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Just say all that to whoever you might be potentially playing with, most would take it as a big compliment that you have picked them for your first experience and will be happy enough to take things as slow as necessary for you and only as far as you wish to take things, but nobody is a mind reader so you must communicate what you want and your situation, good luck and I'm sure you will have a great time.

@babblebrox I want to hear about the extreme sub!!

No, allowing someone to pleasure you orally does not automatically mean you're willing to do the same to them. Many times a woman approached my wife, kissed her, fondled her, even gave her head. Except for one time, my wife never reciprocated, and no hard feelings ever resulted. Go, have fun, do what you wish to.

You aren't alone in your likes at all. You sound a lot like me. I've had my fun-times with men mostly in the context of playing with another couple. Kissing is a turn-off. Giving oral is something I'll do if I want to play nice and reciprocate. Anal? Yes, please! I love prostate stimulation and I don't really care who does it or what they do it with. I would never have emotions for another guy but there is a bit of an ego stroke when one tells you how much you drive them crazy. The closest label I've found would be "bi-comfortable" aka "situational bi". Bottom line is this: do what you want with whomever you want and don't worry about labels.

Your post was a hoot, Babblebrox, and it took some effort to write it! Thanks!

If a someone sends us a genuine, well thought out email that indicates they have read our profile interested in meeting, we always respond. If it looks like a generic email they send to many couples, we do not usually respond. I really suggest if you want responses, read the profile, pick out things you identify with and put that in the email. Take the time and make it personal. Templates or mass mailing seldom work.

I emailed a couple my wife's kik Id at 10 pm. The next morning there were 5 messages, then a long nasty message cussing her out because she didn't respond. My wife is far too nice and took the time to explain that people work, sleep, have kids, and very busy lives. She also explained that she doesn't have notifications turned on kik, and only checks kik once a day. She also informed them we only get out maybe once a month, so meeting us can take awhile. She got another nasty response back. So we just blocked them on both kik and SLS. It seems there are people that just don't understand life. There are many couples like us where swinging is a very low priority, and we respond only when we have extra time, which may be the weekend or even the following week. People also seem to be offended when you say lets meet and then give a date 3 weeks or a month from now. Seriously, if that doesn't work, our next time to meet will probably be after the new year. If you are impatient or get offended, you will miss many of the "real" couples that do actually meet.

Definitely my wife's type of guy

I am fine with my husband playing with other couples in an mfm situation and he lets me play as a unicorn in fmf situations. I would not be ok with him playing with you, though. I think uneven, jealous swinging leads to problems. It is a huge red flag to me. I will not play with anyone who is only looking for fmf play for the same reason. They don't have to be willing to play with my husband in particular, they just have to have an openness to sharing. I think your wife should work on her jealousy before having an mfm. There are countless posts about this type of uneven play being hot in the short term and then the primary relationship going up in flames.

Some couples will "allow" asymmetric swapping so to speak. You need to find one of those. Be a bit wary on the net if you use adds though, often a cheating husband will claim to be in such a relationship. I'd try to get female verification first.

We are new to the swinging scence but very willing to jump in. We have had 3 fmf exp and loved them and now looking to expand our horizions.