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I would agree that getting out and going to events is about the best way for a single man to get started in the lifestyle. You can spend countless hours on sites but if no one knows you or knows what you can do in the bedroom then they will simply pass you over for one of the men that attends events and has shown his skills in the bedroom. In my opinion, SLS is the best site for swingers at the moment. Check their club listings by state and group events listed on HotDates. Believe me, there are a lot of couples into single men.

How about this one...we sent messages to three different people over the last couple days. They're still sitting there unread but the people have been online everyday. Who goes on sls and doesn't read their mail?

I divorced my X because he liked guys more than paying attention to me. He is very attractive with a huge cock able to get anyone he wanted in bed. We used to take on guys together and I would fuck them till they couldn’t get it up anymore and then he would take over and fuck their asses. It was hot watching him in action. My ex and I are still good friends and he is also friends with my new husband/slave. I still fuck my ex when I can screw him into giving me what I want. When my ex found out that I was fucking my slave in the ass with a strap-on he wanted in on the action. The guys always watched sports together and became good friends. I had rule in the house that we would all be naked together. During half time I would fuck one or both of them. Sometimes I would have them DP me nice and slow. Once the guys got familiar being naked together and we’re starting to do some touchy feeling each others genitals I knew it was time to take the next step. I decided to give my new husband an education by turning my ex-husband loose. I decided to do the same technique and fucked my slave until he couldn’t get it up anymore and then I turned him over to my ex-husband. I held him over the leather divan in the living room while my ex-husband carefully took his anal cherry nice and slow fucking him for a good 15 minutes. My ex-husband wanted another fuck so after about an hour I sucked him hard and he fucked my slave again. Behind closed doors my husband learned how to suck cock and enjoy taking it in the ass. Now I have more time to spend with my girlfriend in bed while the boys are playing. My slave still thinks he’s straight but I know better.

My husband and I have friends that are married that we spend lots of time with each other. We are very very open about everything and a few months ago me and the the other girl made out quite sexually at a bar the majority of the night drinking. Ever since then my husband has been convinced that something might happen in the future and so we talked a long time about if it would ever happen and how we would feel. The thought of a foursome with our best friends kinda scared me a bit since I have only ever been with my husband sexually. I dismissed my husband that he was just not reading them right and that nothing would ever happen,even though since the first time we kissed it had happened again and our conversations always had a bit more sexual undertones. Last night we got drinking again and sure enough we were talking and flirting with each other and end up making out again in our bedroom. Naturally the men begged to see our boobs which eventually led to clothing be removed. It started out as having sex with our partners beside each other but it led to touching our friends all over and eventually swapped partners. It was a lot of fun and it was a first for everyone when it came to group sex and we are definitely hoping for it to happen again in the future

We view swinging as a reward to both of us, as perk to our relationship. For this to work for us, we both have to be 100% in agreement on who we play with, and both of us have full veto power for any reason. If one of us isn't fully into the other couple, there is no way we would play with them, even if we didn't have anything else to do. I think the biggest mistake people make in the lifestyle is putting pressure on themselves to be with others. We were like that when we started, but it has evolved to if we find someone and have a good 4 way connection then we play. If not, we are perfectly content just having sex with each other. I certainly don't want to feel like I am in a position where I have to have sex with someone, just because my wife wants to be with the guy. If she pressed me, it would probably end our swinging completely. I would view it as her being selfish, no one should feel like the are 'owed' anything. There have been many times where I have cock blocked my wife and she has done the same to me. Taking one for the team is simply not an option for us. Swinging should not cause hard feelings or frustration. It needs to be fun, exciting and something you both want to do. Anytime we have felt any tension of frustration because of swinging, we take a break until we are on the same page again.

Be very careful, forcing anything on anyone is a bad idea. He will quickly resent swinging altogether if you make him take one for the team, allowing him to be uncomfortable just so you can be is a deal and relationship killer. Tread lightly and good luck Remember alway at the slowest persons comfort level, always!

One "no thank you" then no more responses. Our thoughts exactly. However every once in a while it does hurt, but the risk is worth it.

We always respond, you never know when you are going to end up meeting someone at a party out in the real world they may be friends of friends it never hurts to be nice. As to people not reading profile of being what we are looking for we each see our self's in our own way so just because someone is not what we are looking for does not mean that they don't see them selfs as what we are looking for. Over the years we have learned that you never know about anyone untill you know them. Sometimes those we though would be hot from their profile or email are not and those who we thought were not turn out to be WOW.

That's great and I hope it leads to a lot more fun and a much closer friendship for all four of you. My wife and I started when our best friends seduced us in the mid 80s. That was the only thing my wife and I could talk about for the next week. It is really great to have good friends you can also play with. The couple eventually divorced but we are still close friends with both of them. The husband is still our best friend and we still play with him on a regular basis. Sex with friends is great.

We are both bi and it's a huge turn-on for me to see him suck a dick or get taken from behind. He was bi before I met him and I think it's great that he can be himself.

It turns me on to see two guys fucking on video, but I've never seen it in real life. I've also never inserted Pet into that fantasy because I know it's something he would never do. Now, if he ever fulfilled my fantasy of seeing him suck a dick... then my new fantasy might be to see him fucking another guy.

My husband and I have been talking about sharing a penis together! The thought of it really turns me on for a lot of reasons. 1) Total uninhibited pleasurable sex. I think it's sad that even in an open community like swinging male bisexuality is taboo. We thought swinging was about doing the taboo! 2) Watching someone completely open up is like freeing them emotionally. You get to see them at their naughtiest! ;-)

My wife is highly aroused by male/male sexual play. She usually can't keep from joining in. We have received a number of responses from the female member of couples who want to see male on male sexual play, sometimes for the first time. It can be quite arousing. Even when they want just to watch, they often end up getting so aroused they join right in. It's much more fun to have my wife with me when there is man play. It really broadens the sexual horizons.