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You are likely to be among the youngest. Not a bad thing. Many couples do not feel secure enough in their relationship for many years (sometimes decades) to consider swinging. Do not let that stop you. Learn from them.

Many people go to the club either to observe or just play with their spouse. You may have to go more than once before you are ready to swap. Some people are never ready to swap. That is ok. If a couple wants to play with you and you don't want to play, thank them for asking and say no thank you. Trust me, Swingers can handle rejection. This hobby is like baseball, where a .300 average is exceptional. Go and have fun. At worst, you will be mind blown and turned on.

Hello. I was visiting this board and signed up just to reply/comment on this thread. My wife and I are also considering making a visit to this club, because it looks like a fantasyland and we are an open-minded couple. We have a very close and confident relationship and often discuss our fantasies. Our relationship is purely monogomous at this point and we would never have an open relationship. But, we have agreed that if the right opportunity came up, in the right situation, we would both be OK with sharing ourselves with others. However, we are both very picky and probably would prefer to see our partner pleased by someone else rather than enjoying others ourselves. We said if we ever experimented with another couple or individual, it would probably be on vacation where there would be no future contact. So, we keep talking about visiting Colette. However, we are somewhat leery because the location is so close (DFW). And, we might feel bad because we would probably be going for the experience and most likely not really to play with others. This might not normally be an issue, but we are a very fit couple and my wife is younger (late 30's), gorgeous and very social/friendly. We are afraid of having to reject other couples that we would just want to be friendly with. I don't know how attractive the clientele is here at the club. But, I know my wife is just stunning. I am lucky to be with her and she knows that she has the freedom to experience any fantasy that she may have in the future, as long as we do it together. So, that is our story. The club looks fantastic to us and we are both open to new experiences. I just don't know if we will ever get the nerve up to go. My biggest fear is making people angry because we are really just going there the first time to browse and maybe meet some new open-minded people. I don't mean for anything I said to come across as egotistical on our part. We get along with everyone. But, we just don't know how serious people are there about hooking up and don't want to offend anyone.

Sure, if you can both avoid the temptations! It's up to the two of you and nobody is going to expect you to do anything you don't really want to. Most swingers didn't begin with swapping partners. They remember how they felt and will understand how you two are feeling.

In life, we all pass mile stones... Sometimes we stop and take a picture, sometimes we drive by, only realizing once we've passed it the significance of what we barely noticed. One such mile stone was passed this Friday night - and it is only now that we realize what it meant. We went to the club, expecting to hook up with a couple that we had met a few weekes before, but they didn't show... But, it was a fun crowd and a fun night, so that didn't bother us at all. We stayed, played pool, and as the night went on met this other couple who completely took our mind off being "stood up". The wife flirted with me, I flirted with the wife and at some point, I leaned over to her and said, "let's just cut through the crap. You beat us at this game of pool and you get whatever you want - winner take all." I gotta tell ya, for a lady who was only playing her third pool game, she played like a person possessed. And - as happens often to us - we lost the game. And to the winner went the spoils. It was a good time - and the four of us made plenty of noise. I'll spare you the details... Mrs Spoomonkey and I got home - had some late night Taco Bell (God bless Taco Bell) - and then made neighbor waking monkey love, as is our ritual. And then, in the after glow, Mrs Spoomonkey asks me, "What were their names?" blink... blink... "I don't know..." I said somewhat surprised. I can tell you the name of every person we have played with since getting into the lifestyle over two years ago. And that is no small feat! But I couldn't tell you the name of this couple to save my life - and to be honest, I really don't think names were ever mentioned by anyone. They are simply "that one couple" and no further clarification could be given. I could tell you what she was wearing as I memorized it stitch by stitch as she took it off - I can tell you how her hair looked when she told me to "get naked" and "get on the bed, bitch!" - and I can tell you, with a large hand gestures, exactly what her boobs looked like, swinging in my face like they did... But a name? I didn't bother to get that... We have evolved, brethren. We are no longer newbies.

We find this too, and I think we use the same site as you, however we do respond to well written messages, though sometimes it does seem to open a can of worms. One pet hate we have is profiles without any pics or write up messaging us asking if we would like to meet, so annoying, we leave those unanswered , in our site rules it even states that no reply should be taken as "No thankyou"

We agree wholeheartedly. Life is too short for ambiguity in this situation. Yes, she might just be flirty. Yes, she might be sending a signal. Find a low-key way to sort it out. An admission: as the male half of our couple, I was chagrined to learn (from the female half) how often I have failed to pick up on flirts, overtures, or what amounts to clear 'invitations to the dance'. I do not think I am especially insensitive. I mention this only to say that by the time you noticed the first wink, the message might have already been sent a few (dozen) times. As Mrs. FL remarks, often the easiest way to get through to me is "A. Show up naked. B. Bring beer. C. The beer is optional. "