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Key in swinging, you don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable with... including shave. Personally, like you I have a lot of body hair. I'll trim, so that my pubes are roughly the same length as the rest of the hair in that area but that's all. I feel it makes me look presentable and I haven't gotten any complaints. My wife doesn't shave at all, and a lot of guys compliment her on it.

We've been doing this for over a decade and have never heard that term. It's wonderfully descriptive though and we'd like to think it could have been applied to us on occasion.

Yes it will look weird and comical if you have hair everywhere else. If a woman doesn't like hair on a man they probably won't be back for a second date. Some women think body hair on a man is sexy. Some women think it's very unattractive. Just be natural and let the woman choose. Ask a woman how much maintenance is needed to shave your body everyday:) I prefer women to be natural. I love hairy pussies. I think hairy armpits are sexy. A woman with a mustache is not very sexy at all! I understand shaving for a "clean" look in their bikini on the beach in the summer. Smooth legs are sexy to see.

When I first met my husband he didn’t shave anything. He isn’t that hairy except his pubes. The guys I dated before him were a mixture of things including the first time I was with someone completely shaved. That freaked me a little. I did joke to my husband about the forest. I myself am trimmed. When I became closer to him I told him I was going to shave him. He let me give him s haircut. His balls aren’t that hairy I just clipped a few long hairs. Since we have been with others he is more aware of what he looks like. He asked me if he should shave it all and I said no. I recently went for a Brazilian and I felt strange after.

When we go to a club we don't have sex that day. But days before that, or even the day before? No, we don't refrain.

I only shave the shaft and scrotum. I trim the rest. But then, I'm a bit of a bear, and would look weird if I shaved all of my pubic hair off. I use a beard trimmer to keep my body hair short and neat, lest I look like a Wookie. Babe used to shave but, at this stage, just plucks every few days. She claims its faster.

This should be interesting and a learning experience. I hope? I don't have much body hair but my bush, and Riders, are normal and get a little bushy. We use a grooming razor to trim rather close but leave some. We have both tried shaving and had problems with nicks and ingrown hairs as well as the sharp incoming hair if we don't shave often that requires repeating the process. I'm told that it gets better with time but we just don't want to take that much time shaving baby smooth. I suggest that you and yours find what works for you and looks good to you. Might be some fun playtime for you both? lol Perhaps grooming so that you don't have an obvious tree clearing line at the upper forest. lol. We thought of waxing but .......... OMG... the maintenance, costs and irritation goes back to.... ain't worth it. Most important? Do what YOU are comfortable with and don't worry about what others might be thinking. Good luck and let us know.

Firstly we would like to say that we've really enjoyed reading the stories and forums here. This is one of the reasons for posting here. A little about us. We have been together since school and I (the husband) has been with 3 others, including my wife and she has only been with me. We both have fantasies and for a while we've been fantasising about swapping with another couple. We've tried advertising and we have been inundated with messages from guys (which have been extremely flattering), but couples have been more elusive. We want to be completely honest from the start, but it seems that while guys seem to find our lack of partners irresistible, couples run a mile! Why is this? Are we missing something? We feel its important to say as obviously its a big step for us. Any thoughts or are we just getting everything completely wrong?

I think we need to buy a magic wand. A story I never told anyone and I mean no one. I found my mothers toy while looking for eyebrow tweezers. I knew about toys. Never had one for myself. Couldn’t imagine my parents having one. Do parents have sex I thought at the time. Home alone I had my first toy and it broke. I washed it and returned it to her drawer. I checked a few weeks later she had a new one.

I built this "chair" and those flexible brackets would have been really useful.

My thoughts exactly. He may have gotten off fast but he should have realized that while his penis was finished for the night, he wasn't. He's still got fingers and a mouth to work with and should have done so.

I started a thread about this a while back https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/59658-why-do-the-men-cum-so-fast-with-my-wife/ Funny thing is my wife brought this up a few days ago. She agreed with me it is no fun for her when it is in/out done.

Shot in the dark: "Roman bias." In ancient Rome being the penetrator is relations with another man was "manly," but being the penetratee was considered "effeminate" and worthy of derision. Likewise, in much of modern America the pejorative "cocksucker" remains a direct insult / challenge to a man's masculinity. No one yells "cocksuckee!" as an insult. I suspect these men have absorbed some one-sided notions (prejudices) about same-sex male interactions and have a psychological bias against admitting they are bi-curious. They may be thinking "if I'm getting a blowjob or I'm the one doing the penetrating, I'm still a manly man straight guy, right?" I've met some hypermasculine gay men (often clad in leather) in life, so I don't think of gay men as automatically "effeminate," but the prejudice runs deep. Summation: they are lying to themselves.

What bryonboru says is correct. If a guy ejaculates and decides the night is over, he is either insensitive or inexperienced. There are at least 999 different ways continuing after an orgasm.

In our opinion your new playmate was selfish. Sometimes the new guy has anxiety and can not get hard, other times they do not last long. Either way he should of continued the fun another and made sure you enjoyed yourself.

Genital closeup shots do nothing for us other than make us think maybe he/she/they are hiding something else.

I get that men are more visual, but I can honestly say seeing a pic of just a pussy does zero for this guy!

We have had a few cheap vibrators that died after a while. Last year I purchased a Magic wand for my wife. she loved it but on the 3rd or 4th use there was a sudden bright flash and spark then a burnt electrical smell. considering where it was a the time it was a little disconcerting to my wife. Fortunately it was replaced under warranty and the new one has been buzzing along just find.

My girl and I have killed vibrators. Its more due to cheap manufacturing.

I guess it depends on the people you are with. I have at times done that, but other times I have pulled out and cum on the belly. Alot of women like the cum on their titties. So like I said, it depends on who you are with and their feelings about it. But if you are uncomfortable with it, YOU MUST USE A CONDOM and and also the other male must use a CONDOM, and make that a rule up front. But you must talk it over with you other half.

I have to respectfully disagree with you here, saying that "condoms are definitely safer than not using one at all." is just not true with the STD's one is most likely to encounter. If it makes one feel better to believe this that is fine by me, but this belief is not supported by reputable studies. For example studies of HPV transmission rates with or without a condom show no measurable difference and studies of herpes transmission rates that show a difference, show only a slight difference, and these are the two most common incurable STD's one is likely to encounter. Therefore, I don't see any problem with someone stating whether they use condoms or not, or even giving there opinion of whether they think others should use them or not, as it really boils down to each individuals determination of the risks involved and how much protection, if any, they believe condoms will provide. I just do not see where anyone is better served by people censoring their posts to perpetuate the politically correct myth that all swingers use, or should use condoms because it is a personal decision and many do not. As for people who might say, "Well, they don't use one, so we won't either.", if that is their decision, then I don’t see the problem, because it is only a matter of time before they meet up with other swingers that prefer not to use condoms or even those that out right refuse to, so they will then have to decide anyway. I find it interesting that in the swinging community you run into as many people who are as baffled by the people that think condoms will protect them as people bewildered by those that chose not to use them.

We have gone without condoms twice with couples we've known a while. But of the 2 times, I didn't cum one of the times and pulled out and came on her tummy the other (at her request). Both times Tam's playmates came inside her. So, when we choose to play natural.....we don't mind where the finish is

So do we, although Sheryl's prefers to have her playmates cum in her mouth.

I leave that up to Fem D...but I don't have a problem with it.