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Mrs Doc once had sex on a barstool in a public venue with the husband of a swinger couple we'd just met. It just sort of happened. She was wearing a skirt, no panties and he was standing next to her chatting her up. She turned towards him and he just kind of eased between her legs. Her skirt rode up and he started to fondle her. Before the other wife or I realized what was happening (I had my hand under her bra) Mrs Doc got his dick out and in. She said with a smile, "honey, he just took a dip". We left shortly after and the four of us had a very hot evening. She's often said that she'd like to do that again some time.

Go to Hedonism 2 in Negril Jamaica. It is a beautiful all-inclusive resort, all food, booze, wager sports, etc. are included for one price. There is no tipping. It has almost perfect weather, nude pool, nude hot tub, nude beach, several restaurants with delicious food, and wonderful staff. The resort is clothing optional and also swinger friendly, lots of sexual opportunities. However there is no pressure to participate in anything you don't want to. The only two rules there are "Respect" and "No means no. Best thing about the place is the people you meet there, all ages, all sizes, from all over the US and Canada, and other countries. We have met so many awesome people and have lots of friends we see each year when we return. Go to Hedonism.com, look at the groups that will be there during the various weeks, decide which ones fit your style and the time you want to go, and contact them and book. You'll get a better rate booking with a group. We love Jon's Fluffernutters, (Fluffernutters.com) but we've had a great time with various other groups, also. It will be the best vacation of your life!

We had a get together with a friend a week ago and since then I seem to be having some difficulty maintaining arousal. She has not felt great recently so I am chalking it up as concern for her but.....?

We have had very good experiences with hotel takeovers. One in particular stands out in memory: Buffalo, New York. It is difficult to judge ahead-of-time which event organizers are adept at staging takeovers. But if you see in their advertisements that there will be learning sessions and exhibitors, changes are better that they know what they are on about.

Turn this around: Imagine HE'S really into the woman and you aren't particularly into the guy (as in not sexually interested at all). How would you feel? That he is not sexually interested in the woman and you still want to get together with them is pretty much the definition of 'taking one for the team'. If either of you two say no to anyone or anything, the answer MUST ALWAYS be no for both of you...no questions, no penalties. He's said no to this couple, then move on and find the next couple. At the same time: This is also a bad thing. While swinging IS a team sport, there shouldn't be any score kept or (other than for discussion sake) no other stats kept from the past. Either you both 'win' or you shouldn't be playing the game with whoever you are playing it with. The past is nothing but a pleasant memory, everything else has got to be let go. It sounds like he feels that he has been taking one for the team too many times in the past (usually it's the woman who feels this way, but in the name of equality it's fine if he is feeling it). If a couple isn't a go for both of you, move on. If one partner is feeling like they are making all of the sacrifices, this will lead to problems down the road. Listen to what your husband is saying and tell him that it's okay that he feels this way. DO NOT minimize his attempts at communicating with you. Find another couple and remember that how your husband feels is more important than how you may feel about a play mate. Play mates can be replaced much easier than husbands. His feelings and him being able to tell you about it (i.e. his trust and communication) should be the most important things in the world to you.

For Mr OCCouple, unless you are just extremely homophobic seeing another cock really shouldn't cause a problem, and if you are that homophobic this probably isn't the right hobby for you. There is no way to catch "gay" from seeing or even touching another guys dick. In addition to that, if you are concerned about "limp flagging" at some point during the experience, this is the one time when that really shouldn't be a problem. Work as a team with the other male to satisfy her. If you are a normal male after watching your wife get pleasured for a while you should be ready to get back in the game.

Wow. The guy you found is very patient and understanding. Not many would hang in there like that. It's normal to be nervous about seeing his tool. Just relax and focus on her, and if you guys happen to touch each other by accident, don't panic! It happens.

Well I have a strange plot twist. After meeting a girl for a drink last night, she came back to our place. Things got hot and she asked my wife if she could go down on her. Wife said yes and loved it. I'm all sorts of confused now...

Twice I've had Facebook friends message me to tell me they were no longer swinging... people I had no idea were swingers in the first place.

When we got into swinging, my wife Mary never had any interest in the other ladies. Oh, if a girl started playing with her, she'd cooperate, allowing kissing and fondling. A few times, Mary even let the other woman go down on her, but never reciprocated. Then, during one house party, she got into a gaggle of girls and was the aggressor! She was fingered and ate at least two women while I was watching, enthusiastically let a girl give her a couple of great orgasms. Afterwards she told me she'd let herself be swept away in the moment, but that she still like men much better. As far as I know, she never got into that scene again.

We disagree! "Playing the game" is much like taking one for the team. Would you suck a dick if the male was bi and you wanted the wife? Mrs Doc has a standard answer to the pre-sex question, "are you bi"?. Her reply is "I'm not, but hubby will eat my share".

We actually have multiple profiles, one long detailed serious profile aimed at the upscale crowd. The other directly aimed at 420/party folks. We get 10x more emails from our 3 line party profile. Basically all it says is "she is hot, he is hung, let's get stoned and fuck" with a few faceless x-rated pics of us.

Any Group Sex activity, before star swinging I never participate on any kind of Group sex activity. -> Now I can multitask quite well

Several come to mind. We were introduced to light flogging and she discovered that she really likes it. We also had a spit roast a couple of times for a completely new experience.

We had been to a couple of strip clubs before we ever considered swinging. I noticed how much she likes the attention from the dancers. A friend asked (while I was in the restroom) if she had ever been with a woman. He also asked if we were familiar with the lifestyle. That is when the conversation started. From there we joined a couple of websites. After a few weeks, we got a room at a lifestyle hotel. She was hesitant at first, but there was a woman in the hot tub who was clearly interested in my wife. Once she started, it would have been hard to get her to stop (I didn't even consider trying to stop her). It was a huge turn on. I really enjoyed seeing her with another woman. Then she moved to a bed on the pool area where she was one of about 5 women all kissing and touching each other. One of the women was gonna no from girl to girl and performing oral sex. Apparently she was pretty good at it. We/she has had several experiences with men and women. I enjoy watching her being pleasured by both, but definitely prefer to watch her with another woman. ?

This happened to us just a few weeks ago, we went to a club with no expectations and got hit on by an experienced couple, she asked my wife if she liked girls and my wife said yes she would like to try, still can't believe she openly admitted it to relative strangers haha, we all went upstairs and she undressed my wife and kissed her all over and then went down on her , probably the 2nd horniest thing I ever saw. The most horniest thing I ever saw happened 5 minutes later when my "straight" wife returned the favour

I (the female half) love to see bi action between males. The male body is beautiful. I love watching two or more of them intertwined in physical sexual contact. Just watching their muscles flex as they pull and push their bodies together then away again makes me hot. Seeing them give head to one another is exciting for me. We have found there are many more bisexual men in swinging than you would think. A lot do not put it on their profiles or say anything about the curiosity until after meeting because of the double standard in the swinging lifestyle. Bisexuality is accepted, almost expected among women, but it is still taboo for men. Maybe it is me, but I just don't get it. If it is suppose to be ok for women to be bi, and straight women are suppose to accept f/f play anywhere it occurs (according to most men) without being upset or intimidated in anyway....what is problem with m/m play? Anyplace we have ever been, the bi-males never do anything without asking first!!! Most of the time they are in their own little space anyway. I just wish adults would act like adults when it comes to this matter!! Everyone would be more relaxed and have a lot more fun, more often!