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Thanks!! I'm sure they will be some jealousy issues since both of us has never had other partners. We are going to ease into it try out the clubs first dance,flirt,watch,play with each other most of important TALK to each other.

I feel this site attracts some pretty hard core swingers. Many are the type of swingers we all yearn to become. There's almost no jealousy and most people seem genuinely happy to watch their significant other enjoy themselves. What I am wondering is how often you actually reach orgasm while swinging? Is it most of the time? My husband is pretty hard core but rarely cums with other women. I do on occassion but definitely more often I do not. I enjoy the sex but don't climax. Is this normal?

SLS has a club listing that can be searched. Sort options include by city or distance (from your zip code). There are quite a few for NYC proper. Current Swinger Clubs list

Don't be so sure. As someone who used to suffer from extreme jealousy, it hasn't ever reared its ugly head. Communication and trust is the enemy of jealousy. Even if it does pop up, its communication and trust that will knock it back down. Good luck!

We both do virtually every time. Of course, Angel is a heavy squirter and can orgasm on demand without being touched or touching herself... It's pretty hot to watch when she's in the mood to demonstrate...... T

That's one of the great joys of having mfm threesomes. I love the extra lubrication when I am second.

Honestly, I think the first thing you need to do is talk about sex. An open, honest, frank and non-judgemental conversation, fully dressed and without erotic intent. Just a calm, open conversation about sex. Once you can do that, you can move on more in-depth topics like sexual desires and fantasies, which can reasonably lead to a conversation about swinging. You can start as simply as "Dear, I'd like to talk to you about sex." Perhaps move toward: "I'd like to know what you enjoy/desire during sex." (Generally people love talking about themselves.) Depending on your wife's personality and upbringing, you may get some push back, ranging from blushing to outright refusal. Don't try to force it. Be gentle, sincerely interested and, above all, set aside this ulterior motive of talking about swinging for now. Just honestly try to learn more about her inner sexual world and share yours with her. You may be surprised what you learn.

My late wife didn't want to take birth control pills (because she was breast feeding) after our first was born. We quit swinging and restricted ourselves to oral climaxes until we were ready to have our second child. I don't think it's unusual to restrict swinging after a child is born. In fact, it's probably a good idea. New parents get a little busy, as I remember.

Swinging is a TEAM SPORT. SHE didn't want to do it anymore? YOU put an end to it by "I messed around and was talking to a girl". NOT swinging, you were cheating on her at the worst time possible (while she is pregnant). You seem to try and downplay that you tried to change teams on her. If she says no, then at least for the foreseeable future, you are on the bench. Trying to force it on her WILL make things worse. You should be spending all of your spare time focusing on her and your soon to be born child and not thinking about swinging. You MIGHT be able to start later on, but unless you want to be single and not see your child on a regular basis, swinging (and ANY sex outside of your relationship with her) is postponed until she says otherwise. Instead, I think it is safe to say that you need to greatly improve your trust and communication with your wife, or she won't be your wife for long. Good luck but your family should ALWAYS come before swinging. Stay focused on her and you MIGHT be able to swing again in the future. Of course, if swinging is more important, then what I said doesn't matter. Good luck and let us know how things go.

You play (without her or her agreement), you PAY! Child support and alimony will put a bigger crimp in your style than waiting till her hormones settle down and she's once again confident about her body. She's now the mother of your child, treat her like she's more than your wingman or the bait to get you laid. Believe it or not, there really ARE more important things in this world than strange sex. Establishing a family, caring for a child and making a secure and happy home for the kid takes priority over swinging. You may not know it but your "lifestyle" started to change the minute that little fishy of yours scored with her egg. Get over yourself, swinging is recreation, baby and family are LIFE!!!!

I think it's really hot to slide in to her used cum filled pussy.

You are right I did judge.. I was thinking that they were not good enough for her.. I know that is not the best thought to have, but I own those.. We were really getting our feet under us and letting go of preconceived ideas about sex.. and then Bam.. turns out I still get them. Communication is key for us, I am the talker in the relationship and I seem to be the one that gets bent more than my spouse. Thanks for pointing out my judgement I did not see it.. Caution I am a man in progress. Constructive criticism may be taken poorly by myself... But don't worry I will get over me..