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Hi Gang, We've been in the Lifestyle for going on 5 1/2 years now, and we've played with couples, single females, and single males. We've enjoyed all aspects of these fun times. Lately, I've been feeling more and more excitement and arousal in seeing my wife being fucked by another man. It's been getting more and more interesting, and I have more and more feelings of compersion (and less "hey, I'm left out"). It's totally hot to watch her take another man, revel in the sexual feelings and lose herself in the pleasure he's giving her. Making sounds she has NEVER made with me, and fucking him for HER pleasure, not mine (although it's SOOO hot to watch). I'm not sure what has cause this rather interesting change of arousal and interest patterns, but I wondered if any of you have gone through this as well. No cuckolding here, but just when there's a guy she wants to fuck, I TOTALLY enjoy setting it up for her and watching (and participating) her be completely satisfied. The change from even Steven to loving when she gets it has been totally non-volitional and I wonder if any of you others, male or female, have gone through the same?

My last long time girlfriend and her husband are LDS. We even occasionally did MFM. I'd say, most are just people like everyone else.

This is an assumption but...Your name has the issue listed. LDS is not just another religion. Stepping out of the comfort zone, which is small and very restrictive, is nearly impossible. This isn't a Sunday church. It is nearly every day from birth. Before you will ever get her to openly talk about sex, this wall needs to come down. Good luck with that.

I have noticed that the majority of women on this site, and most dating sites, are not interested in seeing dick pics, at least not right away. Here's my take on it (women correct me if I'm wrong)... Men are visual and women are more cerebral. Men love to see pictures of naked ladies! They are like puppy dogs. They see a pussy and go, "I want that". They assume (wrongly in most cases), that women will respond the same way, so they post pictures of their junk, thinking that's what females want to see, because pictures turn THEM on. Women on the other hand tend to get turned on by the mysterious. Maybe that's why ladies like wrapped presents and read romantic, erotic novels. The mind is one of the most powerful erogenous zones for women. Unfortunately, a lot of guys just don't get it. They are also probably the ones who also are in it only for their own enjoyment, and care little about pleasing their partners. C'mon men, grow up!

I had talked to my wife for ages about swinging, all with no luck, but she was always into the idea when we were having sex. A few years later on holiday in Florida we met a guy who ran the local picture gallery, he took a shine to her and I finally convinced her to fuck him. Holiday fever and excitement took over and She agreed but I couldn't watch. This was half way through our time there. She told me all about it and she knew how excited it made me when she recounted the sex with him. After a lot a discussion she agreed to fuck him whilst I watched. I spoke to the guy explaining the situation and he also agreed provided I just watched, which was more than fine by me. I still remember that for me special moment. I was so nervous, almost shaking. I sat in a chair in our hotel room a little to the side, she didn't want eye contact with me she said. When the moment came and she spread her legs and he moved above her between them although I couldn't see the actual moment of penetation, when he pushed forward she raised her hips and gasped, and held his hips with both hands, I knew he was then in her. He stayed still for some time before starting. I almost came in my trousers. I looked at her face she had her eyes closed but I could see in her expression what she had just experienced. I just could not believe what I was seeing, to me it was the greatest sexual charge I had ever had. He was very good with her, aware that she and also me were so very nervous. It was the most exciting pit of stomach churning feeling I have ever had. Since that time I have watched her with many men it always turns me on, but never like that very first time.

You definitely need to resolve why you aren't getting as much oral as you would like before doing anything else, are you shaven down there or trimmed? Could be that hair puts him off maybe? Not expecting you to answer that here of course but something to think about. My wife will usually whisper into my ear "I shaved my pussy today" while we're having dinner or watching tv, then I know she definitely wants a long oral session and there's no way I'm getting out of it lol, but like most have already said I also love giving oral, I prefer it to receiving to be honest.

OK, I'm going to wade in on this one since it seems to be an issue with MANY women. C'mon guys, get with it! It is a well know fact that women don't always have orgasms through intercourse. Some women never will. However, I have never encountered a woman who doesn't cum from oral stimulation, if performed properly. Why is it OK for you to get your rocks off, but not her? Guys, stop being so selfish and learn how to please your partner. I don't think I'm the exception to the rule, however, my wife says that NONE of her previous lovers EVER spent the time and effort to please her orally the way I do, and she loves me all the more for it. I also get more action because of it. Stargazer, if you are "doing it" multiple times per week, but only getting licked once a month, you need to be more emphatic about your needs. You are sucking him EVERY time you have sex you claim. Why can't he do the same. Certainly helps with the lube before "doing it", wouldn't you agree? You need to sit down and have a good talk with your partner before and during sex. Be nice about it, but convey to him that he has to stop being so damn selfish and self-centred!