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Has the way you have sex at home changed since you started swinging. No two partners act the same way in bed. We all have our likes and dislikes and when with a new partner have experienced new feelings. Have you and a swing partner done something that is new to you and have you brought that new act or position back to your home bed. How did your spouse react? Has your spouse tried something new? Do you discuss new likes?

So at this point Mrs. E has played with three other men. I've been present for all of it and wouldn't have it any other way, usually participating but sometimes taking turns. I agree totally with the "she's my favorite porn star" sentiment. There's a wide, wide range of what's "normal". Our first session was Mrs. E giving a friend's husband head before a woman went down on me. Our last session was me guiding Mrs. E's head in my lap while she was on all fours getting fucked from behind. It's all been good fun so far.

Pro: you went to the trouble of meeting, you hit it off. When will you get together again. Con: you would like to have a private discussion with your spouse about it. It can be awkward if all 4 are not on same page, which is hard to achieve.

My SO and I went two weeks ago after our first bad experience in Chicago at a club that allowed single men. Shenanigans is couples ONLY, and it helped us get over our bad first experience. (Bad experience was club pleasure in Chicago, Two single males groped her when I went to get our bag, didnt stop...). We loved it. They have a game called the spoon dance to lossen everyone up and dance with others, kinda like musical chairs where the losers have to remove a piece of clothing, etc. The food is fantastic as the venue used to be an event hall and has a real commercial kitchen. Fried chicken is really good. People there of all ages, shapes, sizes, we didn't swap, but had a blast exhibitioning. For new couples, great club experience taking the single males out of the environment.

Once upon a day, I had a fishing tackle box that had a fake inches scale embossed on the lid. It was supposed to fool the game warden into thinking that a six-inches-long fish was actually an eight-inches-long fish. The warden was not fooled.

She has to be comfortable with her body first! These days you can work out at home - pilates video on YouTube - every morning 15 min for a start and than if she feels sexy and hot in her body than perhaps swinging can happen. But if she feels not good with herself it is difficult. I have a girl friend , married 3 kid and she is a "bigger size" but she feels sexy and comfortable and she is a swinger and she knows how do dress hot with her "big curves". She has so much self esteem and people love her the way she is and not an inch less! If you feel not comfortable with your own body it is irrelevant what size you are.

This is a very common question and the answer is still the same (pulled from some of the other threads): Women (usually) seem to come here wondering if they are 'enough'...good enough or pretty enough or skinny enough to be swinging. What they are told (and usually need to see to believe) is that there is someone for everyone here. Just that a woman is interested in swinging makes them very exciting from the start. After 40, almost all women have something that they wish was better, but after 40 most men realize that the biggest sex organs are a woman's brain, personality, and confidence. While we also commend you for working out and encourage you to keep it up (it will keep you around longer until we all have time to play together ), looks become less of a priority with age. Remember, beauty is only skin deep and is fleeting, but sexy comes from much deeper within. Go to a nudist beach or resort and most of anyone's body issues will be releaved. Swingers (and nudists) are not just the 'beautiful people', but the every day people (there's more everyday people than beautiful people...it's just a numbers game). Ten minutes at a nudist anything and you'll be saying to yourself 'I'm really not that bad'...and you most likely are not. Real women HAVE curves and are more beautiful because of them. What do swingers look like (I'm paraphrasing)? Look at the average people that surround you every day. Now picture them naked. Swingers, just like everyone else, come in ALL shapes and sizes. At the same time, there are people who love different shapes and sizes. Once you go to a club, a meet and greet, a swingers resort, or cruise you will quickly realize that you aren't that bad (and better than some). Personally, we (both Mr and Ms Gold) happen to really like curves on a woman and aren't interested in those skinny sticks in most ads (afraid that they could be broken ). Beauty is only skin deep, but sexiness is something that is projected from deep inside and usually has little to do with beauty. All of the above are our quotes taken from similar threads. If your wife isn't feeling attractive, then you need to start reminding her that she IS. After that, as stated above, take her to a nude beach or swingers club so she can see how others look. Usually, making plans to attend a club will help motivate both of you care more about how you look (at least it does for us and we're not anything that special ). The bigger question here is you need to find out if there is a problem with your wife and how she is viewing herself. This is something that you need to talk with her about and find out what the issue is. Otherwise, plan on going to a club just to look and see how you stack up.