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We wrote our own vows, too, WiSwingCpl. Both straight and not-so-straight folks attended. The only one who noticed that we left out "...forsaking all others..." was my late wife's mother.

I’ve had sex with five women on their wedding night. Only three of them were my own wives. In the other two cases the groom was in the room and (I presume) enjoying.

I had talked to my wife for ages about swinging, all with no luck, but she was always into the idea when we were having sex. A few years later on holiday in Florida we met a guy who ran the local picture gallery, he took a shine to her and I finally convinced her to fuck him. Holiday fever and excitement took over and She agreed but I couldn't watch. This was half way through our time there. She told me all about it and she knew how excited it made me when she recounted the sex with him. After a lot a discussion she agreed to fuck him whilst I watched. I spoke to the guy explaining the situation and he also agreed provided I just watched, which was more than fine by me. I still remember that for me special moment. I was so nervous, almost shaking. I sat in a chair in our hotel room a little to the side, she didn't want eye contact with me she said. When the moment came and she spread her legs and he moved above her between them although I couldn't see the actual moment of penetation, when he pushed forward she raised her hips and gasped, and held his hips with both hands, I knew he was then in her. He stayed still for some time before starting. I almost came in my trousers. I looked at her face she had her eyes closed but I could see in her expression what she had just experienced. I just could not believe what I was seeing, to me it was the greatest sexual charge I had ever had. He was very good with her, aware that she and also me were so very nervous. It was the most exciting pit of stomach churning feeling I have ever had. Since that time I have watched her with many men it always turns me on, but never like that very first time.

Honestly, it can be age, booze, nerves, or anything else including and up to he's simply been cumming too much - especially if he's using Cialis or similar as an assistant. I can see how it'd seem personal but from the male perspective, when I've had a weekend like that I'm still just happy to be hard and using it. I'd hate to think a woman was disappointed that I screwed to exhaustion without getting off.

Hi all. We had the privilege of having a swinger wedding. Feel free to ask us anything or share your own stories.

So here we are been talking about entering the LS for some time now.. Been married over 25 years she's 47 and I'm 48 and high school sweethearts both of us have never had another partner. I guess most would wonder why even brought this up? Our sex life in incredible we at least have some sort of sex 5 or more nights a week sometimes it's spontaneous. I could be watching tv setting on the couch and she will just walk over pull my shorts down and start blowing me and never say a word!! I'm always running my hand up her skirt feeling her soft satin covered pussy while we are out at diner etc.. We are not ken or barbie but in decent shape and run a half marathon each year for the last 15 years.I'm no porn star below the belt but always make sure she is satisfied. I always want to leave her smiling and toes curled up from having the best sex we can. She has always poked my side when we are out and say would you like to have sex with her or what do you think about that lady over there so she's been giving me suttle hints for years finally clicked in my mind!! I asked her several months ago while she was using her magic wand with her back pressed up against my chest sitting upright my mouth so ever close to her ear both of my hands busy caressing her boobs, as the wand worked its magic, I whispered in her ear would you like another man eating you out while I hold you just like this her response sent cold chills down my back "oh god yes please" asked her would you placed both hands on his head and guide him like you do me to that perfect spot that sends you overboard? "Please tell me more" her breathing growing faster and faster the more details I whispered in her ear of another man bringing her to a orgasm.. several minutes later its a wonder the kids upstairs wasn't scared out of their minds LOL never heard her that vocal coming before!! She gathered her self and turned around and buried her head in my neck and said I'm sorry should have never let myself go like that please don't be mad about me coming to another man!! I said honey I want you to have the best and would never be mad.. She stated Ive always wanted see if another man was attracted to me and what it would feel like having someone beside you touch and caress me. I'm like wow over 25 years marriage and Im just now find out about this LOL.. Over the last several months she/we had been so researching the LS and reading the posts here its like a switch has been thrown with her its incredible.. Told me so many stories positive and negative ones, positive ones gets her so wet!! She been showing me club dresses and has ordered several and modeled them for for me. She will ask do you think will I get any attention with this on and I'm like sure you will poor me will be left out LOL..I then let my hands start to rub all over her while she grinds me dancing in our bedroom she says would you be ok with me dancing with someone like this? I said just feel how hard I am LOL.. Conversions have progressed to what we are comfortable with and both agreed start with a couple local cubs this month just flirt/dance and not to expect anything or push our comfort levels.. Then this morning she said I'm ready to see you penetrate another woman never thought I would hear such from my wife LOL... We are excited/nervous to see where this journey takes us.. Sorry for the long post hope to update with exciting news over the next several months... Charlie & Ally

There are people who don’t talk during sex and people who do. In general I enjoy verbal exchanges while having sex, particularly passionate and energetic ones. If my partners are down with talking while playing, that’s what I prefer. I do mostly MFMs and MMFs and unless the couple who are my partners indicate they prefer no talking, (and assuming I’m not using my mouth for other purposes) I tend to speak with both of them while we are playing. If I’m actively engaged with one of them while the other is watching, I give encouragement to the one I’m in contact with, but go out of my way to converse with the partner who is watching. I ask them if they are enjoying watching their partner with me. (And I often ask if they’d like to join in.) Sometimes the observing partner will “coach” one or both of us, but it’s usually the male who does so. At hotel-suite parties where there are a number of pairs and small groups in the same room, I’ve watched the male half of a couple direct the man who is with his woman in sometimes such explicit language that I was almost shocked. (I get it that when people are fully engaged they use language they wouldn’t otherwise. I played with a woman once who just screamed Anglo-Saxonisms the whole time, literally in sync with my thrusts into her.) I haven’t participated in many gang bangs, but in the few I have coaching, either by the male partner of the woman who was receiving, or even bystanders.

You’ll need to do nothing more than wait until his phone heals (or his attitude adjusts itself). When my wife and I first started, many people flaked out on us. We were simply overeager and failed to see the signs. I believe this young man of yours is one of these flakes. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Our criteria was whether a couple was fun in a vanilla setting. If they made us laugh, we figured they'd understand "fucking for fun." Good point rickl81au! You married a wise woman, but you knew that, didn't you?

Haha yes we did.

Not a long post, a great post. Good luck and keep us up to date as you continue.

Since this thread is still alive... I've mentioned a couple of times about our recent get-together with two other couples. One major box that we ticked off involved a foursome in a chain, Mrs E. on her back, letting the other husband pump her mouth off the edge of the bed while the wife went down on her, and me taking the wife from behind on the other edge of the bed. Eventually, the wife turned over and asked me to finish on her, and I got the condom off and shot all over her stomach. That was what Mrs. E needed to really break the ice and bend over for the other husband while the wife kissed us both. I'm hoping those two ladies maintain a lasting friendship. After that night we finally had a few of sessions with all six of us together again, with two queen-size beds to share between us. Six is a GREAT number.

...pretty much called it...definitely no class...borderling pervvy; surely a porn freak and someone who is truly not into what the lifestyle is about...

I am sure My curiosity is shared. Would love to know how your weekend went. of course, I'm writing this on saturday afternoon when you could very well still be enjoying yourself... I am looking forward to hearing whether you had a good time.

We've found that going down this road has actually increased our body confidence, people pay compliments and heck some of them even want to sleep with us Haha, we aren't perfect but it's not long before you realise nobody is, and then you kind of think you know what I'm happy with what I've got

I think I would disagree with the notion that a woman gives better blow jobs. There are a few women that do love giving head, but knowing how most woman's brains are wired, their enthusiasm is more related to how pleased the man is. They pay very close attention to reaction and watch the man. A guy on the other hand, first off is sucking a dick. If anyone thinks this isn't the most terrifying step we take in our life, think again. I thought about doing it from a very young age but never thought I'd ever actually DO it. The risk you are undertaking is monumental, and this one simple act can completely alter your life. Point is, if he's there sucking your dick, believe me... he is enjoying it and he really wants to be there. And THAT my friend, is what makes a great blowjob.

The tipping balance for me was picking out the man I wanted to be with on my own. We joined AFF and originally my partner would say... look at who is interested. It wasn't until I did the searching and the chatting that I became invested and interested. My partner was amazing at making the whole experience so wonderful. The night we were to get together with the fellow I chose, my bf took me to dinner, took me shopping and then we went dancing with the fellow I chose, it was truly a fantastic night because my partner made me feel like a princess. I got dressed all sexy and felt on top of the world. The man I chose was fellow it was my first mmf and I think that helped with his gentle approach. A night I will never forget.

Great question! We've been on hiatus for many years. When we were into it before, although Mr. intuition had no trouble reaching orgasm, I never did. Did I enjoy it? Hell yes, but I couldn't relax enough with a new partner to "get in the zone" long enough to get there. But that was okay, it was all about the experience of exploring a new person. Fast forward to today: we're back at it again, and during our time away we've been busy learning some new tricks. Turns out I'm something of a squirter. A g-spot orgasm is a whole different animal. It's much more mechanical and the only thing you have to do to achieve one is to get of your own way by relaxing and letting your body do its thing. It's almost a reflex. So if I've got some good chemistry going on with my swing partner, he better hope he brought some rain gear. And maybe a mop. I think as I've matured, I'm not only better able to relax, but more inclined to ask for what I want, too. So this new confidence means I don't need so much time to get in the groove. I think I'd still not be able to achieve a clitoral orgasm through oral or whatever, but I think it's not a reflection on my partner's abilities. It's still me needing to feel some level of comfort with my partner that's difficult to develop after only just meeting them. I don't think I'm ever going to find anyone to make my eyes roll back in my head like Mr. intuition does. The man knows how to play me like a fiddle.

You are right I did judge.. I was thinking that they were not good enough for her.. I know that is not the best thought to have, but I own those.. We were really getting our feet under us and letting go of preconceived ideas about sex.. and then Bam.. turns out I still get them. Communication is key for us, I am the talker in the relationship and I seem to be the one that gets bent more than my spouse. Thanks for pointing out my judgement I did not see it.. Caution I am a man in progress. Constructive criticism may be taken poorly by myself... But don't worry I will get over me..

Have been down that road ourselves a few times, going back in the 80’s B C (before computers and mobile phones) we were into meeting guys for M F M threesomes through swinging sex magazines, it was a complicated procedure of placing or replying to an add “with fee attached” and making contact by snail mail you finally made contact by phone to arrange a face to face meeting. Our modus operandi was to meet at a hotel not far from our place, if the guy was OK the wife would give me the signal and I would invite him back to our place for sexy fun and games. A few times the wife gave the OK signal to a guy that I thought she would not be interested in and when I quizzed her about it she said we were only after a quick romp in the hay (bed) not a life time commitment “which was true” she thought that as long as the guy was clean, respectful and could hold a reasonable conversation why not after all we had gone through the ritual to make contact to meet him. And she was right some of the guys I thought she would say NO to turned out to be just the sort of guys we were looking for, we have it so easy these days with computers and chat rooms. PS we are still meeting guys through chat rooms where you can view each other on web cams, still very sexy.

Never in the very nasty negative way but MD has hit me on occasion with "you really thought she was attractive?" and I have learned that it's more often a feeling of (very slight, lol) guilt, like she thought I took one for the team. My response is pretty simple - "why do you think I close my eyes a lot?" :lol: Just kidding!!! I do not ever agree with taking one for the team but at the same time, we are not always going to find that perfect match. She found the husband more attractive than her and despite we both agreed that there was a disparity between the two (him being more attractive than her), it still shows how shallow we are sometimes to not think they are having the same exact conversation about us? And at the heart of the question the answer is that they have all been attractive enough. It sounds kind of cold stated so bluntly but the fact remains that almost every encounter is like this to some degree and while we are pondering if we really want to sleep with another couple, they too are pondering the same thing and I expect applying the same measure against us. So yes, honey, I thought she was attractive.

Since we don't split up, but play together, we have found we've had to be more accepting in our perspective of the other's play partner since couples come as a package deal. While not going so far as to admit we've sometimes had to "take one for the team", but since I find we are usually attracted most to those similar to each other, there have been times when Mrs. Fours has had to settle for guys that are older then myself and both larger in body and smaller in other areas that I know she normally wouldn't gravitate towards if we swung separate. It has not been an issue since we both enjoyed ourselves anyway because it was still someone different as well as us putting more emphasis on the person then their body and looks.

My wife and I have often been curious about the people the other of us has been attracted to. And we've often talked about it in a fun way. And, in answering her question about my choice for the moment, "it's about being different and she certainly was!"