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I've played with Hot Wife couples. It is its own part of the sexual world, more different from what most folks here define as swinging/lifestyle from a psychological perspective than behavioral. From the latter perspective most HW play resembles what people here think of as an MFM. But mentally it's all about the husband's enjoyment in observing his wife having sex with other men. (And in a healthy HW relationship the wife not only enjoying the sex for its own sake, it also for the erotic value it brings her husband.) The husband may at some point join in the play, but often not. Or at least not until the other male departs, when they engage in reclamation sex. The Cuckold sexual lifestyle is a variant of the broader Hot Wife scene. As others have pointed out, it involves at least some level of humiliation of the husband, sometimes ea by the wife or the male (who the Cuckold world is generally referred to as a Bull) or both. In addition to the verbal "abuse" heaped on the husband, he is often "required" to fluff the Bull before he fucks the wife, and then clean them both up orally following. From the perspective of many of the people who frequent the Swingers Board, the whole HW scene as a form of kink. (The Cuckold scene looks pretty kinky to me.) But then I think that most of my vanilla friends would find my sexual life to be on the kinky side. For sure my loving wife does...) So, I make a point of not judging. For people who are interested in checking out the whole expanse of the HW scene I recommend the Hot Wife Forum: Our Hotwives - Index page

We agree wholeheartedly. Life is too short for ambiguity in this situation. Yes, she might just be flirty. Yes, she might be sending a signal. Find a low-key way to sort it out. An admission: as the male half of our couple, I was chagrined to learn (from the female half) how often I have failed to pick up on flirts, overtures, or what amounts to clear 'invitations to the dance'. I do not think I am especially insensitive. I mention this only to say that by the time you noticed the first wink, the message might have already been sent a few (dozen) times. As Mrs. FL remarks, often the easiest way to get through to me is "A. Show up naked. B. Bring beer. C. The beer is optional. "

Hotwifing usually involves the wife having sex while the husband isn't around (cuckolding the husband usually is around, not allowed to participate, and involves humiliation towards him). If you are not around and she is having sex with another woman, I guess that qualifies!

I doubt they are swingers. Some people, especially some women, are constantly really flirty. When you are a swinger you are thinking a lot differently than they are. That's my experience at least.

If you have not yet learned from her the reason she is interested, you should be concerned. Open, earnest, two-way communication is essential. You should help her to express her feelings in words.

if you are running into someone you know - sure - it can feel strange - but get over it and have fun. We all are in the same situation. I went ones in a swinger party and met my old teacher.

Have had it happen twice. Pretty awkward at first, then funny and a bonding experience. Played with one couple, not the other. Hey, they are there too. Also, other couples usually will not spread the word that you are Swingers because they don't want to be outed. We call it mutually assured destruction.

If you are running into someone you know - think about it - we are all in the "same boat"... it gives a strange feeling but at the end it is your life ... dont worry to much what other people think or do or ... have fun and enjoy what ever you do

i had a request from a female - she wanted that i seduce her husband and than we went all together in the hotel room. She only wanted to watch me with her husband. She was sitting on a chair next to us (that was a little strange) but she liked it that way. She had a nice and elegant dress and after a while she played with her self - put her dress up and she ad no underwear on... i think that was very hot -something different - but hot.

My wife's sexual appetite is fairly steady, and high. What changes is what she desires, like one guy, multiple guys, a woman, a couple. I'm happy just going along for the ride.

We have experienced this , the lack of interest being from both of us but at different times, we had a talk about it and it seems we both find the vetting and planning a bit of a turn off, so many explored avenues end up being a dead end we've started to spot the signs of a flaky couple earlier , we both came to the conclusion that when it was spontaneous it was much better , we are still searching for what really works for us though, we find club visits have the spontaneity we're looking for but not the slow sensual build up we crave, we haven't tried a house party yet , maybe that will be our thing

I have to agree with njbm. Once there is a lack of excitement, it's best to put it on hold. Even group sex can become monotonous. I was guilty of overloading us, instead of letting the excitement build. The result was what I thought was impossible, burnout.

Doesn't everyone's interest wax and wane? After a few bad experiences, a few rejections, etc., everyone has to wonder if it's worth the trouble.

We have been to that club. As clubs go, it is very nice. If you run into someone you know, they are there too. They are unlikely to tell anyone that you were there, because it will reveal that they were there. We cal. This is known as mutually assured destruction.

Yep, we say hi. Pretending you don't know each other is silly. It's not like you have to tell everyone "We slept together last month!" It's amazingly much ado about nothing.