is that safer? These people are, after all, total strangers as well. I'm talking about from a safety standpoint. You are inviting total strangers into your home...

We have a couple that we are long term friends with. They are the first people we swang with after we were married and are still our longest term friends in the lifestyle hobby. Occasionally, when one of the 4 is out of town or not available, the other three get together so MFM, FFM and FMF meetings occur depending on which 3 or the 4 are home. Julie

We have gotten some great advice on here. We really appreciate the input. In this case I think we move on from online chats and emails.

For me, my most memorable swing event went like this. My wife and I were fairly active in the swing community, and we were contacted by another couple. We went back and forth for a couple of months, they seemed reluctant to meet, I didn’t push - after all, if they’re not ready, they’re just not ready, right? So, finally, they agreed to meet for drinks at a bar. We go over, have a great time, we invite them to our home, they accept. We sit around for over an hour, nothing is happening. I’m trying to make some moves on this sexy lady, but for one reason or another, it’s just not going anywhere. They’re getting ready to leave, the lady gives me a nice and very suggestive kiss as they’re at the door on the way out. I whisper into her ear, “Would you like to come upstairs with me?” To my surprise, she agrees and announces to her husband what she’s going to do. We head up to the master bedroom, go slow for a little while waiting for our spouses, and then when they don’t appear, we make wonderful love for over an hour. (The spouses were doing the same thing downstairs.) We became great friends with this couple, meeting with them often and traveling with them. Fifteen years later, our spouses are out of the picture. (One death, one divorce - not from swinging.) And that wonderful lady is now my girlfriend.

As a single woman I am extremely suspicious. Most of the couple contacts I received ended up being the male half telling me he had a hall pass. I took couples off my interest and will only play situationally at parties.

When I am with a close friend or my husband, I go bareback. At these times, I prefer the intimacy of being pumped with my partner's semen. If I am with a few close friends in one night, I feel incredibly sexy knowing that sperm from many men are finding their way to my uterus. I usually use condoms with playmates whom I do not know well. Even with a condom, it excites me to know that they are thrusting and coming deep inside me.

It depends on if I am using a condom or bareback with my partner. Bareback inside and as deep as possible, if using a condom then anywhere else, after I remove the condom.

My family doctor and gynecologist know. Medical records are protected by law and can not be accessed by employers, divorce courts, traffic courts or randomly by child protective services professionals. The best way to get appropriate care is for your doctor to know your risks.

We have had this happen, and usually it's an over amorous guy. The reality is you barely know this person, so you have no idea what his intentions are. I have asked my wife to stop responding to a guy that I thought was frankly being weird and creepy (ok honestly I got weird and creepy from the couple to begin with). I wasn't really even sure how much of a couple they were. There's a lot of goofy stuff that goes on. I mean if you aren't feeling it you are not feeling it no harm no foul. If you think the guy is too aggressive, a pest, he is!! Honestly if your wife is texting two word answers to paragraph long texts that's not really good. He's being a pest. Kinda like that guy you meet at the bar that just will not go away since you were nice to him, know what I mean? Regardless of the scene you and your SO have the long term commitment. If it's bothering you it's valid and should be addressed and I would say by even posting the problem this should be ended. Even if you are the dom doesn't mean you can't be vulnerable, that's being human.

Three more excellent post ! Yes I believe the two way communication over many days I was not comfortable with as Dom's are experienced enough they don't have that need. I actually think I felt disrespected. I know goofy. Asncol; your right in that i did not communicate my limits like I should have, but to be honest I got caught by surprise. My sub and I had an open honest communication (like I was supposed to have had) and I told her how it impacted me. She is a good girl and didn't want to disappoint me which made me totally cool with the different culture and this Mr enthusasism for my sub I believe there is a difference for those of us that are Dom's in that we have to give up a little control and patience accepting those that are not from our world. Otherwise, I agree everything else is the same........except a lot less toys!

Looking at this through the lens of vanilla relationships, it's hard to figure out what's actually going on there with the level of detail provided. Are we talking about them having long, two-sided exchanges every day, or is he just hassling her with lots of long messages that she usually ignores or gives only cursory replies to? One interpretation is that he's a pest and maybe a weirdo. Another interpretation is that they're more friendly with one another than you are comfortable with.

My husband just dribbles a teaspoonful, but my boyfriend gushes so much cum that as he ejaculates and is pushing his dick inside either me or Lora, semen will run out between his dick and the wall of whoever's vagina he is in. Even hubby is impressed by the sight of it.