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As a public service, I am adding the text of messages received at our SCZ and SLS profiles just within the last ten days!. Guys, just do not do shit like this: Exhibit A: A first message, "How far will JoAnn travel to meet a guy?" Now really, there is no way of answering this frankly without making this clown feel entitled. So JoAnn pushed her tongue into her cheek and replied, "First, I am able to speak for myself. I do not need my husband to speak for me. How far I will travel would depend upon whom I would expect to meet at the end of the journey." Exhibit B: "I'm a 49 year old clean cut man in Pittsburgh. I'm game! Free member so xxxxxxx at g mail if interested and we can chat." Really? Too cheap to buy a membership at SLS? If you invite my wife out to dinner, should she take her credit card with her? Exhibit C: "Liked your pictures. I would love to meet you both and play." Likes our pictures? We'll fall down on our knees and worship at your feet. He had, incidentally, no pictures at his profile that we could like or dislike. Exhibit D: "Would enjoy getting to know you better let me know if you would like to talk by e-mail" Another "free" member. Knowing that his membership status limits the number of messages he can send, he wants us to give away our e-mail address. Exhibit E: "I would send you a picture, but I cannot figure out how to do it. Send me your email and I will send you some." OK, we want to meet a guy who is so clueless, he cannot find a way to use the facility of the SDC Web site? Sure we do.

Any guy who is NOT protective of his wife at a swingers club is totally useless.

Derived from last weekend's experience at a swingers' club: Guys. Do not, please: * Moan and groan about how difficult things are for a guy in "The Lifestyle". * Ask a man if his female friend might be interested in play. A woman can decide for herself and does not need a man's permission.

Would agree with GoldCocouple, especially being open to the idea of a full mfmf swap. Better yet just be open to whatever comes your way.

@ Erik13. That could go either way. Mrs Doc and I were at Trapeze in FLL one night in a curtained bed area. Mrs Doc was giving me a leisurely bj when I felt a hand on my foot and calf. I opened my eyes to see a woman had pulled the curtain aside and had reached in to touch me. I swear, all I did was smile at her. She dropped her towel (very nice body) and crawled up beside. The only words she said were, "may I"? to my wife who nodded yes. The lady then proceeded to blow me to completion and swallowed. She patted my thigh, picked up her towel and walked away. That had never happened before and hasn't since but what a memory and NOT an erection killer.

PROMOTE THE BOOK!! We thought it was great! Hell read her book...there promoted it for you.

We actually got a response today that read " sorry but we are looking for HWP. Good luck!" Wouldn't just saying "we're not a match" be a little more polite? Maybe I need thicker skin!

This literally made me Lol!!! I've kissed women before during and after sex. If they don't want to kiss my dick probably isn't going to get hard because I'm going to interpret that as they don't like me. Also I trust my wife and she trusts me so we don't really have rules anymore other than making sure the other person is having fun and we avoid others who don't live by that. We have Facebook friends of people we just met. Who cares? As long as you two trust each other that's all that matters.

Whichever comes first, of course. Usually it would be MFM (since men in the L/S are...easier to find). Finding a single woman in the lifestyle...well there is a reason they are called 'unicorns'. Finding a real unicorn can be easier to find at times. This is the reason so many couples look for other couples. There are lots of other couples, but very few single women looking for couples. Since you both love it when the other person is enjoying themselves, it doesn't really matter which comes first, but if you are only looking for either a MFM or a FMF, the MFM is MUCH easier to arrange.

You are NOT WEAK. Anger is an expected emotion, but you are not weak. Why lie to your friends? Tell them what happened, that he was cheating on you. Just because they are swingers, doesn't make them any less friends (hey, we're swingers too)...you'll most likely be surprised with how much support the give to you I found this on the net and think you should read it, especially the day 1 to 6 months: Day 1 – 6 months (some may make it through this period in 3 months) Trauma Stage: A period of numbness, shock, and overwhelming grief. Some may call it the melt down period. You are in crisis. Both the hurt spouse and the offending spouse are unable to think clearly. It’s important not to make any big decisions during this time, while you are in the emotional trauma of the moment, because these will likely be decisions you will regret later. Neither is it smart to think that you can solve every thing and heal the marriage while you are in this heightened emotional state. The first thing you need to think of is stabilizing yourself. Are you sleeping? Are you eating? Take care of yourself. If you stabilize yourself and have some guidance, you can begin to do some work towards healing as a couple, but it’s a good idea to put some distance between you and the initial emotions. You are likely to experience a myriad of ups and downs. You’ll go from vigilance to save the marriage, to struggling with thoughts of anger, hatred and revenge, to just wanting to give up and cry alone in a dark room. You may experience all of this or only one side of it. Don’t underestimate the physical impact of this experience. It’s common to experience weight loss, loss of sleep, and general weakness. Be sure to get some nutrition in your body and some exercise. If you are the betrayed spouse, do not blame yourself. THE AFFAIR IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn’t deserve for this to happen to you. If the marriage is to be healed, the person who had the affair must break off their affair completely, and they should do it in a way that is agreeable to their spouse. It is their business!!! Here's the link to the rest: Stages Of Healing From Infidelity - Beyond Affairs See, everything you are feeling is normal. Just be sure to take care of yourself and talk. develop a support system. We're all here to help you get through this. Wish we could give you a big hug, but just know that you are not alone and you are not weak.

Hi If I have been with a Special Couple I have known for a long time. MMMMMMM I LOVE all the juices that will flow out of her as she slowly rides my cock and all the juices will flow over my clean shaved cock and balls, and down the crack of my ass. Covering me with all that sweet cum. Then she will lick every drop off of me.

Challenge yourself to say hi to at least 4-5 other couples. Everyone there is there to meet other couples so saying hi is perfectly acceptable. You can always add other comments to the end of the 'hi'...Is this your first house party? How long have you been doing this? You look great! Come here often? Nice tits! Just about anything you say after the hi will put the ball into their court and usually get them to start talking and you only have to listen. Don't be a wall flower (easier said than done). Everyone is there for the same reason you are, to meet other couples, so just do it. There's almost never a wrong thing to say as an introduction, and if there isn't a connection, you can just say: well it was great meeting you and move on to the next couple. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. While it is hard when you are shy and quiet, just say hi and see where it goes. By the way: Hi!

I'm so impressed with the above post. Recognizing that you have a weakness and giving your wife the opportunity to deal with it from a position of reality is so commendable. So many in your situation choose to take the easy way out and lie about the situation. Giving folks the opportunity to forgive is important. Problem is you can't forgive someone for something that they haven't come clean about.

This is a pretty terrible situation. It's been said and probably true that cheaters are going to cheat. It's probably not that he loves you any less. He is tearing himself apart inside because he doesn't know why he has this sick need. Our mental health is maintained by a complex system of chemical releases. This 'health' is not perfect and in many people, the wiring is kinda fucked up. The reason I understand this is I have spent about 30 years trying to understand why my brain is constantly telling me to do horrible shit. My wife, bless her soul, is the worlds most understanding woman. She has supported me thru this life with great understanding. I would not expect this of anyone else. You need to do what you need in order to be happy. Tough decisions ahead. I just wanted to help you understand that this may not be all his fault, it's not your fault at all and has nothing to do with how beautiful and sexy you are. Don't blame yourself.

I've done a "Thank You" kiss on the forehead after cumming, I'm too tall to reach the neck while in missionary. I wouldn't be fucking someone I did not like but the kiss is more in appreciation for her sharing herself. However all bets are uncertain with longer lasting social contact, you all four sharing the same social media?

What gets me are the people who contact US, email US with their interest, unlock their pictures, and then radio silence after we say we reciprocate their interest. Maybe SLS could replace the little birdie with a cricket...

I hate that. I think SLS should change it to once it's viewed, it is read.

Start by reading just about everything you can in Curious About Swinging and ask any and all the questions you may still have (all questions are now answered for the same small fee: $0.00). Here's the short version to start you off: Swinging is all about love, trust and communication. You can't have too much of any of these. Swinging will make a great relationship greater, but, like the magnifying glass that it is, will greatly show any flaws that the relationship may have. Swinging will not 'fix' a damaged relationship (unless you call ending it a 'fix'). Swinging is at best a hobby, it should never be more than that. Set your rules and limits and NEVER exceed them unless you both have the chance to talk about it outside of a sexual situation. Your rules and limits should continue to evolve over time. If one person says no to anything or anyone for any reason, the answer for both of you is no...no questions, no repercussions. Never 'take one for the team'. Don't rush, there is no need to try and get to the end. Enjoy the trip as much as the destination. Your should always think about your partner first before even your own wants. When you are with another couple, be sure to 'check in' with your partner and make sure that they are okay with everything. Always keep talking with your partner. I'm sure that more will come to me, but this is a good start. Read, learn, talk, repeat. Good luck and let us know how you two are progressing!

Regarding your second poing about asking the man if his partner is ready, I think it's important to mention that when talking to couples ALWAYS talk to them both. I've also seen some single guys who seem to just approach the lady and ignore the husband. I find with most couples BOTH need to be comfortable with you, and let them kind of provide the opening.

Wow... lemme think... if you have read my blogs you kinda know, but for those that have not perused the blogs. I (among other folks, no related, and no well known to me) I would be VERY shy, I didn't think I looked all that great, and had a lack of confidence. Now I can chat a bit, am still some what shy (in person) am a lil more confident and if I know I NEED to be a lil more aggressive (Flirty, touchy feelie) I can be and have enough confidence to pull it off. It added extra excitement that we didn't know existed (we were both virgins and taught each other, What a class :P )