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I will be 63 later this month, Mrs. FL is already 65. We look around at our cohort--those with whom we attended school, co-workers,etc.--and observe how different people age differently. Yes, some of our cohort have died. Yes, some of our cohort have aged and become infirm. We consider ourselves fortunate indeed. There is something of a "use it or lose it" aspect to aging. Sex is certainly on that list. To the extent that the LS keeps sex interesting and exciting for both of us, we'll continue. Too many of our cohort became sexually boring, bored, and quit...some decades ago. Eventually, the physiology of aging will win. In the meantime, sex is part of our lives, and the LS is part of our sexual lives.

This is but another reason that we make it clear that there will be no play on the first date. This way there is no pressure on either couple if things don't go as smoothly as they all hope (it rarely does). We do have some code phrases that says that one of us just isn't interested. Since we have lots of animals (dog, cat, chickens, ducks, sheep, pig...e-i-e-i-o) if one of us wants to end the night, we just ask the other if they remembered to feed the sheep for them...'I thought I asked you to take care of this, oh, we better go feed them' Our favorite is our dogs excuse (and mentioned above): "Look, a squirrel!!!!!"

Did anyone notice that the responses above are from some of the frequent contributors to other posts? These people offer sound advice and commentary drawn from their experience and wisdom and I, for one, am grateful. I'm 72, Mrs. Worn is 63 and we have not entertained others in our bed for a few years for a number of reasons. We have an excellent sex life and hope to keep it hot for many more years, knowing that aging is just like gravity--not only a concept, but the law.

Well, it was... Interesting. And, while being a bit of curve ball, ended up being hot. All three couples were a bust. Couple One: we didn't like the way they related to one another; it was uncomfortable. Not at all our cup of tea. They also smelled like cigarette smoke, which makes my nose itch and my throat scratchy. I don't care if people smoke afterward, but, before and during sex? No. Just no. Babe finds that unappealing, too. Couple Two: they were nice and pleasant to talk, but the conversation was bland. It wasn't a match. We all kept it brief and kept moving. Couple Three: were corralled into a corner by couple one before we could chat and remained ensconced in conversation all night long. More power to them! But, we ended up having some sexy fun, anyways. Babe turned a lot of heads. We ended up in a very free-flowing conversation with two other couples (one from the "core" group; one new) conversation that had other people float in and out of it, which moved to the dance floor. It turned into a six person bump and grind, which was a lot of fun. Babe loved it. But, then we lost track of the other couples so we migrated to a play room with several couples in it and started an extended, hot, sweaty bout of vigorous sex. Babe was super-turned on and responsive. One coupled moved right up next to use so they could politely perv on our action while getting it on themselves. The woman reached over and grabbed my bicep when she came. When that couple left the two couples we'd lost track of showed up. I wouldn't call it a "swap" per se, but we all had sex with our own partners in very close proximity to one another with a lot of wandering hands and mouths. It was extremely hot. We both loved it. Afterward, when we were dressed and grabbing snacks and re-hydrating, I had a feel good moment. I have some body image issues and Babe telling me I'm good looking hasn't really sunk in. She's my wife. She has to say that! Anyways, there was a triad at the party who are regulars. One of them is a tall and fit Asian gal who is just sensational. I turned around to find her discreetly checking me out. I'm still new enough to find a woman clad only in heels and a micro-thong novel, titillating, and startling all at once. Our eyes met and she gave me a giant grin before sauntering off. It made me think: "I'm not hopeless." So, we'll be back after the holidays for another go!

We've been to a few parties at our local club, but have just enjoyed the sexy atmosphere and played with one another to date. This is partly due to our being slow movers and settling in, and party due to the infamously isolationist "Seattle Freeze." Recently our club revamped its website with a social-media style "members area" and we've been astonished by the attention and openness it has generated. We are going to a party tonight and have had three different couples who are also going intimate they'd like to "chat." All three have profiles that appeal in one way or another. We're at a point where we are ready to cut-loose and play. Wish us luck! Note: we had two other couples indicate they'd like to meet for dinner sometime, too! We're hermits on weekdays. Its crazy!

I'm not really an exhibitionist, but in the right situation, a place where everyone is naked, I like being naked. I'm fit and will walk holding a towel, but not cover myself or lie on a chaise with my legs slightly parted. If people, men or women look, or even stare I like it. But I've never had sex in front of strangers, although again in the right situation I wouldn't mind. Probably it would be considered a good performance.

Whenever she wants to, whenever it isn't fun anymore, or shortly after we die, whichever comes first.

Having recently hit the big 6-0, we are starting to wonder how long we can keep this monkey business going. With an assist from modern pharmaceuticals, everything still works. Have you thought about the age when you will retire from the lifestyle?

For us it’s an individual choice. We are in this to allow the other to experience and fulfill their fantasies. When one half of a couple starts interjecting their attractions on their significant other they will find that this whole thing will go south in a hurry. In our case she has sole choice of who she has sex with, and I have sole choice on who I have sex with, and we do our best not to be judgmental about that choice. Now that’s not to say, and it rarely occurs, but if one of us has negative personal information concerning a person that the other is considering being with we will inform them of that information. But that is limited to something that the other doesn’t know about that person. As far as physical characteristics, age, or appearance, that would be solely up to them. The adage is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Unless you want her to start picking the women that you can be with, don’t pick the men that she wants to be with. Swinging is about open and honest communication, if you start criticizing her choice of playmates, you will soon find her unwilling to share her fantasies with you or to take part in this with you. As long as my wife is safe, as long as she’s engaged in something that she wants to be engaged in, with a person that she wants to be engaged with, the choice is hers.

In my experience, when I am with my wife immediately after she's been with a guy, I can notice a slight difference. By the next day, that difference is gone. The vagina is a remarkably elastic organ.

You said, "I'm still new enough to find a woman clad only in heels and a micro-thong novel, titillating, and startling all at once." I'm still new enough to find that engaging as well. And I've been doing it for decades. If you ever get jaded at that, wheel yourself to the hospital . . .

I'll be 69 soon, and I'm still going . . . Not as often as I used to, but still in the game.

Update: We have decided on Hedo. Last week of March. We are filling out passport apps now -- hopefully with enough time to have them by the trip. I'm discussing linking up with a group that is going that same week. I'm told that is the best way to go as they take care of you, etc. I contacted them and they were very welcoming of us even though we aren't exactly in the lifestyle. My wife is super excited about dressing in costume for the theme nights. Will post updates here as I have them. Thanks to everyone for the advice!

We plan to stop when other couples are no longer interested in seeing us naked.

You asked, "Is normal to be more nervous on the run up to a second meeting with people you've already swapped with?" That's not odd at all. Even though you had a successful first run, you're anticipating how the next one is going to go. It's normal to have butterflies. Enjoy yourself, good luck!

Orgasm marathons! Once of our kinks is orgasm control and forced orgasms. Babe is extremely fit (think bikini or fitness model) and her orgasms could be described as "hulking out." When she cums she cries out, thrashes, tears at the sheets, and every muscle in her body flexes and becomes distinct. A hitachi magic wand and a combination of progressively large butt-plugs and dongs causes her to have repeated and increasingly intense orgasms. Our record is 14 in 51 minutes. She is happy for days afterwards says it has the added bonus of being better core and posterior workout than her actual workout! When in public we've done less ambitious sessions: 5-6 orgasms in 20 minutes. People tend to stare rapt. And I've been chatted up by a few ladies afterward.... We'd like, at some point, to invite people to put their mouths and hands on her, and to kiss her, when we do it. We've also discussed having a gentleman or two stand in for the dongs in the interorgasm "recovery periords." Sometimes I do that, anyways.

"We have to get home to the…………dog" (sorta true) "Thank you but we never play on the first date" (NOT true) "Thank you but we're just not feeling it" (true) "Thank you but we have a 7:00 am t-time" (unlikely) "Look, squirrel"!!!!! (and run like hell!!)

I used my magic mine for many years rubbing it up and down my labia lips and finally vibrating my clit until I exploded. I prefer having a well-trained set of lips and a long tongue satisfying me. Second if there is well trimmed fingernails experienced hands available I don’t mind being fingered in both of my orifices as well. I always keep both my middle fingernails cut short so I can stimulate my lovers prostate whenever his ass is available. Plus sometimes when I’m either getting fucked or licked I can stimulate my own ass with my middle finger. My male slave makes all of our BDSM toys and keeps me supplied with personal vibrators as well. He is an eclectic taste in personal dildos that I always put to good use especially the ones that stick to the shower wall so I can impale him on them. To my surprise he presented me with a cock and ball choke chain made from a chain that goes from your keys to your wallet. After a few modifications I can wrap it around his cock and balls and then his penis again and yank it either bringing him to his knees or on his toes. Toys have their place but whenever I can I prefer an experience mouth giving me pleasure even if it’s just a long since she was French kiss.

Usually things just "go with the flow". I/we think it's kind of odd to ask permission first. If it's something we don't like we'll let you know. My wife never liked anal and it was something she wouldn't let me do. We had a playmate that just slid it into her. She liked it and after that she let me have anal with her but I am still jealous to this day that it took another guy to get her to like anal. It was one of those "go with the flow" moments.

I don't own my wife and she's always been free to do what she wishes. When she fucks other men that's her choice and I want her to enjoy sexual freedom.

We actually prefer the type of sex when my wife hooks up with another man but I am there to watch. There is nothing better than watching another man entering your wife.

The wife and I have just started doing this in the last six months. It started by me giving her permission to have fun without asking me first. We discovered after that discussion that there was a whole lifestyle devoted to this, so we have found a couple of web sites that we get advice from, and are exploring and finding our comfort level in this lifestyle. It is something we are both enjoying, and plan to continue with for as long as possible. One of the reasons it works well for us is because my favorite thing has always been to watch her with someone else. We have learned so far that there are all different styles of cuckolding, so we are just trying to figure out which style works for us, or maybe we create our own.