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Your situation sounds almost exactly like what we went through 10 years ago. And we're still together and going strong. We jumped into swinging pretty fast, but then took a step back for several months before really getting started on what has been 10 years of making good friends that we also fuck. You can do this.

My wife and I recently had our first DP. He was very well endowed (9+") so he had the pussy, she was riding him cowgirl style, then laid down chest to chest with him so I could get into her ass. It was very very tight. I was able to get several strokes in, just to say we had done it (it was on our bucket list) but I could tell it was making her uncomfortable so I pulled out and we moved on to other things. Overall a positive experience for both of up, but I think if we do it again it will be with someone a little smaller.

I have a different view. It's not about trust; trust has been taken out of the equation. We are the best of friends who share everything. I mean what is hubby or anyone else in our family going to do that I need to trust them with? That one of them might make social contact with someone and set up a trist? I don't need to worry about that because he (or any one of them) can do that anyway without any consequences or repercussion from the rest of us. But because we are best friends who share everything, any one of us would tell the others way in advance about what has us excited, intrigued or fascinated. We talk it out not out of trust, but a desire to share. The same goes with money, the kids, the house, etc. That's how we girls got another male lover into our circle - Clair found someone she liked and before doing anything talked to all of us in the family about it. We all go excited about the possibilites and went about it together.

In our poly family the girls (Lora, Clair and I) have all done anal and DP. Lora and Clair can come just with anal, but I can't. I do, however, have great orgasms with vag/anal DP. For me, doing anal with a guy crosses a threshold, but not really a big one. I think that being in my pussy means a lot more both sexually and romantically than being in my bum. BTW, my husband has never been in my bum, his dick is too big around, and he really doesn't care. DP though is a totally transformational experience both for the girl and the guys. It's the simultaneity and closeness among the three people that makes it so special. An MFM can really just be guys taking turns, but with DP they are pumping and trying to cum in the same woman at the same time with only a small amount of woman between them. (It's also physically awkward.) None of us have tried vaginal DP yet.

This 100% I read a lot on here that only the guys should talk to each other and vice versa. We have a single guy that she plays with and I don't care if my wife texts him. Are they not supposed to communicate at all until it's time to have sex? Swinging is about trust...

It amazes me that couples are fine with their spouse having sex with someone else, but then gets upset with social contact or kissing or any number of other things.

There are no rules in the lifestyle other than those that you make for yourself. My female half doesn't need my permission to communicate with other men and I don't need her permission to talk with other women. Of course other people here may have different views but it's really something between your husband. If you gave the other guy your social media information I don't see how it's his fault for contacting you.

Hi, double penetration experience ... we are curious to know who has already tried double penetration or anal sex with other couple We did it once and it was very intense ...

So we met a couple that we had been chatting with online for awhile. We met and had some oral play, then we met again and had sex. The husband reached out on LinkedIn to congratulate me on my promotion. I told my husband and he seemed fine, and when the guy spoke with my husband on the phone he mentioned it. Apparently, I thought things were ok, but my husband is a bit upset because he felt that the guy should have ‘asked’ him first before reaching out to me. Really??? I mean we hooked up with this couple twice already. I gave the guy and his wife my number and Facebook link to my blog that I started. This made my husband upset. Is it a rule that the husband should asked the other before contacting? even though the wife has her own number and social media account and shares any all contact with the husband anyway? Now my husband doesn’t want to play with them anymore, and thinks the guy is sneaky but I don’t think so. .......help!

She fell in love with him. I was happy that she was happy and it was awesome to watch them progress from fucking to making love. I was willing to share her equally with him but he fell in love with her and didn't want her to have sex with me anymore. He wanted to possess her for himself. We're still married. He's gone. She still gets special feelings for men she has awesome experiences with but she is happy to have those special moments and still have the security of being married to me. She respects me for letting her experience other men.

Swing sex is what it is you may know him /her but one in this lifestyle must remmber your having sex not making love as your not in love with this person. You and hubby or you and boy friend made committments to each other to share each other in sex.?

Neither one of you is "Right" or "Wrong" or "Disrespectful or sexist" You both have different boundaries. This kinda thing happens and normally to new people / couples that have not gone over there boundaries very well or simply did not think of it. What shows here is that both of you need to talk it out with the compassion you "once had " for each other not get on a forum and cry foul. That said instead of thinking my husband is Disrespectful or sexist try thinking why does it bother him and how can i help, Just like if something bothers you he should do the same. Why is it that so many today seem to forget that if there partner is upset about some thing in the LS they should be there for support because your partner comes before any other person in the LS ( i'm not saying you should just bend over and take it - no just put there shoes on for a minute)- Have we all forgot who our partners are?, or is that we have become so self centered that we feel like there feelings should not over ride our lust / fun /anything else you want to put here.

We have been with one couple for almost 5 years and we still don't allow cross man/woman contact. Email, text, facebook, phone, etc. Nothing good can ever come from it so why do it at all? Either it's man/man, woman/woman, or all four combined. We never want to invite drama into our lives...

And here's my solution... two of them actually. Get on a contraceptive regimen that keeps you from having a monthly period. While on The Pill you don't really ovulate anyway, it's just break through bleeding. There are products specifically designed for this or you can just take your current pills and skip the inactive ones. Some women with some IUDs also have very light or no periods. Second, what's wrong with period sex? For regular sex (or anal) just put an old towel on the bed. For oral, wash beforehand. My guys are fine with both.

Kissing really isn't that big of a thing, but being connected on social media is a little too close to home. We have a rule that there is no M/F cross contact. It keeps the Ms. 'safe' and removed and doesn't allow the chance of drama happening...what if he WANTS to start something with the Ms. (doesn't matter of she is interested or not). being connected on social media gives him the chance to 'say' things that can 'out' her as a swinger. Just not a good idea.

Because you have already received some very sound advice, I will not say much. I just want you to know that it is possible to enter the lifestyle successfully after an affair. I had two affairs with former boyfriends, and continued both times even after being found out and promising to stop. Eventually, I did stop because of the damage being done to our marriage, and we worked on repairing and strengthening our relationship. As others have said, my husband had no objections to my having sex with other men. The deception and lack of communication was the problem.

Exciting intense or difficult intense?

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At first for a moment, I thought she meant sucking his own dick.

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Probably the first place to start would be to sign up for some swinging sites such as Swinger Lifestyle Community | Adult Personals | Clubs & Events or C4P.com - An Online Community for Swingers. . Once you get signed up on there besides browsing others profiles, you main mission is going to be locate a close by swingers club. On SLS that will be about mid way down the page. Don't just look on the main tab. Check out all of the tabs. There you go, that is your local events. Ok, I just goggled Jacksonville, AL...it looks like a trip to Atlanta might be in your future if you want to go to events. We are in a similar location and typically drive 2-4 hours for a club event. Hope this helps. Pretty sure you don't have to have a paid membership to view the clubs list.

You hit the nail on the proverbial head for us as to why the MFM threesome works so well for us. It is almost like a euphoric sexual drug for me when I see Mrs being flirty and getting sexual with another guy in front of me. The peak to this sexual high comes when she looks at me and asks me when I am going to join in on the sexual fun with her. She is totally aware of my arousal and really plays to the situation for myself, and the other guy. Totally and very sexually arousing for myself and the other guy when she is sucking his cock while looking at me and she stops just long enough to ask me how much I enjoy seeing her doing what she is doing. No, this is never a cuckolding situation. Nor is it ever a bi-curious or bi-sexual situation. Rather, it is an experience that myself, my wife, and the males we usually play with all enjoy together. As myself and the other male always agree that the Mrs is completely in charge when it comes to play (what she does or does not want based on her mood and arousal at the time), we all feel that it enhances the sexual experience.

If it is your view that this man was trying to get her to squirt, then, OK, isn't that great? I am thinking you are making way too much of this. Your wife had a nice time, you just happened to be gone when she had her orgasm. It may not be realistic to get her to schedule her sexual responses around your activities. Just be happy that she had a very nice time. There is no reason for you to be upset.