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Coda--how it all worked out. The host couple brought four more couples together in their home as a private meet-and-greet. They put a great deal of thought and effort into the prep and the invited couples. While the evening was vanilla (in the sense that everyone kept their clothes on and stayed by their partner), the talk was most definitely lifestyle. There was indeed a "go-around the room" to talk about their first experience in the LS. A tour of the hosts (extensive!) sex toy collection. As noted earlier, when everyone at the party is known to be in the LS, people “let their hair down” and just savor the moment. We thought the private setting allowed for the development of rich erotic conversation and chemistry. Will there be a second gathering? That's up to the hosts, of course. We hope so.

I picked the wrong thread at lunch

Or she could just skip the anal at parties.

When me and my wife were chatting about the no kissing rule I said to her "I don't have a massive cock, I don't have a ripped body, one of the things I'm good at is kissing , by ruling out kissing you are actually crippling my chances of getting anywhere in this lifestyle" she said ok then go for it haha

Such a great response and makes a lot of sense. I need to work with my partner and our communication style. He is difficult and throws little tantrums if I oppose his point of view. I think we need to take a break and see it we can help our relationship.

In the past year I have had three male partners have difficulty or not cum at all. They have been in their mid 50's, in good physical shape, and all have said they don't always. They tell me not to worry and still come back again. Any insight? I don't draw attention, they are the ones to end playing (I am fully satisfied). Sometimes my oral skills will do the trick but not always. I have multiple, amazing orgasms and wish they could feel the same.

This. It's not unusual for me not to come, and it's for the reason above...I'm so concentrated on pleasing her as long as she wants to be pleased by not coming too soon that in the end I don't at all. Doesn't mean I didn't have a really good time

Ask for us to be invited next time as well!

I am trying to figure out why you didn't join. You say the three of you played before and most likely they wanted you to join. You are asking the question which makes me think something held you back from jumping into bed. If you are having jealousy problems you should be questioning what you want. Do you ever watch your husband having sex? If you feel off when watching you need to talk about it.

Sounds like the pooper couple needs to bring a Fascinator Throw from Liberator. Normally for gushing/squirting girls, but it would be a kind thing for a "messy" girl to bring to a party. Then she can take her mess with her and clean it up at home.

Ew, just ew! I hope we never cross paths with them!

Difficult. Trying to figure out why it happened will just eat you up. Even the cheater might not understand or be able to articulate it, not even in his own head. But it's not your fault, and not a reflection on anything you've done (including swinging). The usual advice for these situations is giving yourself space and time to calm down and work out what you want, in your own time. You could even ask him to move out until that happens - actions speak louder than words. But maybe him staying in the basement for a while is distant enough... If you decide to stay together it should probably be on the basis that he has an awful lot of redeeming features which, if this ever happened again, would compensate for his selfish behavior.

We're so sorry to hear about this as well. Not knowing your husband, we just can't know what he was and is thinking. Wagering a guess, maybe it's just 'easier' to just find someone and pay them and do whatever he wants. Maybe it's the excitement and risk of doing something forbidden. Maybe he's just a dumbass. Either way, the question is what do YOU want to do? If you want to stay and work on fixing this, then you need to tell him and see if he wants to stay. If he does, then you need to find a professional to help mend the fractures in your relationship. We wish that there was more that we could do (other than sending you our support and wishes). Please let us know how things go from here.

Don't get angry, get answers. Talk with him and work on making him comfortable with the idea. Set your rules and limits on the first visit to watching ONLY. Also, it never hurts to improve your communication and trust with each other. Anger is a harsh word. I'm sure that the clothes won't go to waste. You both need to be able to talk things out and come to understandings or you will eventually find that your relationship isn't doing well as he continues to have second thoughts and changes his mind (trust issues maybe?) and you harbor anger because of it. Lighten up, slow down, and work on fixing this first, you can ALWAYS go to a club at any time. Address the bigger issues first and overall things will improve. Let us know how things progress and good luck.

Do you know anyone else on the guest list? If not, are their pics or links to the profiles of everyone on the guest list? My husband and I have gone to house parties before where the guest list was "secret". We've had a blast. Would we go to this? It depends on how well we knew the host. And if you get there and it's not your thing, you can always leave.

Music engages my mind almost completely which makes it a distraction while having sex. My wife feels differently. She likes music that has a lively beat while having sex. When it becomes a choice between here preference and mine, I concede to her preference.

I don't understand the kiss thing and why people are against it. To me kissing is so much a part of any sex I have. If I am going to be intimate with someone I want the kissing and foreplay that goes with the act. I don't how I would react if the only kiss I got was a thank you kiss. Why is kissing too intimate but oral sex isn't?

My husband and I have friends that are married that we spend lots of time with each other. We are very very open about everything and a few months ago me and the the other girl made out quite sexually at a bar the majority of the night drinking. Ever since then my husband has been convinced that something might happen in the future and so we talked a long time about if it would ever happen and how we would feel. The thought of a foursome with our best friends kinda scared me a bit since I have only ever been with my husband sexually. I dismissed my husband that he was just not reading them right and that nothing would ever happen,even though since the first time we kissed it had happened again and our conversations always had a bit more sexual undertones. Last night we got drinking again and sure enough we were talking and flirting with each other and end up making out again in our bedroom. Naturally the men begged to see our boobs which eventually led to clothing be removed. It started out as having sex with our partners beside each other but it led to touching our friends all over and eventually swapped partners. It was a lot of fun and it was a first for everyone when it came to group sex and we are definitely hoping for it to happen again in the future

Here's part 2 of our first adventure at the swingers club. Mary had just finished squirting all over me, the floor, the small table next to me, and the couch. I attempted to dry everything off with our towels but unfortunately our towels were soak as well. Lucky a waitress had stopped to enjoy the show as well and offered to clean up for us. We found our drinks and looked for a place to talk and drink. I wanted to make sure Mary was okay with what had just happened. We went outside near the pool and hot tubs. We sat on an outside cabana with a bed. There were several people in both the pool and hot tubs. Some were just talking while others were playing. We watched the action and talked. Mary said that was the best experience she has ever had. The pleasure of being touched and knowing so many people were watching was so overpowering. She said she felt free. Now she understands why her parents were in the lifestyle. As we continued to talk and drink, we noticed a lot of the people from the bar had followed us outside. They were waiting for us to start playing again. Because we both lost our towels we were both butt naked. Most of them were still masturbating, probably still thinking about what they had just witness. I asked Mary how far she wanted to take this. Mary response was, I'll let you know. She then said, she needed to return a favor to me. She turned around and started to suck my dick. Wow, she can suck dick. She licked everything inch of it and then started to suck my balls. She then shocked me again and deepthroat my dick. I'm not bragging but I don't have a small dick. She swallowed it all the way to my balls. A man closest to us introduced himself as Mike and asked if he could feel Mary's wet pussy. She said please and he began to massage her pussy. She continued to suck my dick and gave out several moans. At that time, several men and females came closer to the table and started to feel her tits and her ass. Mary stuck her ass high into the air. Mike stuck several fingers into her pussy and her moans got louder. Then, suddenly she was squirting again. I couldn't see it but I could hear what sounded like someone spraying a water hose. Mike took his fingers out and allowed the juices to drip onto her back and ass. He then pointed his fingers towards a woman (assume his spouse) behind him. He told her to suck her sweet juices. He placed his fingers into her mouth and she sucked. The sight of all this almost made me cum so I pulled out of Mary's mouth. When Mike turned towards his wife, it gave enough room for another man to sneak in and lick Mary's ass and ass crack. Mary said her legs were weak so she climbed onto the table and turned onto her back. He began to eat her pussy. I slide to the side of the table to drink and watch. Mary instantly had two dicks on both sides of her face. I asked her again if she's okay and she smiled and grabbed one dick by her hand and starting jerking it and she inserted the other into her mouth. Mike came over and started sucking one tit while his partner sucked the other tit. He said something to her and she reached over and started stroking my dick. This continued for about 5 minutes and then the man sucking her pussy took a condom out and began to fuck her. He was very quick. As soon as he pulled out, Mike had a condom on and was fucking her. His partner was going back and forth between sucking Mary's tits and now sucking my dick. Mike fucked Mary for what seemed like a hour. She came several times but not as hard as before. You could tell because as he penetrated her you could hear the splashing sound. He pulled his condom off and came on her tits where his spouse was waiting to lick it up. She missed a spot and I accidentally touched it. Shockingly (because I'm not gay) I was even more turned on and when she returned to my dick with Mike's cum still in her mouth I exploded with cum down her throat. Someone please explain that??? We took a break after that and got some food with Mike and his spouse (never got her name). After eating, we sat in the corner of the club where couples go to be alone. There were already several couples there already making out. We decided we wanted to fuck our spouses in front of the other couples one last time before leaving. We pushed two chairs facing each other and fucked. The females made out with each other during most it. As we drove back to the hotel, we talked about all the fun. We were both very shocked how then turned out. She got horny again and started to masturbate in the car and squirted all over the dash. Luckily it was a small squirt and a rental. Of course we fucked again at the hotel. This was the first of many times swinging in Atlanta - maybe I'll write about those too.

So I got into the lifestyle a little over 10 years ago. Before then, I only knew what I read and heard rumors about. At that time I worked with a pretty crazy group of coworkers and we would sometimes talk about it. Someone in the group told me that there was a swinger club in Atlanta. He has never been but he heard it's a lot of fun. He told us you'll have more fun if you're a couple. Within our group was one female, Mary. She was okay looking but very quiet. During one conversation I noticed Mary was listening very closely to the conversation. She never contributed, just listened intensely. I also noticed her nipples got really hard and I think she was rubbing her pussy under the table. Once she immediately got up and went to the bathroom. From that day on my goal was to get her to come home with me after work. Mary was there when the conversation about couples came up. After the group dispersed, I took the opportunity to mention to her that I was traveling to Atlanta to see family and I would love to see the club. To my excitement she said she'll go with me. For the next few days, I had to wear my shirt out at work because every time I saw Mary my dick got hard. When that Friday arrived, we left for Atlanta immediately after work. On the way there, Mary told me she knew a lot about the lifestyle because her parents were swingers and when she got older they didn't hide it from her. She admitted that every time she heard us boys talking about it, she got incredibly horny. The next thing she told me blew me away. She said she's embarrassed to tell me that she's a squirter and it doesn't take much for her to squirt. She admitted she would sometimes feel herself under the table while we're talking. I asked her about the time she ran off to the bathroom and she laughed. She said she was so turned on by the conversation she squirted and had to take her panties off. We first stopped at a hotel near the club to get showered and changed. I was blown away when Mary came out the bathroom. Gone was that quiet, okay looking female. She was gorgeous! She was wearing a see through net top and a semi-see through lace bra. She had a very short tight leather skirt with "hooker" boots. Damn! I told her every guy and female in the club will be all over her. Then she surprised me. She said she only wanted to watch and not participate. It was fine with me because I was nervous anyways. When we got to the club we immediately sat at the bar and drank. There was a bunch of females dancing on stage and porn playing on the TV screens. Other than the porn, it seemed like a regular club. After a while, we noticed a few people kissing and making out. As the night went on, more and more clothing started to come off. We remained in our seat drinking and talking to other couples. At one point Mary tapped me on the shoulder and told me to look. There was a guy next to us getting his dick sucked by two females. I almost came when he came. Mary got up and sat on my lap, which also almost made me cum. She wasn't wearing any panties so she was showing everyone a clear picture of her bald pussy. She whispered to me how wet she was and then guided my hand into her pussy. Yep, she was dripping wet. We heard from a couple earlier that the all nude area was in the back. I told her let's go see what's happening in the back. We went to the lockers and got butt naked, except for a towel. As we walked through the back, people we fucking and sucking everywhere. We were in shock AND getting even more horny. Mary stopped, sat on a chair and said she needed me to eat her pussy right now. We were sitting directly in front of a second bar with a lot of people drinking and talking. We both didn't care. I dive right into that soft wet pussy. It tasted sweeter than sugar. Within 1 minute of me eating her out she scream at the top of her lungs and squirted everywhere. I couldn't believe how much was coming out. She stopped squirting for about 30 seconds and started again- just as intense as the first time. After she finished, with cum juices drinking from my beard I looked at her with a big ass smile. We then noticed everyone at the bar had stopped talking and was enjoying the show. Then they all started to clap. That was only the beginning of a long enjoyable night. I'll give you part 2 later.

I was doing some off the head math while sitting in a plane the other day and figure the percentage of swingers in the general population is well really really small. I would guess less than 0.01% I know this kinda goes against the grain of the general thought, but that would be my guess. So if you are asking they probably aren't. We do play the who would you rather, in semi public situations though, like a crowded restaurant, waiting for a plane, etc.

Well, there isn't a foolproof way to spot a swinger in the vanilla world, other than them saying "We swing". There are signs that might indicate they are either swingers or are open to the possibility. Even then it isn't a guarantee. Because of this we have made it a habit of finding swingers in the swinging community. It's A LOT easier. I will say this: "Are They Swingers" can be a fun game to play while out in the real world.

They are the one with 2 eyes, 2 arms and 2 legs. Some have breasts and some have a penis. Hope this helps. If you are a swinger, look in the mirror. That's what a swinger looks like.