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We had a good time with them Saturday, and we will see this couple on a regular basis! I took things a little too fast with her. It turns out she is super sensitive, and I got her off too many times, too fast. So she and I, never actually got to intercourse, but a great time nonetheless, and a learning experience for me for the next time. My wife is not so sensitive, so I can play with her for hours and never get her off. As a couple who has been together as long as we have, it's all I know! He took my wife to the bedroom, and it went well. She told me they had multiple positions. She can be vocal, so I know he was pleasing her! This lifestyle has not only reignited our sex life, but has almost given us a new lease on life in general. So far, it's been very positive, and refreshing. We are looking forward to continuing our journey! Thanks again to all for the advice we've received from you folks in this forum. It's not a decision we took lightly, and as you already know, once we pulled the trigger, we dove straight in!

The lady of a delightful couple we know and date recently offered the comment that appears below. Understanding that the LS means different things to different couples, we are curious as to how this resonates with you.. We haven't been overly impressed with the lifestyle. We have found many people just want to experience someone new, but there is neither emotion, nor bonding, nor scenario. I need the scenario, the approach, and the flirting. You understand. I don't want vanilla with someone new. Doesn't thrill me. I need a story and emotion. Some will assert that this violates the notion of "NSA sex". Others will counter that it is precisely the story, the scenario, and the accompanying seduction that makes the LS interesting and fun. What are your thoughts and perspectives? How important is it that you connect with playmates beyond the purely physical level?

We are all products of evolution. Although the females of the species have a built-in desire for multiple partners, they are also wired to take care in selecting the right partners. I believe that this is the impulse your new acquaintance is feeling. I have known women in the lifestyle who say similar things. One in particular comes to mind. I would see her at a recurrent house party and she told me right from the start that she had to get to know a prospective playmate before feeling comfortable about becoming intimate. I am definitely wired to get into as many women as possible in the briefest span of time so I did not expend time or energy "courting" this woman. So to answer one of your questions, I do not feel that it is important to connect and any level other than the physical. This choosy woman apparently became "comfortable" by watching my behavior and my interactions with other people and one evening she came to me and said she would like my name on her "dance card". Evolutionary imperatives apparently told her that I would be a suitable partner. After becoming intimate, we did start to connect on other levels.

Where to begin... Broadly speaking, you have two non-exclusive, options. You can go to a local swingers club or clubs that allow single males or you can set up an online profile on a swinger site (or sites). In either case, you first need to accept one simple fact - there are LOTS of single men out there and they are often ignored or rejected out of hand. The first thing you need to do is be able to handle rejection with grace, dignity and courtesy. Be able to hear "no," or receive no reply at all, and move on with a confident smile. Otherwise, you are dooming yourself to frustration. Next, you need to do something to stand out from the crowd... and - to point out a few classic single man errors - no, your big cock, massive stamina, or love of oral sex do not make you stand out. They are, in fact, so common as to be dismissed out of hand. While moving the better direction, statements to the effect of "I'm a nice guy" really don't cut it either. Everyone says they are a nice guy. What I'd recommend is demonstrate through word and deed that you are actually a nice guy. If you're online, actually read people's profiles and respond to specific points made in them in a genuine manner. If you're in person, be charming, polite, clean, generous and a little bit funny. In either case, make your introduction, smile and don't be pushy. Most people are going to reject you. Some will do it politely. Others will be blunt or even rude about. Online, many will simply ignore you. Smile, shake it off and move on to the next folks. My $.02. Take it for what it's worth.

This question surfaces at this board with some regularity. Some insights. 1. The question of what is appropriate for kids really depends on the family dynamic generally about bodies and physiology. Some families are comfortable with casual nudity, discussion about assorted physiologic functions and so on. If sex is part of age-appropriate conversation, then sex partners will be part of age appropriate conversation. Eventually the question may come up whether mom and dad have consensual sex with others. Decide in advance whether you will answer or you will dodge. There is some likelihood you will eventually be asked. Bear in mind, kids think of parental sex as "Ewwww". What matters to kids is that their parents are happy and the marriage is secure. We grew up with parents having affairs leading to divorces. Our child has grown up with her parents together for > four decades, yet having 'special' friends. She has plenty of friends with the parents-who-divorced phenotype and is MUCH happier that we are still together. 2. Non-immediate family have no need-to-know. Say what you choose, but remember information can never be taken back. Once you're out, you're out. There are ways to provide accurate yet indirect responses to questions. 3. Friends are something else again. There are again matters of trust. A few friends know, obviously those in the LS, others who have been in the LS, and a very trusted few who want to know why we come back from some of our vacations a lot happier than so many others. 4. Keep private lives out of the workplace. There is one community that NEEDS to know: your healthcare team. The lifestyle has its own issues and risks.

My wife and I use the word cunt and pussy frequently when making love. Talking dirty and hearing me talk dirty turns both of us on. She loves it when I ask if she wants me to fingerfuck her cunt or her pussy. She says it's so nasty and so exciting to her because she loves being nasty.....a real turn on for us. To each his own.

My wife got to see it, she says she LOVED it. It just kinda happened. Certainly wasn't planned, I didn't know he was bi and he didn't know that I was bi-curious. But when he asked me to do a DVP with him and his wife, I just had to ask him if he was bi? They both answered in the affirmative and my wife and I just looked at each other. Well from there his wife got off off him and joined my wife over in the jacuzzi bubbles and played with each other while he and I played on the bed. The next morning I got to eat his cum out of his wife's pussy. We are going to be seeing them again this coming weekend at the same club we met them at last time. It was really hot and I am sure we will do it again and probably go beyond oral, but the next time I am hoping we get to put a little more emphasis on the ladies and our play will be strictly for their entertainment.

So this entire weekend has turned into one big first experience! Of course, we had the first experience I posted about, but yesterday we met up 2 other couples we found online. No kids this weekend, what else are we supposed to do! The first couple we met for lunch. They are a little younger than us, and also have no experience. They were super nervous, awkward, but a really sweet couple. For my wife and I, we didn't really feel a click with them. The second Saturday couple, was much different. They have a rule, no playing on the first date. Which we were ok with, and may institute ourselves. It made everything very relaxed. We met them for drinks, and chatted with them on the bars patio, because it was a gorgeous August evening, and it was nice and quiet, at least until the dj showed up. We left, and decided to walk the streets for a while and chat some more. All in all, spent about 5 hours with them, and my wife and I really felt a connection with them! We have yet to speak to them since last night, but we think they felt the same way! We were hoping to dip our toes in and test the waters this weekend, but ended up jumping in head first with zero regrets!

So last night was amazing! We met for dinner and got to know each other a little more. It went well, so they invited us over to their campsite afterward (They had pulled their RV to the next town over attending an event, we grabbed a room). We got back to the campsite and did a shot, and talked for a while. As it turned out, myself and the other couple, all went to the same high school together! He and I, actually hung out once or twice among mutual friends! Anyway, we begin a little heavy petting, and things escalated quickly! We ended up doing a full swap under the stars outside their camper! We had a blast! No fears, nerves, or anything. It was certainly not what we were expecting! It seems to have come very natural for us, and we will be getting with them again soon!