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I suggested to my wife that we invite a couple whom we had recently met at a meet-n-greet event over to our place. She replied in the negative saying, "the girls say he's no fun". I guess that this is the first time that I have been seriously struck with the notion that a guy's reputation might preceded him. I cannot recall any of my male friends or acquaintances saying to me about a woman that she is to be avoided owing to the fact that she is "no fun". To me all intimate encounters have been either "fun" or "great fun" or "unbelievably great fun". No encounter has ever been "no fun". Do women have a narrower definition of fun?

Where is 'there?' If you're talking about swing clubs or house parties, people might think it's a little strange. But, hey . . .

Same as you, we have great sex together. Unlike you, sex with different people is a real turn on for us because it's different.

The ancient Roman did not use a word penis. It is Medieval Latin, used by priests. The plural form of penis is penis.

In life, we all pass mile stones... Sometimes we stop and take a picture, sometimes we drive by, only realizing once we've passed it the significance of what we barely noticed. One such mile stone was passed this Friday night - and it is only now that we realize what it meant. We went to the club, expecting to hook up with a couple that we had met a few weekes before, but they didn't show... But, it was a fun crowd and a fun night, so that didn't bother us at all. We stayed, played pool, and as the night went on met this other couple who completely took our mind off being "stood up". The wife flirted with me, I flirted with the wife and at some point, I leaned over to her and said, "let's just cut through the crap. You beat us at this game of pool and you get whatever you want - winner take all." I gotta tell ya, for a lady who was only playing her third pool game, she played like a person possessed. And - as happens often to us - we lost the game. And to the winner went the spoils. It was a good time - and the four of us made plenty of noise. I'll spare you the details... Mrs Spoomonkey and I got home - had some late night Taco Bell (God bless Taco Bell) - and then made neighbor waking monkey love, as is our ritual. And then, in the after glow, Mrs Spoomonkey asks me, "What were their names?" blink... blink... "I don't know..." I said somewhat surprised. I can tell you the name of every person we have played with since getting into the lifestyle over two years ago. And that is no small feat! But I couldn't tell you the name of this couple to save my life - and to be honest, I really don't think names were ever mentioned by anyone. They are simply "that one couple" and no further clarification could be given. I could tell you what she was wearing as I memorized it stitch by stitch as she took it off - I can tell you how her hair looked when she told me to "get naked" and "get on the bed, bitch!" - and I can tell you, with a large hand gestures, exactly what her boobs looked like, swinging in my face like they did... But a name? I didn't bother to get that... We have evolved, brethren. We are no longer newbies.

Great advice to let it go. If she got caught up in the heat of the moment it's certainly not worthy of more than a discussion, and being over it. She knows how you feel and there's no point in going further and

If your wife understood your concern and agreed to do better in the future, let it go and move on. You may make a boo-boo at a later date and you will appreciate your wife's forgiveness!

First, I see you are new to Swingersboard so I want to extend a hearty I want to say as well that I send my best wishes that this not strain your relationship. Third, I will tell you that there was a point in "our" swing journey that I was very envious of my wife's success in attracting attention while I was attracting no attention. To make a long story short, we eventually abandoned the same-room rule and decided that the idea of house parties, anyway, was to be able to separate and have our own fun. The same room rule still exists for us when having two-on-two meetings. Wishing you the best.