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They did align just last August 21. I hope you did not miss the opportunity. Your next opportunity will not be until 2021.

I would say that we play on the first date the majority of the time. We do invest time in doing our homework before the first meeting, including online chats, to maximize the likelihood that it will be a good fit. In the end, we are looking mostly for great sex with new people, not necessarily a long term friendship or relationship.

We have a 20/20 rule in that we know within 20 seconds to 20 minutes if we'll ever want to be naked with the other couple. If we do, our attitude is "why wait"?. If there is a connection/attraction, will we any of us get any younger, thinner, or sexier if we wait a week or two or three? Why waste an opportunity? Its hard to find a situation where all four people in 2 couples are doable. When it happens, infrequent as it is, we will definitely go for it.

I'm going to buck the trend here and say - yes, we both have "brought things home" from swinging and incorporated them into our own play. We've both discovered new techniques, positions and acts which we hadn't considered, hadn't known we enjoyed, or hadn't even thought possible (my wife turns out to be more flexible than she thought she was ). Some of them are things we've discussed and decided to incorporate into our own play. Other things we've tried and discovered that, while they were amazing with other partners, they don't work with our own dynamic. I think there has really been a measure of learning and growing for us, and I love that.

The four way match is elusive. It is difficult to even get people to show up to meet. If the sun and moon align, why not?

No and yes. No, having been together 42 years, we know what we like. Yes, after being with LS couples, our lovemaking (not "sex at Home", ever) is just about always more intense and prolonged. The knowledge that one's spouse is highly desirable to others -- and yet they are {my} spouse -- is, for us, a powerful erotic stimulus.

Once upon a day, I had a fishing tackle box that had a fake inches scale embossed on the lid. It was supposed to fool the game warden into thinking that a six-inches-long fish was actually an eight-inches-long fish. The warden was not fooled.

When we first started down this path, we thought 'what could be better than having friends that we could talk about ANYTHING with...friends that we could be naked with?'. We are all going to have friends, why not try and find REALLY close friends and be able to do and say all the things that we wish we could (but polite society prevents us from doing). We actually have 'both' kinds of friends, but we are now finding that we need to watch what we say to our vanilla friends. It has become natural to talk about how me and Ms. Gold were having sex the other night...but the vanilla friends give us a funny look. Friends are fun, sex is fun, conversations are fun, life is fun. One and done is just not our style, going on almost 7 years of unbelievable fantasies with our closest friends is priceless...

My preference is 7-8" and thick. Anything bigger is capable of spearing my cervix, which I do not enjoy. I find it quite funny when I receive messages on SLS from males claiming to be 12". I politely respond with a "No Thank you". Actually had one tell me I was making a huge mistake by turning him down.

Thank you so much! I was able to get more info this evening, so I think I'm good to go! I'm sure I will second guess my attire many more times, but in the end it all comes off anyway ;-)

Your proposal will work fine. More important though is that *you* not feel pressured to do anything that you don't want to do. You are there to have your good time, not anyone else's. Some thoughts. *What you wear should make you feel good about yourself. Not everyone wants to parade their 'inner slut'. *Icebreakers are wonderful. A funny button, a plastic necklace, interesting earrings, something that might prompt a conversation are all wonderful ways to get past the opening line. *Leave valuables and things easily lost at home. *Bring a large scarf or similar that you would feel comfortable walking around in. It should fit in a small bag *Your small bag should include things that YOU want to have with you. Condoms of preference, of course. Our preferred lube. A small flashlight is in ours (yes, we 'check' partners before play) . Maybe a favorite sex toy. Your cell phone might want to be in the bag. It need not be fashionable--our bag is ballistic nylon., also easily identified by shape and feel in the dark. *Pace yourself. Retreat to the common area as often as you need. Shower when you feel like it. *House parties are not meant to be competitive. By definition, people come to houseparties with the permission to play. If you it makes you comfortable, "May I play with your husband?" is direct and (nearly always) results in "Of course!". Have fun and be safe.

This would make a great full-length story. It is great to read about how real-life situations begin and progress. Just a suggestion.

We had a good time with them Saturday, and we will see this couple on a regular basis! I took things a little too fast with her. It turns out she is super sensitive, and I got her off too many times, too fast. So she and I, never actually got to intercourse, but a great time nonetheless, and a learning experience for me for the next time. My wife is not so sensitive, so I can play with her for hours and never get her off. As a couple who has been together as long as we have, it's all I know! He took my wife to the bedroom, and it went well. She told me they had multiple positions. She can be vocal, so I know he was pleasing her! This lifestyle has not only reignited our sex life, but has almost given us a new lease on life in general. So far, it's been very positive, and refreshing. We are looking forward to continuing our journey! Thanks again to all for the advice we've received from you folks in this forum. It's not a decision we took lightly, and as you already know, once we pulled the trigger, we dove straight in!

We both enjoy smoking pot and love having sex well under the influence! We do not care if others don't do it and never push it on anyone, but we also have no interest in hanging out with people that are stuck in the 1950's on their view of what it is. Not the kind of open minded people we like to be around. Way rather be around people that have a puff once in a while than drunks.

We don't have a problem with it if others are partaking in it at a party. We may or may not partake in it as well if we are asked about our interest in it. It's only a problem if it seems like everyone at the party is being pressured into doing it. Our only experience thus far has been ingesting it through foods and it only made us feel dizzy. I can't see how any club owners would turn a blind eye to marijuana smoking. After all, alcohol is legal and there are many consequences to those who drink too much. I don't know how it is at other swinger clubs but here you can't drink inside...but that doesn't stop people from stepping outside and drinking in their car then walking back in. As for consequences, non-consensual sex is one. Driving home drunk is another. Then there are those who get annoying or angry when they are drunk. I am sure that clubs have ways to minimize how these sorts of behaviors, due to excessive drinking, affects the club and other members but there's only so much that they can do within their walls. It wouldn't surprise me if club members smoked marijuana outside and then stepped back in the building. Just as it is with alcohol, as long as someone who is smoking marijuana outside isn't being disrespectful to others inside the building, they won't get on the radar.