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You (probably unknowingly) put a ton of pressure on yourself with this being you second woman and your first swinging situation (and your first time with a second live penis). While you may not have known, your subconscious did. The brain will also play tricks on you as well. While you are seeing the hottest thing imaginable, your brain will also say that it can't be happening and not pass on the info to the rest of the body. All of these things are 'normal' (and they SUCK!). Now that it has happened, you keep worrying about will it happen again...so it does (self fulfilling prophecy). The bigger question is how to fix it. Here 'search' is your friend since it has happened to dozens before you. The basics are quit watching porn, quit masturbating (if you are doing it), and stop putting the pressure on yourself (much easier said than done). More extreme solutions include talking with your doctor (there IS a pill for this). While it may be hard for you to ask, they are totally used to being asked and usually won't blink an eye. Bottom line is it's all in your head and you just have to get it worked out, hopefully with the help of a patient girlfriend.

I am curious if anyone has tried the mmf position where the male is in the middle? One male would be getting penetrated by other male while he is penetrating a woman. I wonder if it's practical and what positions are possible. I'm really curious to feel what it's like to have a cock inside me while mine is inside my wife.

I have been dating a new woman for about a month. Friday was our first time having sex. She was sucking my dick and she asked me what I like. I describe how I liked it. She suddenly asked if I enjoyed sucking dick myself. I ask her if she likes to watch. She says more than watch. She told me she's bi and she loves bi men. We have great sex the last two days. Tonight we are meeting her female friend. She has a gay man friend who is supposed to have my ideal penis.

I was going down on my wife and I told the other girl to play with her boobs. I knew my wife was ok with a little touching. Next thing I know they're making out like crazy...I stepped back for a second in awe and the girl asked my wife if it was ok to lick her. I asked if she was comfortable with this and she said yes...next thing I know she's having an epic orgasm. It was quite a sight to see! I doubt she would ever reciprocate...but after that who knows? We'll have to wait and see.

Haven't been to Ozone but had fun in Oasis.

Which is why we don't get involved with single guys! That's not to say we don't enjoy a 3-some occasionally but when we do, the 2nd penis belongs to the male half of another swinger couple with his wife/girlfriend's knowledge and consent. We've found that, unlike most singles who just want a warm and semi wet place to put it and get it off, committed swinger males generally understand that they are receiving a gift from Mrs Doc and me and she's treated accordingly.

Some hotels will ask for one member of a group to show a keycard at the elevator or require keycards to activate the elevator from the ground floor, especially during late night hours. This is simply to keep people who aren't friends of the guests out, not to keep track of who comes and goes. The hotel isn't interested in your personal business, only that you don't create a nuisance for other guests. Try to keep the orgasm noises to a reasonable level, obviously.

The mfm trysts that I participated in hotel rooms were always more comfortable. The couple would book the room, arrive early to allow themselves some dress up time. They would text me the hotel name and room number and time to meet. When I arrived I text’d my arrival and proceeded to the room. Sometimes a couple would want to meet at the hotel bar or a non-affiliated restaurant before going to the room. I personally don’t like to eat before play unless some time elapses and I bring my toothbrush. The less any guy knows about you personally the better you’ll feel about protecting your privacy. I met a couple once where the woman wanted things to happen “organically”. This approach to me does not guarantee a successful fun event. The more you plan ahead and discuss the what if’s the better experience you two will have. It’s great to have a connection with the other man (sexual and/or personality) but until you spend a lot of time with him sexually and non-sexual he is not your buddy, he is an accessory to your sexual adventures. Always err on the side of caution.

Our best mmf memories are from hotel rooms. Sometimes we would get the room, sometimes the guy, sometimes split the cost. Our favorite was a guy who would rent the penthouse suite in a downtown hotel to play but then leave us the room for the night. That room cost nearly $400 and we saw him in it a half dozen times. I always felt the hotel option was safer than going into a guys house, safer than letting them know where we live. I never thought about taping but since I was the one snapping pictures, I guess it's not a big deal to us. Don't worry about the staff. They have seen, tolerated and cleaned up after a hell of a lot worse than an mfm.

You mentioned that it is "uncommon." NOT SO!! If you read posts on this site, you will find that this happens a lot, it happened to me, and it happens without warning and the unexpected characteristic makes it even more of a head game. Thankfully, you have a supportive girl friend. Keep working on being a participant with your girlfriend, remember that you have a tongue and fingers as backup. Saying, "don't worry or be nervous" is almost a command for me to be nervous and worried. Just keep trying. Good luck, and it isn't permanent.

It happened to me the first time with another couple too. Don't worry about it too much or you'll make it worse. It's also pretty shitty that the couple won't give you a second chance.

I love sucking dick especially with a woman. Rubbing dicks together is especially intimate. Once I had a female friend take me to gay bar. I was kissed buy a man. It was the first time it made me feel strange. The way he handle me made me feel feminine. It was the wildest thing I've ever known. Laying on my back and being fucked up the ass was a whole nother experience. Women never tell you how powerful a penises is. Feeling feminine is very addictive. I don't want to be feminine but it felt strong and I liked it but I'm not a feminine guy. I never felt feminine doing anything else with a guy even going down in front of them.

Are you talking what is considered good form between two playmates in general, or something more formal like at a club playroom where the venue may have its own rules? For the first, I think one should let a playmate know up front about anything that may catch them off guard or be something they might not be into...sort of an extension of the "ask first" policy when it comes to any type of physical contact. For the club type situation, can't say I've ever really thought about that or seen anything along those lines, so not really sure there. Depending on the club, towels are often provided, and many swingers will take their "play bag" with them to the club that with personal supplies like lube, toys they like, etc. You could take one of those absorbent sex throws like the Liberator Fascinator in your bag and stay respectful of other patrons and the club by not leaving a mess behind for someone else to have to deal with.

One of my favorite memories is the time that my wife and I had her first full swap with another couple. Up until a certain point in that night, we had to been having a soft swap out with the other couple. Lots of wandering hands And oral between both couples. At one point my wife looked up and said "all right now, I don't care whose dick it is but somebody is going to fuck me now! " it was so hot to hear my wife be so blunt and into the experience. I promptly obliged and began to slide inside her briefly. I then watched another man have fun with my wife for the first time :-)

This may be too focused but wth. As a bisexual with a strong oral fixation, the high point of my sexual life was licking a pussy being fucked.

Her first time with another man in front of me since we were married couldn't have been more perfect. She was so shy and nervous it was like watching a virgin. She kept her eyes closed from the moment she was naked and laying on her back on the bed waiting for him. As he began to press his cock into her her mouth and eyes opened wide to look at him and down at his cock as he pushed into her.

Without a doubt, the first time I watched my husband have sex with another woman.

We've only had a total of four play sessions with the same couple, but our first full swap was very vivid. Mrs. E bent over one side of the bed and Mrs. E's friend bent over my side, both getting it from behind. I'm not sure who Mrs. E made more eye contact with, me or her friend while her friend's husband fucked her, but it was one of those dazed "desperate for cock" looks that I really prized.

Events that stand out most in my memory... The time, at the club, when a guy had my wife bent over a foot rest/ottoman and thrust into her so hard both the ottoman and the wife basically went flying across the room. We promptly decided to relocate to an actual bed... and four or five guys from the audience followed, and eventually joined in. The time, also at the club, when I was watching my wife in a threesome with two guys and another guy, sitting next to me, said how beautiful she was and how he wished he could have a chance with someone like her. I encouraged him to ask her, once one of her play partners finished, and sure enough he got his wish. Finally, my first time with the young lady who was my friend-with-benefits for about a year. Seeing a strong, smart, kind of sarcastic young lady suddenly look shy and hesitant as we kissed for the first time... just wow. Given how that whole thing ended, that one's bitter sweet but I don't regret it.

Wow! I mean wow! That's so hot! I hope we have experiences like this in the future. Keep posting!