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Just to be Herr Contrarian, I'm not always happy to get those kinds of pictures. I see a lot of crass, gauche, and raunchy photos go by and they fail to arouse. People who put of "hardcore photos" or who just have body part shots get downgraded in my sorting algorithm of potential sex partners. Just as men shouldn't lead with dick pics, a woman who wants to catch my attention should not lead with her posterior, pussy, or rack. Explicit or hardcore photos that arouse or impress are rare (for me). Don't worry and slow your roll. We'll get there. I much prefer tasteful nudes, playful pinups, and boudoir style shots. I also want to see the face! I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Even candid shots of happy couples enjoying a night out or hanging on the beach are better than a lot of what I see go by. A dollop of dignity and class go a long way with me. Of course, I'm also an oddball in that a hot woman dropping her dress and saying "let's party!" is not going to lead to me throwing her on a bed. I like to take my time, flirt, make out, kiss, and be generally sexy before sex. I could sit on a couch between two attentive hot women for hours and be totally happy. So... not a representative sample.

Believe it or not there are "angel couples" out there who bring first timers along. Our first experience was with such a couple and we will be forever grateful. They were both very attractive and skilled. Each act was presented in the form of a question and approval/consent. Everyone had a great time.

Peacock - wear something that will draw people to you. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate and it needs to be something you still feel comfortable in, but if you can do something to draw people to you so that they make the first move you'll have an easier time and be less likely to try to attach yourself to the one couple you know. How to start conversations: Hey I love your...... (boobs, outfit, etc) Hey your ______ is so hot (husband, wife, outfit, ass, etc) Is this your first party here, too? This is our first party here and it's a little intimidating (most people will respond favorably to this type of approach, it creates vulnerability and opens doors - and really in the end the goal is to get about as vulnerable as we can - aka. naked). Move around - don't plant yourself too long in one place, especially not alone, it makes you look bored or scared. If you look either of those people are less likely to approach you. Look for other people who look as uncomfortable as you feel and do them (and you) a favor by approaching them. Think of it as doing a good deed.

I would definitely let them know it's your first time there. It will likely lead to a tour of the place and possibly an introduction or two to other couple who can help show you the ropes and introduce you further... way better than sitting in a corner all night because you are too scared to introduce yourselves to someone. I'd suggest going with options open. Don't expect to play but be ready to do so should the opportunity present itself in a way that you want to take advantage of.

Why even wait until the morning after? Talking about what just happened is one of the hottest things (IMHO) we do. Comparing notes on what someone did that was new or spectacular (or not so great) is exciting and fun. If you are having problems with communicating with each other, there could be a deeper issue here. Who is having the problem and in what way?

I was diagnosed with testicular cancer when I was 40 and had one testicle removed. Prior to the surgery I was always concerned about premature ejaculation, but afterward I found ejaculation through regular penetrative sex elusive at best. It turned me into a fricken' rock star! Babe decided to up her game and always ensures I climax, but its hard work, takes time, and 90% of the time it only happens through oral. As a result, I don't ever expect to climax when I'm with anyone other than her and don't feel any women I might swing with are obligated to "get me off." I just want to have some fun with them and make them cum. For me, swinging is just "heightened sociability" and very adult fun.

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our bareback rule is easy! LOL Bareback rule 1 Don't go bareback with playmates Bareback rule 2 Refer to rule 1 Bareback rule 3 Don't get caught by the other partner missing rule 1 Bareback rule 4 Always remember -- bareback isn't even fun when riding a horse.