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We have ran to similar at clubs. For many couples it is the F/F connection that gets things rolling. My wife is straight, but will act bi (touching and kiss other females) if she sees a couple with a guy she likes. Sometimes you just have to play the game.

In the late 70's I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. The side effects of the chemotherapy I was on caused severe nausea and vomiting. There were no effective antiemetics on the market to combat the ill effects. Doctors and nurses suggested marijuana. They couldn't supply it, but would allow me to bring it into the hospital and smoke it in my hospital bed. I was on intravenous chemo for 5 days straight, two weeks off, back on, and so on. It was the only thing that would ease the severe nausea associated with my treatment. I lost about 70 pounds over the course of my treatments.I had experimented with it previously, but this was a revelation for me and my family. My father even went so far as to start growing it for me. I became a strong advocate for it's usage, and a regular user for many years. I was a health professional and it never affected my career, family life or personal hygiene. I still like to puff once a week or so. 420 friendly would not have any impact on whether I would consider a liaison with someone who listed it in their profile. I would however not want it to become the focal point of our meeting. Sex is the goal! To 2NoLimit, good that you stayed away from the gummy bears! I have witnessed inexperienced users who ingested gummy bears recently and it wasn't a pretty picture. Comatose and not able to speak or move for 6 hours straight! It all depends on the content of THC, and you really don't know what you are taking.

We are just considering our first visit to a "club" and will see what happens from there. I am a very fit 55 and my wife is a gorgeous and fit 37 year old. My wife has always preferred men at least 10 years older than her because of the maturity factor. We have been together over 10 years now and know and trust each other very well. I know a lot of couples with a big age difference don't usually last. But, because of the trust factor, ours will. Also, my wife knows that she can pretty much have any fantasy fulfilled that she wants, if she ever wants it (no real interest right now but she is open to the possibility if the right situation comes up).

Quite a few people in their 50s at the clubs around us, although they all say they perpetually 49 Generally we don't target the under 40 couples, but we do get approached by younger couples once in a while. There seem to be quite a few younger women that like older guys, and young guys that like older women. We try not to let age be a barrier.

I think the odds of meeting a heavy stoner in the LS are very slim. Every one we have met so far has been very educated with good hygiene. Like someone mentioned we seen more alcohol addiction then pot heads in our life. From our experience outside of the LS, the aggressive behavior has always been 99% alcohol related. I guess if you were a heavy addicted user like Sun&moon was...we would feel the same way towards it, and wouldn't want anything to do with it. We don't see it as a negative to see "420 friendly" in a profile. Someone mentioned as long as it's not emphasized. Even us as a couple that can partake in 420, we would "not" reach out to a couple that emphasizes the use of it.

Totally agree with what is directly above about addiction and abuse. Anything that is pleasurable has the potential abuse. I view it exactly the same as alcohol. A certain percentage will be addicted, and it will cause them issues in life. Maybe it is our age group, but we meet very few 50 yr old "potheads" in the lifestyle. I really don't see the difference between the person that drinks a couple of glasses of wine in the evening vs taking a couple tokes. We have sat in a hot tub smoking a joint a police officer and a lawyer at a recent party. Most of the (vanilla) users we do know are professionals, have good jobs, kids, and are generally quite successful in life. I do a have one vanilla friend that have been smoking weed all day, everyday for many years. I would say he is completely addicted, so I know it can be a problem. I also have friends that have destroyed their life with alcohol, sex addiction, and a myriad of other addictions. Moderation is key to everything. Me and my wife are very occasional users, a gram lasts us a month, even when we share it with our friends. If a couple is not 420 friendly, it isn't a big deal. If they are, we will smoke or vape some with them. We do tend to have more fun with those who are. I fully agree with trying 2 separate profiles. We do have 2 separate profiles and it does attracts 2 different sets of people. We get far more meets from the profile where we are 420 friendly. Even then, the people we meet do take very good care of their body and are far from addicts. In our area there are ~20M people in a 30 mile radius, and pot is 100% legal. Our biggest issue is finding time to meet people. Even if we put off 50% of the couples, there are still hundreds close by that are not put off by it.

We’ve been in, out, and around the lifestyle since the ‘70’s and like the commercial says, “We’ve seen a thing or two during our time.” I think it all comes down to mindset. As a rule, the people that you meet in the lifestyle are the friendlies, fun loving people that you’re ever going to meet. It didn’t take us long to realize that we had the most fun when we went to clubs or parties with a mindset of just having fun and enjoying ourselves. As opposed to going out looking for a specific body type or age to have sex with. Don’t over think it, be open and friendly and not pushy and demanding. Be warm and inviting, not cold and aloof and you will find yourself having fun. I think one of the biggest problems that some people make is going to events with a preconceived fantasy that they are trying to live out. For us going to these things with a mindset of a surprise party where you never know what you’re going to get were the nights we had the most fun. It’s been my experience that if people would work more on their people skills than they do at pumping iron in a gym they would find themselves getting laid more. You are who you are and you’re not going to change that so just go out and have fun.

You are far from too old and you should be able to find partners with whom you can share mutual pleasure. As I mentioned in an earlier thread, at a party I once played with a couple who were in their mid-80s. They looked their ages but they knew how to have a good time. A mutual friend later told me thecouple had a long history in the lifestyle, which included an orgy on their wedding night. Which was in the late 1940s! I found them an inspiration for the notion of a long and adventurous sex and love life.