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If you swing, you swing with people who are HPV+

Twice this week, nudist friends who are not swingers expressed resentment that swingers have "invaded", "taken over", "annexed" their clubs. Their dismay is valid: in both instances the club operators made a decision to welcome swingers as an alternative to financial collapse. One way to look at this is to assert that swingers "saved" these clubs. Another way to look at this is to observe that one alternative lifestyle is simply displacing another, and nudists are in danger of extinction. Neither image is attractive. In any event, simple social nudity is imperiled. There are a couple of things lifestylers can--and probably should --do to support our nudist friends. First, when on the grounds of these formerly-nudist-now-mixed clubs, give the non-swinger nudists a measure of respect. Many joined those clubs because it was family- safe, not sexually liberated. Their values might be different. Second, and maybe more important, it may be worthwhile supporting their efforts to be clothes-free elsewhere, such as on public lands, beaches, state parks and so on. According our nudist friends a measure of respect costs nothing. Having them think kindly of swingers may be valuable as various alternative lifestyles fall under political and religious siege.

I agree with cplnuswing. Full disclosure is always appreciated. My husband loves it but I am not a fan of a girl showering me (I am being polite). I prefer to know so I can move away. Nothing like a surprise splash in the face...especially when I am playing next to, not with.

Are you talking what is considered good form between two playmates in general, or something more formal like at a club playroom where the venue may have its own rules? For the first, I think one should let a playmate know up front about anything that may catch them off guard or be something they might not be into...sort of an extension of the "ask first" policy when it comes to any type of physical contact. For the club type situation, can't say I've ever really thought about that or seen anything along those lines, so not really sure there. Depending on the club, towels are often provided, and many swingers will take their "play bag" with them to the club that with personal supplies like lube, toys they like, etc. You could take one of those absorbent sex throws like the Liberator Fascinator in your bag and stay respectful of other patrons and the club by not leaving a mess behind for someone else to have to deal with.

I never had a woman suck on my nipples before her. It made my toes curl. Then she bit my nipples. Toes uncurled.

I know this was my original post. For me I was never attracted to other females sexually. For me it was a thing with a college girlfriend that led me to swinging. After spending a night with her and her guy friend I think I couldn't wait to be with her again. My husband fulfills all my sexual needs but I really enjoy going to parties more for the girls than the guys. I would never even thought of that before.

Gee, just about everything. Had MFMs, FMFs, swaps, watched my wife have sex with two guys, had sex with another guy both ends of oral and anal, done DPs. Never done any of that before.

The most obvious is having sex with another man. The way it changed my sex at home is that I told my husband that I was made love to. My husband and I have plenty of sex, really good sex and playful sex. Maybe we don't make love that much. I never gave it much thought. Of course I love my husband. I never thought I would be with anyone else sexually. That changed on a vacation. A man I met on the trip and his wife swapped with us. He brought me back to his cabin and made love to me the way my husband and I used to do. Another thing I did was be with another woman. It really was not something I wanted. Not sure why I did it either. I have done it now a few times.